This video explores the reality that narcissists are not a single, uniform personality type. Instead, narcissistic traits show up in a wide range of behaviours, motivations, and social styles. While Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a specific clinical diagnosis, many commonly used terms describe recognizable patterns that appear in everyday life, relationships, and conversations.

I had to deal with a narcissist in the workplace who launched a severe smear campaign in my name, turning what should have been a professional environment into a hostile battleground. He wasn’t a coworker or a supervisor — he was a tenant — yet he behaved with the same entitlement, projection, and vindictiveness described in every resource on narcissistic abuse.

He twisted events, spread exaggerated stories, and framed himself as the victim while painting me as the problem. The lies were loud, persistent, and designed to damage my reputation and isolate me from support. The websites were posted for years. What makes it even more validating now is seeing that the same verbal attacks he used on me appear in the applications he later filed against school boards and even his own employers.

His pattern didn’t change — it simply moved from one target to the next. That consistency proves what I lived through wasn’t imagined, exaggerated, or personal. It was a textbook narcissistic smear campaign carried out by someone who treats everyone the same way once they decide to make them an enemy.

As this video explains, I eventually learned to stop worrying about labels — not even the label attached to the person who targeted me — and instead focus on patterns of behaviour. That’s where the truth lives. When you pay attention to what someone consistently does, not what they call themselves or how they present, you finally understand what you’re dealing with.

In my case, the patterns were unmistakable: entitlement, twisting events, smear campaigns, and a constant need to be seen as the victim while causing harm. Once I stepped back and looked at the behaviour itself, everything clicked into place.

It wasn’t about diagnosing him. It was about recognizing the repeated actions that revealed his character.

That shift let me reclaim my perspective, my confidence, and my peace.

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Narcissists don’t all act the same.

Some are loud and confident. Others are quiet, sensitive, and easily offended. Some want attention through success and intelligence. Others want to be seen as the kindest person in the room.

In this video, we break down the different types of narcissists, including the grandiose narcissist, vulnerable or covert narcissist, malignant narcissist, communal narcissist, antagonistic narcissist, somatic narcissist, and cerebral narcissist.

You’ll learn how these narcissistic traits can show up in relationships, conversations, friendships, and everyday life.

A quick note: these labels are not all official clinical diagnoses. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a specific diagnosis, while several of these terms are used to describe different narcissistic traits and patterns.

Sources: American Psychiatric Association, DSM-5-TR, American Psychiatric Association educational resources.