The Work I do Daily for My Mental Health

Ask yourself

Who chooses to believe the truth is really not the issue. The issue is that we know it and we can hold our head high going forward feeling released, resolved and clear that who and what the narcissist is, is NOT our reality.

This website I share below has been very helpful to me the past year. I did complete the free 16 day Recovery Course offered there, I still read the info I got off and on. This sentence above is what the main thing is and what I came to accept.

Who chooses to believe what, my version or theirs, isn’t the issue. I know the truth of this situation and as a result of all this acceptance, I feel released, resolved, and clear that the Adult Tenant Bullies is, is not my reality. Their words and the life they show of Stella Reddy in stellareddy.com, is not me. It took a long time to get this confident over these facts.

But to do this, we do need to turn inwards and confront and heal all that is being triggered off within us, that is causing us to obsess, panic, overreact and hand our power away.

I do the inner work I need, every day, to confront and heal all that is being triggered by their words within me that is causing me to obsess, panic, overreact, and hand my power of my own voice away. I have done so much work on myself and my emotions, that I am no longer triggered emotionally to what they write. Well, not like I use to be anyway! I still get angry, but that seems to be the only emotion left within me toward their actions and it is less and less every day!

I have no more sadness, no more hopelessness. I have acceptance. I have hope, and so much gratitude for my life and the freedom to live it. I have peace, not only in my heart, but in my life. I have choice. I can choose who I talk too, who I spend time around. I can choose not to be around negative people, to allow their hate to affect my emotions. Everything written by Adult Tenant Bullies is not the reality of my life and never was and I see that now.

I no longer choose to accept their hateful words and judgments of me, as they just do not count. They do not count. As they say, never take advice from strangers…

 

 

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Exposing a Narcissist With The Truth

Personally, I have found that false selves hang themselves with their lies. They act pathologically, create mayhem that causes scrutiny and then try to lie their way out of it.

If you have the clear-cut facts and are no longer swayed by sentimentality, making excuses for them, or wishing they can be different (which is such a relief and totally achievable when you work with my NARP full recovery system), then you are very capable of executing ‘how to expose a narcissist’ effectively.

Document facts. Share them with key people. Expose what has really happened. Keep conversations exposed, transparent and under eyes and therefore accountable.

The narcissist knows you are flushing out the truth and exposing them and will twist and turn trying to find an angle (which of course won’t be the truth) and, if you have your facts, inevitably dig themselves deeper. Very shortly after that they will depart and leave you alone.  The game’s up. Why keep trying when people start working out who they are?

It’s so important, as you walk the straight line in truth, that you have released your trauma and you have no qualms about investigating and getting facts. Be very clear you deserve to know the truth.

What is also vital when working with ‘how to expose a narcissist’, is that you have released all your dependencies on the narcissist for anything in your life. The narcissist will punish and desert you and not do the right thing with care, sensitivity, remorse, accountability, money, settlement or custody, and will try to make you ‘need’ them in order to continue punishing you and hooking you in.

Therefore, release all these ties, emotional and practical, and become a source to yourself. If you do this and walk and generate your truth, the narcissist will be powerless to manipulate you, hurt you or possibly even smear you. Truly, anyone who believes their version is not worth having in your life, and you will find that so many more credible and real people do clearly get the truth.

What is important is that you know the truth, this person is exposed as pathological and is not healthy or welcome in your life, and you are determined to detox them and create a happy, healthy life for yourself and those you love.

There is no greater up-level, relief and clarity than that.

Becoming “Anti-Fear”

When knowing how to expose a narcissist, the number 1 criteria is to become anti-fear.

This is what I wrote in another article earlier this year: 

“Narcissists can only get you through your fear …. your fear feeds them power. It is the figurative bullets that they load up in their gun to shoot you with. When we are triggered by the fear of what the narcissist may do, we react and try to expose the narcissist and frantically appeal to others to help us. Yet, people don’t want to get involved. They shut doors in our face, don’t listen, don’t care, switch off, and even turn against us. And, you are shocked to see how the narcissist twists it all by making you out to be the wrong and crazy one. This can lead you to lose credibility, court settlements, and even your children.”

This is why, in every area of our life, love, workplace, court, any situation at all, the inner work on ourselves is everything so that we can show up in our power, the inner solidness and truth, and we just walk this line: ‘Really? NO that was not the truth. This actually is.’

Who chooses to believe the truth is really not the issue. The issue is that we know it and we can hold our head high going forward feeling released, resolved and clear that who and what the narcissist is, is NOT our reality.

Then we will be astounded by how the rest of life follows.

The deal is always this: good people have good people in their lives. Once we leave pathological people behind and purge their toxicity from within us, we stop feeling sick. We get well, and so does our life. Whereas, the narcissist’s life is always going to be fraught with disruption, pain and stop/starts. That doesn’t change.

People start to see the truth. Many people don’t trust the narcissist anyway, they get a bad vibe off him or her even from the beginning. How many people in your life have told you that, after you ended relationships with the narcissist, or even when you were in the relationship with them?

Life is really not that great for them, and the more you build and create your life from an authentic space, the more their lies and punishment regarding you falls apart. Know this to be true.

But to do this, we do need to turn inwards and confront and heal all that is being triggered off within us, that is causing us to obsess, panic, overreact and hand our power away.

There are many Thrivers in the community who have exposed and won against narcissists in so many areas of their life, as a result of using NARP to release their internal triggers, so that they show up formidably and truthfully in their power.

 

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