Unmasking Kory & Allison Read’s Narcissism

I enjoy reading articles on Psychology Today, they are very informative for me over the past few years. My Facebook is full of articles from this site on Mental Health. even from some science websites. The more education I get, the better I feel!

I laugh at their written garbage these days, as I have healed and know myself and my truth. Kory & Allison Read had no right, period. I am still a bit angry, but it is disappearing as I know it is inevitable that the day will come that this is no longer important, to anyone.

I read this article yesterday and wanted to share. The more articles I find that re-enforce the knowledge I have gained on Kory & Allison Read’s behaviors, the better. Each time I read things like this, actual instances come to mind of the smear campaign and bullying of me I went through over the past few years. Yes, I can actually recall things off the top of my head, I have been reading it so much!

They fully expose their lack of empathy—the cornerstone of the narcissist—because when the narcissist feels threatened, winning or succeeding to protect him or herself is all that matters, not consequences. A narcissist’s focus and determination to win at any cost underscore the shallow nature of their emotional connections—to you and to all others.

It was in conflict that I learned Kory & Allison Read are Narcissistic. The actions they proceeded to do from August 2016 right up till today, have proven to me that Kory & Allison Read felt threatened, they were evicted from the apartment they rented, and hated that fact and proceeded to try to win by any mean necessary. They don’t care about consequences, their many applications against various employees of Human Rights attest to that, nor do they care that they look stupid for doing so. They don’t seem to care how they look to their internet readers!

I sat in the Divisional Court hearing February 19, 2019 and watched Kory Read’s performance. In the beginning he was calm and friendly, but as the judges shot down what he wanted, he became more aggressive and rude, even talking over the judges and accusing them of using up his time to talk. When his motions to have me added to the proceedings were refused, he still tried anyway by bringing up my name at every opportunity he had, to the point where the judges almost shut down the hearing completely. There was no way he could talk about the LTB without bringing up my name!

I was amazed to see the transformation in his behaviour when it became obvious he wasn’t going to get his way. He still did sjtomemberkevinlundy.com website with its nasty content, and stellareddy.com, because he just did not agree with the decision made by Divisional Court. He wasn’t willing to accept it and proceeded to go on his own beliefs that he shared in these sites.

This is Kory & Allison Read, attacking people who refused to agree with what they say and don’t give them what they want. Even the Court systems decisions, don’t matter to them!

This person will do what he or she can to impugn you, spread rumors about you, attack your reputation, or whatever else comes to hand. It doesn’t matter that none of it is true.

They went after anyone who took part in that, and with each loss they had, as they were evicted, they blamed more people. In the beginning, it was just me, than after the hearing with LTB, they added the property owners to the list. Get to today, almost 6 years later, and you have me, the property owners, David Strashin, Kevin Lundy, and numerous employees of the Social Justice Tribunals of Ontario, which covers, Landlord and Tenant Board, Human Rights of Ontario, and even the Human Rights Commission. They even personally attacked the PM of Dominica, Roosevelt Skerrit.

They receive a Form N5 in August 2016 for refusing pest control, that she agreed to allow, by text message, due to the mix-up by the scheduler, and we get a 7 page letter filled with speculations and their personal opinions, telling us they didn’t want a reply and had vague accusations against me of saying inappropriate things to them.

Very First Letter Filled with LIES Written by Kory Read & Allison Read To Bully Stella Reddy

They did that letter, all because they got a Form N5 for refusing access that they agreed to allow, by her okay in text message. Yes, it was a extreme reaction on their part. While I appreciate no one likes to get a Notice telling them they could be evicted for interfering with the Landlords interests in looking after their property, it was easily avoided by talking to me. If Allison Read truly felt that it was too much, as it wasn’t her fault the scheduler screwed up, she could have said “no” instead of “okay” to the change I asked for, and it would have been rescheduled with the other tenant who said “no”.

But, of course, she said no such thing, then complains she didn’t get a written 24 hour notice for this change? I went out of my way to email/text, all tenants affected by the screw up by the scheduler, as I knew it was less than 24 hours notice for the technician to come the next day and I needed written permission to enter, which is why I did it by email or text message. 

Any building staff knows that if you need access to an apartment, and there is less than 24 hours before they come, you can always get permission from the tenant, in writing by email or text, even on paper in person, that allows entry. I didn’t give 24 Hours Notice for this change for entry the next morning, as it wasn’t needed, as it was less than 24 hours that they would come, and I had permission in text or email from the tenant allowing entry. Allison Read allowed entry, which is why I saved a pic of that texts messages from that day. Procedures were followed, not my problem Allison Read went back on her “okay” she gave me. The Residential Tenancies Act is very clear on these rules of entry!

The narcissist’s willingness to lie is nothing short of extraordinary and he or she will be completely unconcerned whether someone finds those lies out or not. It’s a lack of empathy on steroids or, to put it better, aggrandized and entitled. The motto of the narcissist? “What you think of me is none of my business,” and he or she really means it.

Kory & Allison Read made up a lie of a prior meeting they tried to claim we had before I even moved in to live and work in this building. First it was in general terms, no details, as they took over a year later to hear. They spread this lie far and wide in person and online on social media and on 859kennedyroad.com, for about 3 years, even though they had no evidence it even occurred. They could come up with enough to quote what I allegedly said, even remember great details of what they thought, to my questions and comments to them, but they couldn’t remember the specific date.  First it was just sometime in June, then it became mid-to late June. They even claim to remember how I was dressed, but not the date?

I gave HRTO evidence of where I was for every day in June 2016 that laid waste to these lies, as I have proof it was not possible for me to meet them at any restaurant, any time in June 2016! It was during HRTO that they finally started ignoring this lie, as they didn’t mention it other than their 107 pages statement of facts, as they know I had proven it the lie it is. They got all the same stuff HRTO did, so know it was not possible for me to have met them as they claim.

It was during HRTO that they started harping on what I said at the hearing. They are taking my normal reaction to hearing details of their lies for the first time, as evidence I am a racist. Once again, harping on my reactions, not what he did that caused them.

Kory & Allison Read couldn’t prove their lie of a prior meeting, but I did say those words in the hearing, so they jumped on them and tried to use it as evidence I was what they said I was, a racist. They don’t see that the detailed lies they were telling that day were allowed to cause a reaction in the person being lied about. It is normal to get defensive upon hearing such things, especially when you know it isn’t true. All throughout HRTO, Kory Read threw those words up at me, and ignored the lie of the prior meeting, as he knew by then, it was done. Even now, you don’t hear them talk about this alleged prior meeting anymore!

As it says below, when it conflict, even the most healthiest people will react! I reacted and I came to see I am allowed to do that, it is what I did afterward that counted. Maybe not to Kory & Allison Read, they hold grudges for forever, but no one else will hold that over my head for the rest of my life and I could care less if they do or not. I am good, their opinions of me don’t count.

All throughout the documents I have, I see so many lies being told, from me smelling of alcohol, trying to get a key for their post office box, making up fake emails and writing to them from them, trying to access their domains, so many little ones trying to make me look bad in any way they can. There is the Entry Panel and the keyless entry code he lied about and the tenant who saw him use it, the Tenant Assoc., the letters to tenants about me and their domain, stellareddy.com. The standing in the lobby talking about me, with me there in the office listening to him. The recording of me by his children, the lie of me throwing things on his car and causing damage… The lies are endless!

So many little personal digs that Kory & Allison Read made of my person, over very personal aspects of my life they know nothing about, including my marriage. What does my marriage have to do with them and their many lies against me? This is the aggrandized and entitled traits on display from Kory & Allison Read. 

1. Plays emotional “hot potato”

Projection is one of the more showing traits of Narcissism. All throughout the many documents I have written by Kory & Allison Read, you can see the many complaints showing their extreme jealousies of others, especially me, yet you see Kory Read make the claim it is ME who is jealous of them. Kory Read calls me the Narcissist, when he saw that I wrote the word, he had to switch it around. Kory Read always called me a liar, yet you can see his many lies within his contents as they are personal to me, so how could he know?

Kory Read many speculations on my personal life are way off and anyone who knows me, even a little, will know that. Which is why I ain’t worried much anymore!! His accusations against me will never stick, as it is easy to that is not me.

When they got their car, they had to stress that it was a NEW car and that I was jealous they were able to do that, and it was my jealousy over that was why they didn’t get a “free” parking spot. Why mention my two cars, and parking spots, when it isn’t his business? He goes into great detail with his speculations over my two vehicles, even claims to know I bought a second one and claims to know how I am “struggling to just get by”  and “couldn’t afford it” so had to get rid of it.

See these implications here? These are common for Kory Read to do, it is the little personal digs he makes on my personal life, when in reality he has no clue of it is true or not! 

You see Stella Reddy in the past had absolute no problem with giving the interracial married couple / tenants a parking space for their CAR RENTALS. But the moment that they were getting ahead and bought a brand new vehicle.

Suddenly Stella Reddy became infuriated with them and refused to give them a parking space that they were entitled too, for free on their application.

You have to understand that at this time Stella Reddy and her husband Russell Reddy had two vehicles parked at the building. One had been off the road since April 2015 that they brought with them and parked in the indoor garage. And they purchased a 2nd vehicle when they first moved in, but could not afford to drive it and eventually had to get rid of it.

Racist hate to see any non-white getting ahead while they are still struggling to just get by. Stella Reddy is and was so jealous and pissed off to see that the interracial married couple / tenants were able to buy a vehicle, especially a brand new vehicle.

And here is Stella Reddy and her husband Russell Reddy struggling to survive of two incomes. Having to get ride of there 2nd vehicle they bought when they fist moved in.

Even with two incomes and them getting rid of their 2nd vehicle. Stella Reddy and Russell Reddy still could not afford to get their 1st vehicle that has been off the road since April 2015 working and insured and back on the road.

The same vehicle that they brought and parking in the indoor garage when they moved in back in July 2016.

Stella Reddy and her husband Russell Reddy were extremely jealous of the fact that the male of the interracial married couple / tenants was a stay at home / work from home dad. And that the female of the interracial married couple / tenants was a successful self-employed event coordinator.

And this is why the racist Stella Reddy really refused to give the interracial married couple / tenants a parking space.

2. Withdraws and then attacks if a demand is made

I ask Kory Read about the domains and Facebook posts and what does he do? Attack me even more. Calling out a liar, he says, when his Human Rights applications had nothing to do with proving who is lying, it was about proving I violated their human rights. 

Kory Read is very childish is this email, he actually DARES me… I truly dare you. Of course he talks about other people and their their disgust for you. 

I was shocked when I saw this email actually, and totally surprised it supposedly came from a adult, who have children who are exposed to that. And this was even sent to HRTO! Every time I mention those sites, I get attacked with more accusations.

Every time I show facts I can easily prove that they did, like the Entry Keyless Code, and almost bumping into me in the Lobby, and he has a fit, writing out how it wasn’t possible as I said it was.

Subject: Calling Out A Liar
Date: April 28, 2019 12:12:31 AM
Hello,
Well unfortunately I have to unblock Stella Reddy to do this, but in the interest of transparency and uncovering a liar. I will. Stella Reddy, I dare you to provide a list to the HRTO of all the SELECTED units that you say you gave your lies to in your letter. I truly dare you. As I know you gave it to everyone in the building a over the past few days several tenants have approached us about you and your recent actions and their disgust for you.
I have social media conversations and have people willing to sign a copy of your letter stating you placed it in their mailbox.
So let’s see if your units can match mine? I know already Stella you will not supply the HRTO with this list of units; because you have no idea who I have talked to and who is willing to vouch that they got your letter. This means that you cant call their unit number in your list if you dont know who they are.⁷
As I said, Stella you again have been caught in a lie, that you could easily prove differently by supplying the units you gave the letter to, and me not being able to get proof from any other
units.
But we both know Stella you are a liar and that you gave every unit a flyer. And we both know that you will not supply a list to the HRTO because you know you have once again been caught lying.
As I said, I dare you, prove me wrong.
By not giving up a list that could support your lies, you clearly are refusing to discredit me and my accusation against you. And logic says… Why wouldn’t you want to prove your telling the truth this time and make me look like the liar?
Because you can’t!!! I call you out again for your lies like when you said we bumped into you in the lobby.
HRTO…
I will now be blocking Stella Reddy again. If she provides you with a list, let me know and I will provide you with social media and signed copies of her letter by all the tenants that have approched us, and let us see if the two list match up!
I dont need to see or know her list to provide my evidence that she gave the entire building her letter.

Thanks
Kory Read

3. Vindictive to the max

Perhaps most tellingly, the narcissist seeks to portray him- or herself as a victim of injustice—not as a seeker of revenge or someone motivated to win—regardless of the circumstances. As Burgo writes:

“Because of his distorted, defensive relationship to reality, the Extreme Narcissist often believes the lies he tells, both to himself and other people. He doesn’t see himself as a liar but rather as an embittered defender of the ‘truth’ as he has come to see it.”

This person will do what he or she can to impugn you, spread rumors about you, attack your reputation, or whatever else comes to hand. It doesn’t matter that none of it is true. That makes it hard fighting her or him—in an office, a community, in a family, or especially in a court of law. The usual rules of decent behavior simply do not exist.

If you look at the top of every domain owned by Kory & Allison Read you will see these words I copied below. Nothing gives away Kory & Allison Read’s Narcissistic traits any more clearer than these very telling words they wrote at the top of every domain’s first page, as he clearly is telling you that he is  an embittered defender of the ‘truth’ as he has come to see it. 

I have come to accept over time that nothing anyone could ever say to this man, would ever make a difference to what he believes about me and other people, as he don’t want it to. I came to accept that The usual rules of decent behavior simply do not exist, with Kory & Allison Read and ever will. They don’t care about anything or anyone, except themselves.

The fact that they wrote all they did, and shared it online within the contents of many domains, not just one, proved me just how delusional they have become in their beliefs. So, I will leave them too it. They don’t even seem to care about their children and how all their actions online will affect them.

Awe well, it isn’t my problem. They did the sites, they have to deal with the consequences of that decision, just as I will with mine. 

This site was created as an information sharing site to alert the public as to the anti-black and racist behavior of the Stella Reddy and her husband .

This site was created as an information sharing site to alert the public as to the racist behavior of the Social Justice Tribunal of Ontario SJTO and its member Kevin Lundy.

This site was created as an information sharing site to alert the public as to the racist and anti-black behaviour of the owners of 859 Kennedy Road in Scarborough Onatrio Luigi Liscio and his son Anthony Liscio ( Alto Properties Inc )

David Strashin is a Toronto lawyer who will represent anyone for a buck. He will even stand buy quietly as his racist clients Luigi Liscio and his son Anthony Liscio provoke and antagonize a interracial married couple / tenants with their racist and anti-black behavior.

Why? Because it is all about the mighty buck for him!

This site is going to expose the Social Justice Tribunals of Ontario ( SJTO ) and its Human Rights of Ontario Tribunal ( HRTO ) deliberate mishandled a perfect case of racial discrimination and anti-black behavior against an interracial married couple / tenants and their bi-racial children by 3 Caucasian individuals.

The three parties involved was the “alleged” Caucasian property manager at 859 Kennedy Road named Stella Reddy. And the two Caucasian owners of the property Luigi Liscio and his son Anthony Liscio.


https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201601/4-behaviors-unmask-hidden-narcissist?collection=1175376

KEY POINTS

  • Not all narcissists are obvious, but they show their true colors when they’re in conflict. 
  • Lack of empathy — which is different from sympathy — is one of the narcissist’s key characteristics.
  • Behaviors that give away a hidden narcissist include vindictiveness.

It’s in conflict—when even the healthiest among us becomes defensive and self-protective—that the narcissist reveals him or herself in fullness. They fully expose their lack of empathy—the cornerstone of the narcissist—because when the narcissist feels threatened, winning or succeeding to protect him or herself is all that matters, not consequences. A narcissist’s focus and determination to win at any cost underscore the shallow nature of their emotional connections—to you and to all others.

What kind of conflict shows the narcissist’s true stripes? The answer is all and any, ranging from the petty tiff to divorce court. If it’s the latter, abandon all hope of a reasonable negotiation or mediation; the true narcissist does neither. To borrow a term from the military, the narcissist’s policy is scorched earth, destroying everything and leaving nothing behind as he or she advances or withdraws—not a shred of connection or memory, respect for past connections, relationships, or the welfare of others involved in the conflict. The narcissist’s willingness to lie is nothing short of extraordinary and he or she will be completely unconcerned whether someone finds those lies out or not. It’s a lack of empathy on steroids or, to put it better, aggrandized and entitled. The motto of the narcissist? “What you think of me is none of my business,” and he or she really means it.

If lack of empathy is one of the narcissist’s key characteristics, I think we often misunderstand it. Some of the difficulty may have to do with distinguishing fully between sympathy and empathy. When we are sympathetic, we connect largely through intellectual understanding and feel bad about the situation in which a person finds him or herself. Empathy is an emotional response in which we literally feel another’s pain as opposed to understanding his or her pain in the abstract. The truth is that most of us are not consistently empathic, nor are we equally skilled at this most important trait.

So what, precisely, makes the narcissist different?

The answer is his or her utter separateness. It’s not simply that he or she doesn’t feel for others and their pain; it’s that the level of connection, of attunement, is utterly foreign. Since you can be sympathetic on a very superficial level (writing a check and contributing to charity; being helpful by dropping off your neighbor’s dry cleaning; recommending your attorney to the guy who needs one), many narcissists appear quite sympathetic because they like looking good in the eyes of others. More importantly, they like reassuring themselves that they’re nice guys or gals. Empathy is another matter entirely.

Here are four behaviors that might tip you off to the real personality you’re dealing with:

1. Plays emotional “hot potato”

Kudos to Craig Malkin for giving this a name and for singling it out as one of the narcissist’s behaviors. Malkin identifies “hot potato” as a form of projection, as in the following scenario: You try talking to your partner about his dismissiveness and lack of connection and he responds by saying that he’s not dismissive but he’s just not willing to respond to your anger and constant complaints. The reality is that what you are saying is irritating the daylights of him—his jaw muscles are working and he’s on his way to being really frosted—but rather than own those feelings, he assigns them to you. (This explanation aligns with Malkin’s view that keeping the inner wound hidden is one of the narcissist’s primary motivations.) It’s entirely possible, of course, that if this continues, you will feel angry even if you didn’t start out feeling that way. Playing hot potato permits the narcissist to gain the upper hand.

Since the narcissist isn’t actually interested in what you feel or think—or making things better between you, for that matter—the game of hot potato will work to your disadvantage, especially if you care about him or her. You will probably feel guilty—“He wasn’t wrong, I was angry”—until the moment in time when you have an epiphany and finally get it.

I’d like to add a personal observation about the game of emotional hot potato: They can play consciously to manipulate you but it can also be unconscious behavior on the narcissist’s part. In any case, what emerges from hot potato is the narcissist’s vision of what really happened and it will all boil down to one basic theme: It’s always your fault and never his or hers. The inability and unwillingness to take responsibility for actions and words under any circumstances are also narcissistic hallmarks.

2. Withdraws and then attacks if a demand is made

Some have described demand/withdraw as the most toxic of relationship patterns for good reason: It’s part of a downward spiral that often ends in the failure of the relationship. You don’t need a narcissist in the dyad, by the way, to have the pattern take over.

Essentially, what happens is that one person (usually the woman, but not always) makes a demand for some issue to be fixed or addressed and the other partner withdraws physically and emotionally—stonewalling, folding his arms, etc. The pattern is particularly toxic because escalation is built into it—needs unanswered, the person demanding will become increasingly frustrated and usually louder. Of course, this simply means the person withdrawing will increase his efforts. Both parties feel aggrieved and put upon.

The narcissist’s habit of playing hot potato means that, put in the withdraw position, he or she will either withdraw or become incredibly aggressive—essentially blaming his or her partner for making the demand in the first place, casting it as a sign of his or her flawed nature, etc. That’s hot potato combined with a classic toxic pattern. It not only throws the partner off but, again, makes her more open to being manipulated into thinking that it’s all her fault. (Again, feel free to change up the genders in the description; female narcissists act the same way.)

3. Vindictive to the max

According to Joseph Burgo, this is actually a narcissistic type. To be honest, it was his description that clued me in to the fact that the person I’d married was a narcissist after all. Forget meeting in the middle, settling your differences, or, if you’re unlucky enough to be in a situation where you need an attorney, mediating; the vindictive narcissist will do none of the above. Lies are the arrows in the narcissist’s quiver, and it often doesn’t matter how outrageous they arePerhaps most tellingly, the narcissist seeks to portray him- or herself as a victim of injustice—not as a seeker of revenge or someone motivated to win—regardless of the circumstances. As Burgo writes:

“Because of his distorted, defensive relationship to reality, the Extreme Narcissist often believes the lies he tells, both to himself and other people. He doesn’t see himself as a liar but rather as an embittered defender of the ‘truth’ as he has come to see it.”

As Burgo points out (and as I can personally attest), the vindictive narcissist may proceed sounding reasonable, despite the fact that everything he or she says is a lie. This person will do what he or she can to impugn you, spread rumors about you, attack your reputation, or whatever else comes to hand. It doesn’t matter that none of it is true. That makes it hard fighting her or him—in an office, a community, in a family, or especially in a court of law. The usual rules of decent behavior simply do not exist.

The vindictive narcissist’s hustle often takes in otherwise capable and intelligent people, including attorneys and judges. Most of us are hesitant to believe that every word an individual utters is an outright lie, especially if it is easily discovered. But that only works in the narcissist’s favor: It’s his words against yours, after all, and he doesn’t mind grandstanding.

4. Indifferent to emotional outcomes

In my experience—as a person who has lived more than six decades but isn’t a psychologist or a therapist—most people want to come out of combative situations losing as few of their personal connections and relationships as possible. They want to feel that they have behaved reasonably well and fairly under the circumstances. That’s one reason mediation works but that’s not true of the vindictive narcissist, who could care less. If he (or she) ends up with scorched earth, that’s no big deal. He will see destroyed relationships as a necessary cost of getting what he deserves.

Of course, discovering that the person you’re dealing with may be a narcissist after all doesn’t help other than to arm you with knowledge as you think about and analyze his or her behavior. Knowing how the person responds in conflict will not only help you prepare and strategize, but help prepare you for the sorry truth. There’s probably no reasonable way to stop the merry-go-round because exhausting you (and your resources, for that matter) is part of the narcissist’s scorched earth policy.

It’s no wonder that recovering from conflict with a narcissist is so hard, frustrating, and sometimes embittering.

Copyright 2016 Peg Streep

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