Stella Reddy's Story

Grandiose narcissists cannot feel secure unless they put someone else beneath them. Their entire sense of worth depends on constructing a false image of superiority, and to sustain that illusion, they resort to gaslighting. I learned, in the most personal way, how this plays out when tenants I once trusted twisted the truth of their eviction into a smear campaign built on lies about me within 7 websites they created.

I saw how they needed to rewrite the story to preserve their image of being the “perfect tenants”. The reality was clear: there were objective reasons for their eviction, reasons that had nothing to do with me personally. Yet instead of accepting responsibility, they manufactured a narrative in which I became the villain, portraying me as the cause of their downfall. That’s the way grandiose narcissists work: if they can make you feel smaller, weaker, or “less than,” it cushions them from ever facing their own actions.

Grandiosity and narcissistic personality disorder

Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) means you have consistently exhibited traits of narcissism since at least adolescence in a way that has made all areas of your life a challenge. NPD sees you as being self-centred, unable to have empathy for others, and often manipulating to get what you want.

You might experience grandiosity in the following ways:

• exaggerating your own achievements and talents
• criticizing and undermining the dreams and talents of others
• constant boasting
• believing you don’t need others and are much better than them are
• seeing yourself as without limits
• acting pretentious and talking about yourself often
• having fantasies of power and being unable to see yourself as weak and vulnerable
• acting and thinking in a selfish manner
• not recognizing the effect of your behaviour on others
• quick to anger, if others don’t go along with you
• unable to see that your demands or dreams are unrealistic.

Their accusations became extreme. They claimed they were discriminated against, going so far as to spread false allegations of racism about me. That was the hardest part to process: being accused of something that never happened, watching them weaponize identity and morality simply to deflect from their own obligations. I realized then that it was never about truth. It was about control. They needed a scapegoat, and in their eyes, I was perfect for the role.

If you bother to read any of the list below, you will notice the theme of toxic tenants where they try so hard to convince total strangers that they are right about me, and the most important thing is that he is trying to convince you that they are innocent and do no wrong. Toxic Tenants is showing the trait of Grandiosity!

What toxic tenants don’t see is that while he tries so hard to convince you, the degrading words he uses to describe others, the labels on people, the very way he writes, tell you that toxic tenants are arrogant and boastful. He truly believes that he is so special that I went out of my way to get them evicted.

I wasn’t there to do a job; I didn’t have 33 other units, with tenants living in them, to look after, nor did I have to take care of the building itself. My sole purpose, according to toxic tenants, was to “discriminate and inconvenience” him and his family.

It is this grandiose thinking that toxic tenants and his family were my sole purpose in life, and nothing nor one was more important, which is what gave his narcissism away! Toxic tenants are trying to imply that my job, upon moving into 859 Kennedy Rd, was to evict just him and his family. How absurd is that?

We are going to again in this area of the website show how the bigot and racist Stella Reddy along with the enablers, Alto Properties Inc. owners allowed Stella Reddy’s willfully tried to discriminate and deliberately tried to inconvenience and harass the interracial married couple / tenants. 

It will once again be show how the Caucasian racist Stella Reddy deliberately lies about the interracial married couple / tenants and tries to portray them as uncooperative and liars. 

• It was toxic tenants who refused entry so many times within their tenancy, even before I started working there. They even admit it.
• It was toxic tenants who were demanding over how they paid rent and expected special treatment, so they wouldn’t have to pay any extra fees for personal cheques or money orders.
• It was toxic tenants who got upset and demanded that they be allowed to keep their propane BBQ on their balcony.
• It was also toxic tenants who tried to imply that all BBQ at the property were propane and refused to acknowledge that there are different types, as that wouldn’t fit his narratives.
• It was toxic tenants who got upset over not getting a free parking spot on site, even demanded that we take a spot away from a paying tenant, so they could have it for free.
• It was toxic tenants who went around the property at night and took pictures of other tenants’ vehicles, inside them, and posted them on the internet on his sites’ contents.
• It was toxic tenants who tried to start a Tenant Association within the building after their legal eviction and before their Appeal, with the intention of having me fired.
• It was toxic tenants who contacted other tenants within the building and attempted to scare them into cooperating with him over a letter they got about A/C dripping and their Tenant Association.
• It was toxic tenants who gave his cell phone to his young son many times out front so that they could record me just sitting on my balcony.
• It was toxic tenants who posted 859kennedyroad.com on November 2, 2017, with the hopes of influencing the general public against the property owners and the building staff.
• It was toxic tenants who walked the property and took pictures of other tenants’ balconies and their personal possessions there and posted them online.
• It was toxic tenants who filed Motions with their Divisional Court Appeal to have me included in the proceedings, without success. The Divisional Court stated there was no racism.
• It was toxic tenants who applied to Human Rights, one month after they learned my applications failed due to not knowing the husband’s name.
• It was toxic tenants, while during the process of HRTO, that constantly tried to submit new items, rather than trying to prove the allegations they had already made against me.
• It was toxic tenants who use comparisons of others within the content of their domains.
• It was toxic tenants who were trying to newsjack with anti-black racism to get more exposure for their sites.
• It was toxic tenants who stood in the Lobby and bashed me to tenants coming and going, and even some prospective tenants who came to see a vacancy.
• It was toxic tenants who tried to pressure other tenants into joining his vendetta against me.
• It was toxic tenants who stole my personal name and posted stellareddy.com, davidstrashin.com, sjtomemberkevinlundy.com, and sjtovandanapatel.com in April 2019 after they lost the Appeal for their eviction, in the hopes of inciting the general public against the people named within.
• It was toxic tenants who, after 19 months of the process, decided to walk away from their Human Rights application and not bother to even show up at the hearing scheduled for January 2020.
• It was toxic tenants who posted the social justice website in June 2020 to go after all the tribunals of Ontario, including the Ombudsman Office, socialjusticetribunalsofontario.ca.
• It was toxic tenants who went after total strangers from my site, just because they showed me support.
• It was toxic tenants who tried, under his djnotnice name and his bird and worm web design name, to get added to the social media of myself and other family, so they can stalk me and where he took the pictures he shares on these domains.
• It was toxic tenants who share pictures of my great nieces and great nephews online in the contents of the 7 sites they created, as well as my sister.
• It was toxic tenants who negated and degraded so many people within the content of these domains he owns.
• It was toxic tenants who targeted my sister’s friend in the Lobby and got the video recording of the argument between my sister and her friend and shared it online.
• It was toxic tenants who shared 859kennedyroad.com on various Facebook groups and also had 2 groups of their own on there, hoping to influence people against me and my husband.
• It was toxic tenants who fraudulently used my name, with stellareddy.com, to create a contact on LinkedIn.

Gaslighting became their tactic of choice. They spoke as if their distorted narrative was an absolute fact, dismissing anything I said in response. They tried to convince me, and everyone around us, that their version of events was the only version. I was constantly pushed into the position of defending myself against lies that did not even have roots in reality. That endless cycle, me responding to falsehoods while they invented more, was how they wore me down.

When I look back, I see how calculated it truly was. Grandiose narcissists can’t admit error because that would destroy the fragile throne they have built for themselves. Every failure must be projected outward. Every shortcoming must be disguised by blaming someone else. In this case, the eviction was an undeniable consequence of their own choices, but instead of facing that, they inverted the script. I wasn’t the person doing my job within the rules; I was, in their words, malicious, unfair, and biased, but ONLY to them.

The truth didn’t change, no matter how they spun it. Yet their accusations left an impact. For a while, their gaslighting made me question myself. Did I handle things the wrong way? Should I have been more lenient? Did I somehow let my words be misinterpreted? That’s exactly what gaslighting does: it shakes your confidence, so you look inward for faults that don’t actually exist. It was painful but necessary for me to recognize that their lies weren’t rooted in fact but in their need to defend their inflated egos.

I see now that being blamed, falsely accused, and demeaned was never really about me at all. It was about their inability to tolerate accountability. Grandiose narcissists survive by projecting their flaws onto others, and I had become their target. Understanding that truth gave me back my strength. They could never take that from me again.