Welcome to stellareddy.xyz

This is my space – my words, my story, my truth.

I’m Stella. I created this site because I needed somewhere to lay it all out, honestly – the pain, the confusion, the long road back to myself. I’m retired now, have been since 2018, and for the first time in years, I’m living life on my own terms. But getting here wasn’t easy. Not even close.

How This Started

Back in 2016, my husband and I were working as building superintendents in Ontario, and had been for about 16 years. It was supposed to be a job. What happened instead became the hardest chapter of my life.

It started small – a disagreement over apartment rules with some tenants. But it didn’t stay small. Over the next nine years, what began as a workplace conflict spiralled into relentless harassment, multiple legal battles, and coordinated online attacks that followed me across seven (7) websites and on social media. Not only did they go after me, but they also went after my family members. There were years where I genuinely didn’t know when – or if – it would end.

I want to be honest about that, because if you’ve ever been through something like this, you know the weight of it. It doesn’t just stay at work. I also lived in the same property. It follows you home. It disrupts your sleep. It rewires the way you hear things, the way you trust people, the way you see yourself.

When they didn’t show in January 2020 for the hearing for the Human Rights complaint they filed, I knew it was time to leave that place, which we did in the Fall of 2020.  We left Ontario completely and moved back home to Newfoundland & Labrador. That was when I truly started healing.

Where I Am Now

In 2025, those harmful sites finally started disappearing. I’m beginning to believe they’ve given up – at least online. I can’t describe the relief of that. It’s like being able to breathe after holding your breath for nearly a decade.

But here’s what I’ve learned: the attacks stopping didn’t automatically make me whole again. Recovery is its own work. And that’s what this site has become – not just a record of what happened, but a living journal of how I’m healing. Slowly. Imperfectly. But genuinely.

Writing as Recovery

The writing you’ll find here is part of my mental health recovery. I started putting my thoughts down because I needed to make sense of what happened to me – how trauma distorted the way I heard people, how it made me question my own judgment, how it left me anxious and second-guessing everything. It reactivated the post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) I already had from decades ago.

Therapy helped immensly. It gave me the terms to research. So did mindfulness practices that taught me to come back to the present moment instead of reliving old wounds. Self-help books about trauma recovery and emotional regulation gave me language for things I’d been feeling but couldn’t name. And a supportive online community reminded me, over and over, that I wasn’t alone in any of this.

Through writing, I’ve gotten my voice back. And honestly? I’ve become someone I actually recognize again.

Why I Share All of This

I share my story because keeping it locked inside nearly broke me. Talking about it – openly, without shame – is how I reclaim it.

I write about the confusion of dealing with people whose behaviour I couldn’t understand at the time. I write about the toll bullying and harassment took on my mental health and my sense of self. I write about the moment I finally chose to stop engaging with their chaos – and the freedom that came with that decision.

If even one person reads something here and feels a little less alone in what they’re going through, this site is doing what I need it to do.

What You’ll Find Here

• Healing from Trauma & Mental Health – How trauma affected the way I thought and trusted, and how therapy and mindfulness helped me rebuild from the inside out.
• Emotional & Narcissistic Immaturity – The patterns I witnessed, how I learned to stop taking them on as my own, and how education helped me understand what I was dealing with.
• Bullying & Harassment – My honest account of what tenant abuse looked like for me, and how naming it helped me take my confidence back.
• Personal Reflections – Journal-style posts about the small, quiet lessons – patience, self-compassion, showing up for yourself even on the hard days.
• Music & Newfoundland Roots – The songs, artists, and traditions that tie me to home and comfort me when words aren’t enough.

What I Hope You Take Away

I hope my words make you feel seen. Maybe you’re in the middle of something awful right now, or maybe you’re on the other side and still picking up the pieces. Wherever you are, I want you to know that healing isn’t a straight line. It’s a slow, sometimes messy process of learning to trust yourself again, finding calm in the noise, and giving yourself permission to take it one small step at a time.

My story is still unfolding. This is where I keep track of it – the move from just surviving to actually, truly thriving.

Browse my writing and resources here:

About Stella Reddy: From Surviving to Thriving – Stella Reddy’s Story

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