Integrity is something I am very familiar with, as I try really hard to live in congruence with my values in all things I do. I share below some of the articles I found on Psychology Today about integrity that resonated with me. You can read the whole thing from the link below!
I know what is important to me, in this situation, and that is for me to become so strong in myself that the opinions of Toxic Tenants, won’t bother me and I have reached that goal! While I appreciate these people should be free to voice their personal opinions, the way they go about it is Toxic and very damaging to the lives of their Targets named within. Justice is needed for all they have done to so many individuals, all out of revenge.
Having my own website, filled with the facts about this situation I experienced, also helped me to reflect on what I needed to help in my recovery. In each article I share, I gain valuable insights that help get me where I am today, which is free of the trauma bond with my abusers. I no longer consider their opinions about me as they have become irrelevant, as they do not reflect who I really am but who they think I am.
The truth is that they are not familiar enough with my personal life to make the statements they do in their content and it was in self-reflection that I came to that realization!
I am accountable for my actions. I have admitted I made mistakes during the legal process with the Human Rights Tribunal of Ontario in that I “reacted” at times based on my emotions, rather than responding appropriately. I learned a lot from that experience.
I even made mistakes in the early days with my own angry-filled content on previous websites I had, which is why they are no longer there. These previous websites didn’t align with my values and caused cognitive dissonance within me, and they had to go. Some of my earlier posts here are also angry, but that is okay, I came to see that those reactions were normal for my situation. I don’t mind people seeing some of my earlier writings as you can see my growth since then.
Yes, those sites bother me, as I am a human being with feelings. The contents of their many sites try to erase me as an individual of my own into the individual they want you to accept. All of their words and actions against me are very degrading and vicious and would affect anyone! I have no problem owning my mistakes and accepting my part in the mess this became and the Toxic Bullies should do the same, but I know that won’t happen. I know that my choices are my responsibility, no one else can force me to do anything, not even make a website. That decision is mine and mine alone, just like I know it is theirs. We are all adults!
Taking accountability for your actions helps you grow as a person and builds trust. As that is the type of person I prefer to be, I gladly own up to my mistakes. I don’t want to be like the Toxic Tenants I had and go around blaming other people for my problems. I know that my choices are my responsibility, no one else can force me to do anything, not even make a website. That decision is mine and mine alone.
I have remained consistent in that I know the websites of stellareddy.com, lorriereddy.com, davidstrashin.com, sjtomemberkevinlundy.com, and socialjusticetribunalsontario.ca. rooseveltskerrit.com, connaughtpublicschool.com, and stcatherinesanimalhospital.com are owned and managed by the same people, previous Tenants who were evicted, and those sites were their revenge for various reasons. Nothing has ever changed my mind about that belief I have. KR & AR are Toxic Adult Bullies, everything I have read about the behaviour I have been exposed to from them, tells me the same things!
I have also been very consistent in the fact that the alleged “prior meeting” they claim at some restaurant “sometime in June” didn’t happen. They lied and I have the evidence to prove it.
Being honest is very important to a person with anxiety like mine, as it alleviates my anxiety to be honest with people, and even myself. Truth is easier to remember, as well as bare facts. I can’t lie for shit, I go all red-faced and you can tell I am uncomfortable, which is why I don’t do it. I prefer to be honest, as it also saves time. While I didn’t always share my innermost feelings all the time with other people, I did with the ones who mattered to me.
There were times during HRTO when I was a little too open and honest about my feelings and how this situation was affecting me, as the Toxic Bullies took that info and made new degrading posts about it on their own sites.
Ethical decision-making is easy for me to do, as they need to align with my values. I seek Justice for the decisions Toxic Bullies made to create a Smear Campaign on the internet in my name. I decided to make my own website where I share everything that was said and done, by all parties to this situation, so people can make informed decisions about it, if they so choose. I too have a voice.
I know I have been a good role model for both of my children and even my nieces and nephews and their children, as they tell me all the time. They know of my many struggles with my physical health, even my mental health, and see me deal with them very pragmatically and do all I can gladly to help me have a better quality of life. I am practical when it comes to getting treatments, including surgeries, as I know the pain will be temporary and in the end, I will feel better. No pain, no gain, as they say!
Do what feels right for you, and you will never go wrong.
The Integral Role of Integrity
How living in congruence with your values improves overall wellness.
KEY POINTS
- Integrity is a steadfast commitment to moral and ethical principles, promoting personal and collective well-being.
- Upholding integrity is linked to increased self-esteem, life satisfaction, mental health, emotional stability, and workplace success.
- Living with integrity involves self-reflection, accountability, consistency, honesty and transparency, and ethical decision-making,
Conceptualized as an unwavering commitment to moral and ethical principles, integrity is, simply put, doing the right thing even when nobody is watching. Upholding integrity speaks to an individual’s inner strength and values and serves as a moral compass guiding their actions. In an increasingly complex and interconnected society, understanding the effect of integrity on individual and collective well-being is essential, as it fosters trust and collaboration among people from diverse backgrounds and perspectives.
Five Ways to Live with Integrity
- Self-reflection: Spend time reflecting on your values and beliefs to better understand what is important to you. By identifying your core values, you can make more informed decisions that align with your principles.
- Accountability: Take responsibility for your actions, both successes and failures. Own up to it when you make a mistake and learn from the experience. Demonstrating accountability increases trust and credibility with others, strengthening your integrity.
- Consistency: Strive to be consistent in your words and actions. Ensure that your behavior aligns with your values and principles, even when no one is watching. Consistency is critical to building a solid foundation of integrity.
- Honesty and transparency: Be honest and transparent in your communication with others. Share your thoughts and feelings openly and be willing to listen and consider different perspectives. Practicing honesty and transparency helps cultivate trust and fosters strong relationships.
- Ethical decision-making: When faced with difficult decisions, consider your choices’ ethical implications and potential consequences. Seek guidance from trusted friends, family, or mentors to determine the best action.
Impact on Future Generations
Integrity is a critical component of personal character that has far-reaching implications for individual and collective well-being. H. Jackson Brown Jr. once said, “Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of you.” This quote is a powerful reminder of the lasting impact of our actions on future generations. By understanding and promoting the value of integrity, we strive to be role models, embodying fairness, caring, and integrity in every aspect of our lives. In doing so, we can work towards a more compassionate and resilient world where the well-being of individuals and communities is prioritized and nurtured.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/beyond-school-walls/202304/the-integral-role-of-integrity
