Stella Reddy's Story of Hope

Over the years, I’ve learned firsthand how destructive narcissistic behaviours can be, both in the workplace and online. My journey, which I share openly on my site stellareddy.xyz, has been shaped by these experiences, especially the relentless bullying and cyberbullying I endured from toxic tenants since August 2016.

While these experiences were deeply painful, they also became a powerful education in recognizing and standing up to narcissistic abuse, then and in the future.

I’ve seen how narcissists—especially those with overt or grandiose traits—use manipulation to dominate and exploit others. For example, I’ve written about how some individuals went as far as creating multiple domains using my name in an attempt to harass and intimidate me. Thankfully, many of those sites have disappeared over the past year, a small but meaningful victory in my ongoing healing process.

Recognizing these harmful behaviours is crucial for setting boundaries and protecting your emotional well-being. Here are the seven destructive behaviours I’ve encountered and discussed on my site:

1. Bullying
   I know what it’s like to be targeted by intimidation, threats, and micromanagement. Narcissists use these tactics to instill fear and force compliance. My story of workplace bullying is detailed in my post on Cyberbullying: Stella Reddy’s Story.

2. Lying to Your Face
   I’ve experienced blatant lies, broken promises, and gaslighting. Narcissists often twist facts to suit their narrative and erode the trust and confidence of those around them. It was laid out in their various websites, especially the one in my name, stellareddy.com.

3. Diminishing Your Values
   Narcissists have tried to belittle my empathy and kindness, mocking my values and pressuring me to compromise my principles. I’ve written about how important it is to hold onto your authenticity and self-worth, even when others try to undermine them.

4. Attacking Your Character
   Smear campaigns and character attacks were used to try to isolate me and damage my reputation. I’ve shared how these tactics can estrange you from your sense of self, but also how I found strength in my own truth.

5. Trying to Con You
   Manipulation comes in many forms—projection, guilt-tripping, and false charm. I’ve learned to spot these tactics and refuse to meet unreasonable demands, a lesson I share in my healing journey posts.

6. Acting Like a Child
   Tantrums, rage, and playing the victim are all behaviours I’ve witnessed. Narcissists often act out to spoil special moments or draw attention to themselves, which I discuss in my reflections on toxic dynamics.

7. Eroding Your Freedom of Speech
   I’ve been interrupted, silenced, and threatened for speaking my mind. Narcissists often invalidate others’ feelings and insist that only their voice matters. I talk about reclaiming your voice and standing up for your right to be heard in several articles on my site.

While I believe in compassion, I’ve learned that it does not mean tolerating abuse. Every time I stood up to these behaviours, I reclaimed a bit more of my well-being.

If you’re interested in learning more about my journey and strategies for healing from narcissistic abuse, I invite you to explore my story and resources at stellareddy.xyz. If you have any questions, feel free, I am here…