Tricks for Mental Health Recovery

Recovery is possible

I have learned an abundance of valuable tricks for Mental Health Recovery!

I spend a lot of time reading online – articles, posters, and various blogs that contribute to my recovery.

It’s disheartening to realize that adult bullies have become such a prevalent issue in our society. The fact that countless individuals are struggling with their mental health due to this problem saddens me greatly. But, I do notice things are changing and society as a whole is not as accepting any more of this type of behaviour!

Fortunately, there are numerous helpful articles available to assist in managing this issue and more are added every day. Additionally, having a counsellor has been immensely beneficial! While I still occasionally struggle with managing my anger, I have noticed progress in recovering from it more quickly than before – any progress, no matter how small, is still progress.

I have ample time to reflect and delve into my emotions, especially this past year. I have been able to reconsider the emails and documents I have received with a newfound objectivity. My emotions no longer overpower me like they once did, allowing me to return to a state of calm more swiftly. I have made significant strides in my recovery.

Retirement has offered me the luxury of devoting as much time as necessary to recover my mental health. My recovery journey has been significantly bolstered by the support I found when I stopped isolating myself and reached out to others. Writing out my story on this website has been immensely beneficial for my mental health!

Consequently, I prioritize self-care, actively engaging with my emotions every day and learning to release them. Gradually, the frustration, pain, and anger that once consumed my mind and life have been released. I have come to understand that feelings come and go, and I no longer cling to them.

My knowledge of bullying and adult bullies has grown immensely. An education on what I see was very helpful for me in gaining understanding. I can now identify these behaviours in others and apply coping strategies that help me stay focused on myself. I am my focus, dedicating time to understanding what drives me. Through this process, I am learning to cultivate calmness, focus, and self-confidence in my beliefs and reality. The irrelevant opinions of these bullies hold no significance in my life.

I have accepted that being bullied does not define who I am; these individuals have no understanding of my true self. The perspective of the tenant bullies is distorted by their deep-seated hatred and resentment, and I understand that rectifying this is not my responsibility.

I firmly believe that I am not obliged to please or seek the approval of others for any of my actions. I am an individual with my own set of values, beliefs, and aspirations, and it is my prerogative to live my life authentically and make decisions based on what I think is right.

Society often places undue pressure on individuals to conform, seek validation from others, and prioritize the expectations of those around them. However, I strongly believe that I have the right to live my life according to my own principles and make choices that align with my own desires and goals.

By recognizing that I am not obligated to appease anyone or seek their approval, I am empowering myself to be true to my own identity and pursue my passions without unnecessarily seeking external validation. I understand that seeking approval from others can sometimes limit my potential or hinder my growth, as it may lead me to compromise my own values or prioritize the expectations of others over my own well-being.

Instead, I choose to focus on my own personal growth and find fulfillment within myself, rather than relying on the approval of others. This mindset allows me to explore my own unique path, take risks, and make decisions that are authentic to me. It grants me the freedom to make choices that may not align with societal norms or popular opinions, but that ultimately bring me personal satisfaction and fulfillment. I live my life for me!

I recognize that not seeking approval from others does not entail disregarding the well-being or thoughts of those around me. It simply means that their opinions and expectations are not the sole determinants of my actions.

I value the input of others important to me, engage in thoughtful dialogue, and remain open to different perspectives. However, I reserve the right to make decisions that I deem best for myself, even if they do not align with the wishes of others.

I completely disregard toxic tenants and their opinions regarding my behaviour, as they simply do not hold the authority to dictate how individuals should conduct themselves.

I firmly stand by the belief that I am not obligated to appease these toxic tenants or seek their approval. They are nothing to my personal life, just some nasty past tenants from my career who got mad over how I did my job.

By embracing this mindset, I can forge my own path and find true fulfillment and happiness in my actions and choices.

Recovering From the Emotional Effects of Bullying

Being on the receiving end of bullying as an adult can have lingering effects on our mental and physical well-being. According to, here are some ways we can begin to recover from these experiences:

  • Keep the responsibility for the bullying behavior where it belongs: on the bully, not you.
  • Remember to care for your mental and physical health. Recovering from trauma requires time and attention and possibly professional help.
  • Gather support. Instead of letting a bully isolate you, build a support network around yourself, outside or inside your work environment.
  • Read about bullying to understand the phenomenon better and to learn coping strategies that fit your situation.
  • Keep everything in perspective. Being bullied doesn’t define us, so as much as you’re able, don’t let it consume more space in your thoughts than it deserves.

Here are the four steps:

1. Figure out and acknowledge what you’re feeling.

Is it shame? Sadness? Despair? Anger?

2. Find a private place, and let yourself express that feeling.

Cry, punch sofa pillows, shake your fists, throw rocks into a pond—whatever helps.

Let your body do whatever it wants to do. You can also journal, but the feelings move out faster if they’re physically expressed, because emotions are stored in the musculature of the body when they can’t be expressed.

3. Tell yourself you can let go of that feeling.

You don’t have to keep holding it inside. Call up the witness part of you to comfort yourself as you express your emotions, and remind yourself that what you’re feeling is not who you are, it’s only a feeling that will pass.

If you feel like you can’t let go of the feeling, ask yourself, “Why?  What do I need to look at?  What is holding me back from letting go?” A past event or experience will often surface if you ask with a feeling of curiosity and let yourself be open to any answer that comes. You may need to go back to Step 2 if this is the case.

Repeating this step over the course of several days gives your subconscious mind time to bring the issue to the surface, and you may find that it’s easier to let go of it piece by piece instead of all in one fell swoop.

If you’ve experienced a deep betrayal of your self at some time in your life, your processing time may be longer than someone who hasn’t had many traumatic experiences. Be sure to be compassionate with yourself as you go through the process.

4. Help yourself remember that life can be good.

After you’ve let go of some feelings, call a supportive friend to talk about something else, go to a movie, or join a group that’s going to a fun place. Anything you enjoy doing is fine.

When someone hurts us, it’s human nature to hold on to the hurt, because we think that somehow, if we can figure it out, it won’t be as painful. But you hurt yourself all over again when you hold on to a bad feeling—thinking about past experiences can drag you down and make you miserable over time.

It feels much better to let them go, just let their energy drift out of your body and mind. Once you do, you can see everything a little more clearly, and be a little more in touch with your authentic self.

Of course it’s always prudent to seek help if your emotions seem too overwhelming, or if you find that they prevent you from functioning in life.

But if you continue this process over a period of time, eventually the old feelings will become a memory, rather than a shadow that lives with you day in and day out, and you’ll be living more from your authentic self than from your past experiences.

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