Quote on “Strength” by Rikki Rogers
Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. Strength comes from overcoming the things you thought you couldn’t.
I learned the truth in this quote for myself. 8 and half years ago I never thought I would finally be free of the torment caused to my psyche by the smear campaign and doxxing created by nasty toxic tenants in my name on the internet in the 7 websites they created since 2017. Yet, here I am, mentally free! I focus more these days on the present, not the past.
Just so you know, right now most of the sites they had online are no longer registered. 859kennedyroad.com, sjtomemberkevinlundy.com, socialjusticetribunals.ca, lorriereddy.com, and sjtomembervandanapatel.com have disappeared.
The only ones left in registration are stellareddy.com, which as I said was recently suspended by the hosting company, and davidstrashin.com which seems to be redirected to Amazon and some obscure gambling site. There is no more content online about me created by these toxic tenants and these two domains are scheduled to be deleted next month unless they are renewed. Whether they disappear or not, no longer matters as their time is done. It is history!!
Having your info shared by strangers for many years on a personally titled website was demoralizing there for a while, but with the help of therapy, education on narcissism and toxic traits, I made it through. I have learned that with determination, humans can survive anything, even being doxxed online.
I have lost interest in writing about the mess that was made. I can go for weeks now not even thinking about the toxic tenants and what they are doing online in my name. My negative thinking is gone and I have a hard time thinking about the past and all the negative behaviour I saw from them.
I am more focused on the present and my future these days. I have a summer to plan! I am thinking about trips outside where I can use the snazzy Drone I got for Christmas and planning a vacation with my hubby for the two weeks he has booked off.
I have noticed that my pattern of behaviour has changed. I don’t search for my name online anymore, I don’t look for their names either… I do admit I am following their latest on Canlii.org though as I find it interesting. I stopped looking at the contents of the websites they had and I am no longer worried about anything they have to say, about anyone. I don’t read articles and posters like I used to either on toxic traits and narcissism.
In recent weeks, I have been doing research on what I could get to make my physical life easier, such as buying a car and modifying it for me to drive more comfortably. I am looking around currently… I have been sticking to my daily mindfulness and reading more positive things that help me feel better. I recently bought the book by Mel Robins, the “Let Them Theory” and will start reading it soon.
Life goes on, and nothing stays the same. You find that one day, something that used to hurt you, no longer does and it feels awesome!
My fervent wish is that anyone going through similar issues find their way to peace! You can overcome it, just stay focused on yourself and your mental well-being. Remember, it is your life to live, not anyone else’s.