Poster: Closure For Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse by Maria Consiglio
I am no longer stuck—I’ve broken free from the cycle of fear and anxiety that once held me captive. My closure didn’t come from external validation or apologies; it came from the education I gave myself about the toxic traits and behaviours of adults who bullied me, especially those who targeted me through the content on stellareddy.com. By understanding their patterns—gaslighting, manipulation, triangulation, and the confusing “word salad” they use to deflect and confuse—I’ve armed myself with the knowledge that will protect me in the future.
I now see the truth behind their actions. When the toxic tenants I dealt with at work called me “crazy,” both to my face and online, it was a deliberate attempt to gaslight me into doubting my reality. For a time, it worked. I questioned myself, my sanity, and whether I should stop sharing my story altogether. But not anymore. I’ve learned that this is a classic tactic of toxic people. They use it to silence and undermine others, hoping to maintain control by instilling fear and self-doubt.
Looking back, this was a terrible experience—one that shook me to my core. But I’ve come out stronger and wiser. I know now that this will never happen to me again. I’ve developed an awareness of their toxic behavioural patterns, and I can now spot the red flags long before they escalate. Unfortunately, I am sorry for whoever their next target is because their behaviour has shown me there will always be someone else. It’s a sad reality, but it’s not one I can control, nor would I want to. What I can control is myself—and I’ve found my peace, even with stellareddy.com still online for the world to see.
For 8 (eight) years, I lived in a state of hypervigilance, constantly checking to see if my name would show up somewhere online, fearing the worst each time it did. But not anymore. Today, I feel a sense of relief and empowerment knowing that everything online about me, besides what’s on stellareddy.com, is content I’ve put there myself. I no longer fear being accosted in public, and the “doxxing” of my personal information in their content no longer holds the same power over me. I feel safe here in my community, surrounded by support and understanding.
The most significant change? My nervous system is finally returning to normal. The constant stress, fear, and anxiety that once plagued me have started to fade. For the first time in years, I feel calm, secure, and in control of my life. The weight of their toxicity no longer rests on my shoulders. Instead, I carry a sense of strength and resilience that I never thought possible.
This isn’t just the end of a dark chapter—it’s the beginning of a new one. One where I’m no longer defined by their lies or their attempts to tear me down. I’m defined by my resilience, my growth, and the peace I’ve found within myself.
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