As with anything, you don’t know until you know. I had to learn about the many traits I was seeing and the only way to do that was to read, listen to others, and get help from professionals experienced in them.
My most positive outlook now? What any one says about me does not define who I am. I have gained quite a bit of freedom, as I no longer have to worry about the reactions of others nor about their opinions. I live my life for me and to hell with what any one else has to say about it!