Tricks Stella Reddy Uses for Mental Health Recovery


So many tricks I have learned for Mental Health Recovery!

There are a lot of reading that I do online, articles and posters, as well as other Blogs, to help me in my recovery. I have followed for over 2 years now and find her Blog very helpful. is also another great one I recently found. Their words get right into my head and I feel empowered, to be honest.

Searching Google alone get you over 7 million pages about Recovery from Adult Bullies, not even Narcissists, so I have come to see it is a prevalent issue. That makes me really sad to know Adult Bullies have become a major issue in society. That means there are way too many people out there every day, in recovery of their mental health.

So many helpful articles that can help you manage. Yes, a counsellor helps a lot too! My counsellor is funny, as she always says I know almost as much as she does about what I need to do for myself these days, its putting it in practice, every day, that I have issues with. My anger tends to run away from me, but I find I get over it faster than I use too! Progress, even a little, is better than none at all!

For me, the actions below is my daily routine. I am home these days, my broken ankle won’t allow me to do too much, so I have a lot of time to sit and really go through my feelings. I have been able to sit and re-read all of the emails and documents I have received, and I can look at it more objectively now, my emotions don’t run away from me anymore. I return to a calm state faster. I still have another 4 weeks of being home, so I am hoping by the end of it, I will be much further ahead!

I am able to keep the responsibility for this mess on the Tenant Bullies, it is their doing. They refused to accept it was their own actions that got them evicted. I didn’t make them do that, they did it all on their own. The domains and all their contents, are also all on them. I didn’t MAKE them posts all that online.

I am taking all the time I need to recover my mental health, I can as I am retired and nothing else is more important to me these days! I have a lot of support, more than I ever did, as I reached out to people, as I refused to keep myself isolated anymore. I do what I need to do, live with my feelings everyday and am learning to let them go. All the frustration, pain, and even anger, is slowly disappearing from my mind and my life. Feelings come and go, and I am learning to not hang on to them.

I have learned so much about Bullying and Adult Bullies, I recognize the behaviours in others now and am learning coping strategies that help me get thru and focus, on ME. I am my sole focus, finding out what makes me tick is what I am doing. Learning to be calmer, focused, and more self-confident in my own beliefs and reality, and letting go of opinions of people who mean nothing to me and my life. These Bullies are no one anymore. 

I accept that being Bullied does not define who I am, they have no clue on who I am. These Tenant Bullies perspectives are skewed about me, their target, as it is filtered by so much hate and resentment. That is not mine to fix, nor is it my responsibility to make them happy nor am I ever accountable to them, for anything I do. I don’t answer to them, for nothing I do.

They only had control over my emotions and psyche, because I gave it to them, but now I am taking it all back. I am taking my power back over my psyche.

Recovering From the Emotional Effects of Bullying

Being on the receiving end of bullying as an adult can have lingering effects on our mental and physical well-being. According to, here are some ways we can begin to recover from these experiences:

  • Keep the responsibility for the bullying behavior where it belongs: on the bully, not you.

  • Remember to care for your mental and physical health. Recovering from trauma requires time and attention and possibly professional help.

  • Gather support. Instead of letting a bully isolate you, build a support network around yourself, outside or inside your work environment.

  • Read about bullying to understand the phenomenon better and to learn coping strategies that fit your situation.

  • Keep everything in perspective. Being bullied doesn’t define us, so as much as you’re able, don’t let it consume more space in your thoughts than it deserves.

Reclaim Your Authentic Self: 4 Steps to Recover from Bullying and Abuse

Here are the four steps:

1. Figure out and acknowledge what you’re feeling.

Is it shame? Sadness? Despair? Anger?

2. Find a private place, and let yourself express that feeling.

Cry, punch sofa pillows, shake your fists, throw rocks into a pond—whatever helps.

Let your body do whatever it wants to do. You can also journal, but the feelings move out faster if they’re physically expressed, because emotions are stored in the musculature of the body when they can’t be expressed.

3. Tell yourself you can let go of that feeling.

You don’t have to keep holding it inside. Call up the witness part of you to comfort yourself as you express your emotions, and remind yourself that what you’re feeling is not who you are, it’s only a feeling that will pass.

If you feel like you can’t let go of the feeling, ask yourself, “Why?  What do I need to look at?  What is holding me back from letting go?” A past event or experience will often surface if you ask with a feeling of curiosity and let yourself be open to any answer that comes. You may need to go back to Step 2 if this is the case.

Repeating this step over the course of several days gives your subconscious mind time to bring the issue to the surface, and you may find that it’s easier to let go of it piece by piece instead of all in one fell swoop.

If you’ve experienced a deep betrayal of your self at some time in your life, your processing time may be longer than someone who hasn’t had many traumatic experiences. Be sure to be compassionate with yourself as you go through the process.

4. Help yourself remember that life can be good.

After you’ve let go of some feelings, call a supportive friend to talk about something else, go to a movie, or join a group that’s going to a fun place. Anything you enjoy doing is fine.

When someone hurts us, it’s human nature to hold on to the hurt, because we think that somehow, if we can figure it out, it won’t be as painful. But you hurt yourself all over again when you hold on to a bad feeling—thinking about past experiences can drag you down and make you miserable over time.

It feels much better to let them go, just let their energy drift out of your body and mind. Once you do, you can see everything a little more clearly, and be a little more in touch with your authentic self.

Of course it’s always prudent to seek help if your emotions seem too overwhelming, or if you find that they prevent you from functioning in life.

But if you continue this process over a period of time, eventually the old feelings will become a memory, rather than a shadow that lives with you day in and day out, and you’ll be living more from your authentic self than from your past experiences.

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