“You will get through this challenge, like you have the others. Hard times can leave battle scars, but they also leave you with the experience of getting to the other side of it. That has great value because if you remember that you did it before, you can do it again.”
Thoughts like this are what gets me through each and every challenge I face, every single day. I am old enough to have faced many of life’s challenges, mental and physical, so I am not inexperienced and have many battle scars. This simple trick, of reminding myself who I am and what I have experienced, and survived through already, is very empowering for me, as I know I can get through this too. I know I can get through anything life wants to throw at me!
Take the broken ankle, I am dealing with it better because of my past experiences with broken bones. It is almost healed now, by the way. Still building strength in my ankle but also been working on my knees and hips too, trying to build up strength and endurance. I am taking full advantage of Physio!
It is a very simple thought of survival. I am 56 now and I have survived through some awful shit, not just this terrible smear campaign that has been going on for almost 6 yrs, that has taught me numerous life skills to help me manage to get to the other side of it. I deserve to have a life and deserve to have peace of mind to live it. I don’t deserve to be a target of Adult Bullies, no one does.
Just this smear campaign alone, taught me many tricks to help me get through each day and I learned so much about human nature and what another person is capable of. My education alone on Narcissism and Adult Bullies, has shown me what to look for now in others. As the article below says, knowledge is power and the more you know, the better you are able to protect yourself. I know I will never be fooled again.
It taught me to appreciate the people I do have in my life and I now know that it isn’t how many you have, it is the quality of people that you have.
“Knowledge is power and knowing you can beat this thing, because you have before, is empowering. It is a way of keeping things in perspective and putting to use what you have learned from past experiences. This works for physical issues as well as emotional ones.”
Other than that year I was in Grade 9, I was never Bullied before so I didn’t really know what it was like. I never before had someone gossip about me so badly to other people, and especially not on a domain in my personal name they stole to use, like Kory & Allison Read have done. I didn’t know such viciousness existed. I had no such experience to use to help me get thru this smear campaign and cyberbullying being done to me by Adult Tenant Bullies, but I did have other things I could pull strength from. Any experience from my past where I needed resilience to get thru, I used in this situation.
Come on, it’s almost 6 years in this nasty vicious Smear Campaign and Cyberbullying of me online in various domains, not just stellareddy.com, and I am still here!! I am even being so bold as to sharing my story of how I am getting through it, exposing more of myself online in the process, even while those sites are still there! I will never doubt my strength and resilience to get through anything, ever again.
I sit here today, still free from Kory & Allison Read many lies and implications on my personal life, as no amount of word salad will ever convince anyone that they know me like they imply, it is too obvious he is speculating, and in such a nasty way too! Kory Read’s allegations became too outlandish and improbable over time to be believed. How would he know what he says is true, is the question on everyone’s minds these days…
Learn this trick, and it will help relieve some of the anguish you feel when in a difficult situation. No matter how old you are, I am sure you will have some past experience you can channel from, that is similar, to help you. Remember, every experience we ever have in our lifetime, we can learn something from it, no matter how small.
I know now I will always thrive, not just survive, as that is who I am. I will always find a way out the other side, as I am worth it.
I will use anything I can to help me achieve that, as I deserve it. I deserve to have my little corner of peace where I can live out the rest of my life in joy and comfort, far away from nasty gossip of others trying to tear me down, and I will ensure I get it.
How to relieve the mental anguish of a difficult situation.
According to research from the National Institute of Health, “Emotional distress is a state of mental anguish that can take a wide variety of forms. It may result from a mental health issue or particular circumstances, such as relationship difficulties or financial strain.”
When you are facing a stressful situation, there is one technique that has helped many people. It is simple, and while it can bring up some stressful memories, the good news is that your past pains can help you get through what you are dealing with.
If life in general or something specific is giving you anxiety, making you feel depressed, and has you stressed out, you need to remember a time when things were worse. Perhaps not the same type of issue, but one in which the emotional toll was similar.
Look at the costs of what you went through before: emotional, financial, time, and energy all add up. If you have lived through other experiences that had similar costs, then you can and will live through this one. If it’s only about money, be grateful because you can make it back. Health is a different dynamic, so be grateful for problems of prosperity.
Your emotions can be flying all over the place when things get difficult or go insanely wrong, and that is where you need to start. You can gain some control over your situation by finding a place to put your emotions that you recognize as familiar. But you have to make the choice not to let the negative emotions get you down, or at least fight to keep them from doing more damage.
Life is difficult and problems happen too often. That’s why you must learn to gather and harness your emotional fortitude. Learn to tell yourself, in a positive way, that you have been through many other difficult things. Some have turned out better than you expected, and some may not have. The good news is that you got through them and now you are on the other side of the issue. And soon you will be on the other side of this one, too.
Knowledge is power and knowing you can beat this thing, because you have before, is empowering. It is a way of keeping things in perspective and putting to use what you have learned from past experiences. This works for physical issues as well as emotional ones.
Humans have an incredible ability to adapt. In fact, it’s so good that we usually don’t recognize we have done it. But you have and are adapting to your life right now and that will continue, thankfully, because change is the only constant in our lives, and so it is wise to get as comfortable as possible with it.
You will get through this challenge, like you have the others. Hard times can leave battle scars, but they also leave you with the experience of getting to the other side of it. That has great value because if you remember that you did it before, you can do it again.