I am completely done with toxicity! I’ve reached a point where I no longer have the motivation—or the need—to write about toxic tenants. For so long, I carried the fear of being attacked online and off, their lies echoing in my mind, but that fear has finally faded.
I wrote my way out of that mess, one word at a time, and I’m proud of how far I’ve come. 🙂 I know that new writing topics will find me when the time is right. There’s no rush anymore.
Over the past year, I’ve noticed something remarkable: almost all of their smear campaigns have disappeared! Many of the toxic tenants’ domains, which once seemed inescapable, are now gone. YAY!
Since the end of October, even more of their toxic content has vanished from the internet—domains like koryread.com, workersreformparty.ca, yourwinair.com, davidstrashin.com, connaughtpublicschool.com, rooseveltskerrit.com, and 859kennedyroad.com have disappeared. Sure, they’ve held on to stellareddy.com and districtschoolboardofniagara.com, but everything else, including their political campaign content, is gone.
This isn’t the first time they’ve taken their content offline—it might even be the sixth in 8 years—but this time, it feels different. Yesterday, I sat down with ICANN Lookup to check the status of some of their domains. I only got through a couple of searches before realizing something profound: I just didn’t care anymore. I had no desire to keep looking, so I closed it down.
Honestly, I haven’t even looked at the sitemap for stellareddy.com in months. Yesterday was the first time I bothered to check, and unsurprisingly, nothing new has been added since August 2024. That website is up for renewal again in April, along with its hosting, so we’ll see what happens. But at this point, it no longer matters to me. My name hasn’t shown up in any new toxic spaces that weren’t created by me, and that, in itself, is a wonderful feeling.
The past few years have been a journey of education and growth for me. I immersed myself in learning about toxic traits, trying to keep the chaos of the past eight years in perspective. I read countless articles, dove into books (some of which I still need to read), and explored websites filled with helpful tools and insights. I even created a few posters of my own—small reminders of the truths I needed to hold onto.
Most importantly, I sought professional help. Through counselling, I relearned tools to manage my PTSD symptoms and heal from the toxic narcissism I endured. It has helped me greatly!
One of my biggest breakthroughs came this past September when I went on a solo, multi-city trip to visit family on the Mainland. It was my final act of facing my fears, and it was incredible! Travelling alone gave me the confidence to reclaim my independence and live fully in the moment. Anxiety is still a part of my life—it always has been—but it no longer controls me. I feel stronger now than ever before, ready to face whatever life throws my way.
I don’t need exposure therapy anymore. Walking back to 859 Kennedy Rd, where I stayed for a few days in September past, the place where my nightmare began, was the ultimate test for me, and it showed me something powerful: I have nothing left to fear. No one cares anymore about the ranting lies of a toxic tenant from so many years ago, so why should I?
Today, as I sit here reflecting, I’m filled with a sense of peace and freedom and so much gratitude. They hold no power over me anymore. Their influence on my life has completely faded, and I am ecstatic about that! Life goes on and is meant to be lived!