Stella Reddy's Story

Triangulation

Triangulation is a manipulation tactic where one person refuses to communicate directly with another, instead using a third party to relay messages, forming a triangle. It also describes controlling the relationship between two others by managing communication between them.

Triangulation often divides people, creating rivalry and tension. It is a tactic used to pit one person against another, turning relationships into battlegrounds.

In narcissistic behaviour, triangulation is a way to control communication, twisting messages to focus everything back on the narcissist while isolating others. This often means creating scapegoats or falsely blaming others for problems.

This tactic is exactly what toxic tenants have engaged in through their smear campaigns they had on multiple websites. When legal approaches failed, the strategy became to divide and conquer by turning others against anyone named on their sites. Over time, I witnessed their manipulation unfold through letters, emails, and online posts designed to distort and isolate, never to resolve or heal.

Cooperation was never their goal — control was. All of the toxic tenants’ websites, including all the others that came after, were all about controlling the narratives. This is triangulation in action.

The toxic tenants claim I avoided involvement and refused to address concerns, but the facts say otherwise. I sought resolution, while they responded with lies, blame-shifting, and distortion. Their relentless smear campaign was built to isolate and wear down individuals, not to find truth or seek accountability.

Eventually, this sustained harassment led us to leave Ontario in the Fall of 2020. Despite their claims, no one “pushed” us out. The constant abuse, the online attacks, and the toxic environment made it impossible to stay. My fear was terrible! I didn’t have to stay and live in that environment.

Along the way, they’ve tried to dismiss my health struggles and label me dishonest or unstable. They mocked my claims of PTSD, painting them as excuses. This cruelty reveals more about their bitterness than about me. Mental health struggles are not excuses; they are real experiences worthy of respect and compassion.

As noted on so many websites about Narcissism, people like toxic tenants make excuses about why they do what they do.

With this past content on stellareddy.com, toxic tenants implied that I created this situation myself, and the websites they created were my fault.

Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …

• she had a pattern of her making the interracial married couple / tenants sit around all day, waiting 3 times for her and she never bothered to show up, without notice.

Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when ……

• when she was plotting and serving illegal N5’s against the interracial married couple / tenants.

Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …

• she was throwing away the key to their unit to justify her illegal N5 to get them evicted.

Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …

• she was in front of the racist Caucasian Social Justice Tribunal Member of September 26, 2017, lying and providing altered and false documents as evidence to have the interracial married couple / tenants evicted.

Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …

• she refused interracial married couple / tenants parking at the building, but at the same time gave the all-white tenant that same privilege she was refusing the interracial married couple / tenants.

She did not have PTSD when …

• When she deliberately lied and stated that the the interracial married couple / tenants were the only tenants with a barbecue despite there being 4 other tenants. One being her own sister.

Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …

• When she showed support that she was a racist Donald Trump on Twitter.

Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …

• When she threatened to call the Children’s Aid Society on the interracial married couple / tenants bi racial children, twice.

Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …

• When using racial slurs, racist actions, derogatory and prejudice language during the ltb hearing in a public form.

Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …

• When she messaged the the interracial married couple / tenants two young bi-racial children with hateful content on Facebook messenger.

And the list goes on forever.

Living through this kind of toxic triangulation doesn’t just hurt one person. It damages relationships, communities, and trust. It’s exhausting to live under the weight of constant misrepresentation—a place where speaking up invites distortion, and healing seems just out of reach.

They try to claim their actions are my fault, that their smear sites wouldn’t exist without me. This deflection is a classic twist — never owning responsibility, always blaming others. The truth is, their toxic behaviour built this narrative. The cruelty came from them.

Leaving Ontario wasn’t a surrender, but a choice—a choice for peace and healing over endless conflict. Walking away from toxicity is not defeat. It is a strength. It is reclaiming control and choosing well-being over chaos.

The toxic tenants relied on manipulation and division, but their smear campaigns do not define the whole story. Their words reveal their own struggles with accountability and compassion. Yet, despite the noise, truth has a way of shining through. Over time, those who look closely will see the facts don’t support the lies.

This story is closing one difficult chapter, but it is opening another—one about truth, resilience, and the power to move forward. It’s about recognizing when to walk away, how to heal, and the courage required to build a life beyond manipulation and hurt.

I share this not out of bitterness, but from a place of honesty and hope. For anyone navigating similar storms, know you are not alone. Peace is possible. The journey isn’t easy, but each step forward—even the wobbly ones—counts.

Thank you for reading and walking through this chapter with me.