The Unfortunate Reality: Feeling Sorry for Adults Who Bully Others on Websites

I have encountered toxic individuals who engage in cyberbullying and smear campaigns, leaving a trail of destruction in their wake. The smearing of me has been ongoing for 7 years now and I don’t see it ending anytime soon. I feel sorry for these individuals, they refuse to grow and persist in playing the victim. I have grown beyond them and their antics.

These toxic tenants need professional help. It is now December 2023 and even after losing all the legal applications they filed against me and others in October 2017-January 2020, they are still trying to damage my reputation with their false allegations of racism against me. In my opinion, if they haven’t been able to convince anyone by now, they never will. I have been shown I am safe from their many websites and nothing will come out of them against me. Their time is done and I have grown beyond them.

It is disheartening to witness adults stooping so low in their behaviour, and as I reflect on my own experiences, I feel genuine pity for these individuals. They are lost souls with no compassion or empathy and in the end, this will ruin their own lives, not mine.

The true character is revealed through their persistent actions on their websites, and it is through these actions that their character is unmistakably portrayed. As such, it is evident that it is their conduct, rather than mine, that becomes the defining factor in shaping public perception and understanding. Consequently, their websites become a window through which observers can gain insight into their true selves, not mine.

My journey into the realm of online toxicity began when I stumbled upon 859kennedyroad.com in December 2017. This website showed up not even a month after they received their Eviction Notice from the Landlord and Tenant Board (LTB) to vacate on October 31, 2017, so it is easy to assume it was revenge for this eviction.

It is terrible to have Tenants be so toxic to others! In the end, though, they were evicted and decided to walk away from the applications they filed with the Human Rights Tribunal of Ontario (HRTO) in January 2020. I started feeling sorry for them after this, as they wasted so much energy and time on that 19-month process, all for nothing.

While my personal experience may have been very distressing, it reminded me of the unexpressed pain and unresolved issues that may underlie the attitude of these toxic individuals. One cannot help but wonder: what could drive an adult to engage in such reprehensible behaviour? They should be pitied, not feared.

To start understanding toxic tenants, we must explore their toxic traits. My education is what saved me! Often, toxic individuals harbour deep-seated insecurities and suffer from low self-esteem. Their overwhelming outrage only served to reinforce my decision to evict them due to their clear violation of the entry rules, all while they held onto the misguided belief that they were entitled to such behaviour. Despite their attempts to sway others with their words, it was evident that they had no genuine understanding of who I am, therefore, their allegations will never be accepted. Who will ever accept that a past tenant knows my thoughts, beliefs, and personality as well as they claim in the contents of stellareddy.com?

They also couldn’t accept the shame of being to blame for their family’s eviction, they had to look for someone else to blame instead. Unable to cope with their own personal and emotional challenges, they resort to bullying others as a means of boosting their ego. By inflicting pain or humiliation on others, they momentarily manage to suppress their own internal struggles. This twisted mechanism exemplifies their desperate need for control and validation and it is easy to see.

Unfortunately, toxic tenants rarely limit their harmful actions to individuals. They often engage in smear campaigns, spreading false rumours and manipulating others against their targets, compounding the pain and harm experienced by the victims. These campaigns attempt to isolate their targets, leaving them without a support system and exacerbating their feelings of superiority.

This is where sites of stellareddy.com, lorriereddy.com, davidstrashin.com, 859kennedyroad.com, sjtomemberkevinlundy.com and socialjusticetribunalsontario.ca came into play as soon as they started losing legal applications. Now, they have a new target, connaughtpublicschool.com.

I have watched their online antics for the past 7 years and realize that it doesn’t work. No one believes a word they have written, or said, about me, as they have no influence and are not able to convince anyone of the validity of their words. If they had any influence, it would have shown by now. Their personal opinions don’t count, no matter how much importance they place on them.

When examining the motivations behind the behaviour of toxic adults, I came to accept that they are projecting their own frustrations and failures onto me and others. By demeaning and belittling others’ achievements, they temporarily alleviate their feelings of inadequacy. It is crucial to realize that these individuals might be dealing with unresolved traumas from their past or internal conflicts they are ill-equipped to confront. They need professional help!

Furthermore, the anonymity provided by online platforms can unleash a darker side of human behaviour. Many individuals find solace in the freedom from consequence, allowing them to indulge in acts of cruelty without facing immediate repercussions. This anonymity provides a seemingly safe haven for their toxic tendencies to flourish, unhindered by guilt or accountability. Eventually, though, they are exposed! Karma is real!

In our collective struggle against online toxicity, it is easy to demonize the individuals who engage in such behaviour. However, adopting a more compassionate stance can lead to a healthier and more productive approach. While their actions are inexcusable, remembering that toxic individuals might be suffering from their own internal battles allows us to develop empathy and understanding, without condoning or validating their actions. They should be pitied, not feared.

Moreover, instead of responding to their toxicity with further negativity, we can strive to address the root causes of their behaviour. I am encouraging them to seek help for personal development that could potentially redirect their energy toward more positive endeavours. Although it may seem like a difficult and uncertain road, it is essential to note that change is always possible. Nothing stays the same, does it?

I have seen their list of degrading websites come and go over the past 7 years so I now see them as the “Boy who cried wolf”. These Toxic tenants have called out “racism” against so many individuals over the past 7 years, so much so that no one believes them anymore. Lies do get exposed over time.

There once was a boy who lived in a small village. He would spend his days taking care of the village’s flock of sheep. One day, while watching over the sheep, he got bored and decided to play a trick on the villagers.

He yelled out, “Wolf! Wolf! There’s a wolf attacking the sheep!” The villagers, alarmed by his cries, dropped everything they were doing and rushed to help. However, when they arrived at the scene, they found no wolf at all. The boy laughed, thinking it was a clever prank.

A few days later, the boy got bored again and thought he would play the same trick on the villagers. Once more, he shouted, “Wolf! Wolf! Please help!” Again, the villagers rushed to his aid, but they found no wolf. The boy laughed even harder, thinking he had fooled everyone once again.

One afternoon, a real wolf came creeping towards the flock of sheep. The boy, realizing the danger, quickly screamed, “Wolf! Wolf! Help, please!” But this time, when the villagers heard his cries, they didn’t come running. They had grown tired of the boy’s pranks and assumed he was lying again.

The wolf attacked the flock of sheep, scattering them in fear. The boy tried to protect them, but it was too late. The villagers, realizing their mistake, came running, but the damage was done. The boy had cried wolf one too many times, and now the villagers couldn’t save the sheep.

This story teaches us the importance of honesty and the consequences of lying. The boy abused the trust of the villagers by pretending there was a wolf when there wasn’t. Eventually, when a real wolf arrived, no one believed him, and the consequences were severe.

Lying or exaggerating the truth may seem harmless at first, but it can lead to losing the trust and credibility of others. The boy learned this lesson the hard way, and his village had to bear the consequences of his actions. From then on, the boy realized the importance of honesty and vowed to never cry wolf again.

Toxic individuals who perpetrate cyberbullying and smear campaigns on websites are undoubtedly responsible for a great deal of pain and suffering, I have experienced this myself. However, understanding the underlying reasons behind their toxic traits and adopting pity rather than anger can help shift the narrative and establish a more compassionate approach. By fostering empathy and addressing their deep-seated issues, we pave the way for personal growth and transformation, benefiting not only these individuals but also the online communities they inhabit.


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