Stella Reddy's Story

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I’ve learned to pause before I absorb someone’s judgment, especially from a stranger. Especially when that judgment comes wrapped in toxicity: projection, manipulation, or plain old bitterness. I used to take it all in, like their words were gospel. But not anymore.

Now, when a toxic person tries to define me, I ask myself the questions in this poster above:

• What exactly have they accomplished?

They are individuals who engage in sustained harassment, manipulation, and reputational harm.

Here’s a summary of what they’ve “accomplished,” as reflected in my writing:

• Online Defamation Campaigns: They created websites and posts targeting me and others with personal attacks, attempting to rewrite my story through a lens of blame and distortion. They created 7 domains for their nasty content: 859kennedyroad.com, stellareddy.com, davidstrashin.com, sjtomemberkevinlundy.com, sjtomembervandanapatel.com, socialjusticetribunalsontario.ca, and lorriereddy.com from 2017 to 2025.
• Psychological Manipulation: I describe gaslighting tactics, intimidation, and efforts to provoke emotional distress. It is clearly in their “statement of facts,” Toxic Tenant Bullies Original “Statement of Facts”
• Digital Surveillance & Doxxing: I note attempts to track my online activity and expose personal details, crossing boundaries of privacy and safety. The domain lorriereddy.com, which they had from 2021 to 2023, is evidence of that.
• Weaponizing Legal Processes: The tenants are said to have misused legal complaints and housing tribunal filings to prolong conflict and exert control. The LTB appeal took 18 months, and the HRTO took 19 months. Ontario | CanLII is filled with their applications against me and others. There was a constant back and forth with new documents filled with new allegations against me.

Legal Actions

• Landlord and Tenant Board Eviction Document released October 3, 2017: TEL-83876-17 (Re), 2017 CanLII 84930 (ON LTB) https://canlii.ca/t/hpbxw
• Divisional Court Document Released April 15, 2019: https://canlii.ca/t/hzs47
• Human Rights Tribunal of Ontario was released on January 22, 2020, after KR & AR didn’t show up for the Hearing by Teleconference: ER v. Liscio, 2020 HRTO 73 (CanLII), <https://canlii.ca/t/j4z4w>, ER v. Liscio, 2019 HRTO 415 (CanLII), <https://canlii.ca/t/hz14r>

• Obstruction of Healing: Their actions delayed my recovery and forced me into defensive documentation and public rebuttal.

Their “accomplishments” amount to a campaign of cruelty, not credibility. It’s important to reframe their efforts as a reflection of their own unresolved issues, not my worth.

• Who are they to place a judgment upon me?

I’ve asked myself that question more times than I can count. And every time, the answer gets clearer.

They weren’t my friends. They weren’t my family. They weren’t my therapist, my doctor, or anyone with insight into my life. They were tenants in a building I worked in, people who barely knew me, yet felt entitled to dissect my character and rewrite my story.

I didn’t share my personal life with them. I kept professional boundaries. I showed up, did my job, and tried to maintain peace. But they crossed lines. They assumed roles they were never given. They judged me based on projection, not truth.

I’ve come to see that their judgment says more about them than it ever did about me. They didn’t know me. They didn’t care to. They wanted control, not clarity.

So when I ask, “Who are they to place a judgment upon me?”—I answer with conviction: they are nobody with the right to define me. And I refuse to carry the weight of their assumptions any longer.

• Are they the arbiter of my worth and value?

But I’ve come to see the truth: they are not the arbiter of anything in my life.

I didn’t give them that power. I didn’t invite their judgment. They weren’t part of my healing, my growth, or my truth. They were outsiders looking in, projecting their own dysfunction onto me.

So no, they are not the arbiter of my worth and value. I am. And I choose to stand in that truth, no matter how loud their lies get.

I’ve spent way too long letting people with no credibility shape how I see myself. People who haven’t walked my path, faced my battles, or earned the right to speak on my life. Their criticism isn’t truth: it’s noise. And I no longer internalize other people’s noise.

I’ve built something real. I’ve survived. I’ve grown. I’ve documented, reflected, and reclaimed. That’s more than any toxic person ever tried to do. So when they come at me with their judgments, I don’t flinch. I ask the questions. I get my answers. And I move forward.

Because I know who I am. And they don’t get to decide.