Gaslighting is one of the worst things in life you can experience as in the end, you begin to question everything and everyone. I became so suspicious that everyone I met will eventually turn on me, just like Toxic Adult Bullies have alluded they would do. In the end, I became a very insecure person, afraid to move for fear of someone saying something to me about it. I am getting past that these days and it don’t affect me as it did. The past few months living in Newfoundland have helped open my eyes… I am rebuilding myself here.
Once you gain some knowledge of this term and why is it done, you become more aware of it and can recognize it in action. Once you know what is going on, you will find it doesn’t affect you as much… it still gives you the willies, but you can get past it faster! It is very frustrating to see your every action and word questioned and speculated on what it means by total strangers who have no idea who you are. There is no way Toxic Adult Bullies can know for sure what your motives are but Gaslighting makes you question your own reality, especially when you read it so often!
Toxic Adult Bullies is very familiar with Gaslighting, and you can see it within his writings everywhere, online and in what I have. It is his go-to thing to do over everything I have written or said in my own defence. He takes what I write and re-writes it, claiming it didn’t happen the way I said it did…
All the pages I linked below, contain Gaslighting by Toxic Adult Bullies
Toxic Adult Bullies is trying to convince you, over 5 pages at that, that I was the Property Manager at that property though my job contract says differently. This is pure Gaslighting, as though there is evidence showing his words are all a lie, it doesn’t matter to this person, he still wants you to believe what he says instead of everything else.
When you hear and read this so much as I did, you do question yourself but my job contract is a reality I came to believe instead. Words are nothing to me anymore, evidence is all it is about now.
It is mind-boggling to me actually how someone can write so much about a subject they have no clue about in the first place. These pages show Toxic Adult Bullies determination to be believed, even over the person doing that job every day. It was my job, got paid even and had to do taxes, yet here is KR telling you what my life is all about. No wonder my mind got screwed up so badly!
This page about Donald Trump is another example of Gaslighting. Logically, I know that if this meme was actually on someone else’s Twitter account, then how could Toxic Adult Bullies have it to share as he has? In reality, this meme was posted by Toxic Adult Bullies on his own Twitter and I called him an asshole. It had nothing to do with Donald Trump, but with the owner of the Twitter account, Toxic Adult Bullies. AS Toxic Adult Bullies is posting anonymously, he made it look this way on purpose. Something else in which to gaslight Stella Reddy over…
This page below is Gaslighting and Triangulation. This is what Gaslighting is, the words below telling you what Stella Reddy is and is not, according to Toxic Adult Bullies. He implies and that is enough for him. It is Gaslighting, trying to get you into believing what he writes about me.
Stella Reddy over the past 3 years has played and regurgitated The Victim Routine on so many different levels on social media, websites, legal documents and with individuals she has spoken too with in hopes of getting pity.
One has to believe that this little performance / routine must have worked well for Stella Reddy in the past. As she has no problem with playing the routine at every chance she gets, even though it is not related.
If this is true that Stella Reddy did not understand what the word Mulatto meant.
Let us note that she did use the word Mulatto in the correct context when referencing the interracial married couple / tenants bi-racial children at the time.
How is it possible that Stella Reddy can still claim that she did not understand what racial slur Mulatto meant while using it in the correct context?
And there you have it, Stella Reddy The Liar!
It appears that Stella Reddy wants the world to believe that a Caucasian, late 50’s female, born and raised in Canada, with a diverse family did not know what the word Mullato meant.
For Stella Reddy to even try and convince anyone of this, only shows here desperation to try and free herself of her own racist and anti-black actions.
What is next? Stella Reddy will claim she does not know what the N-word or Jigga-Boo means. And again she will have to her niece to get some cultural awareness lessons on inappropriate vocabulary.
This is so ridicules for Stella Reddy to make such a far absurd statement. It crosses the border into bizarre.
Stella Reddy and offenders always have some type of excuses for their racist behavior and it is never because of their own doing.
The Liar / Catch Me If You Can Routine does not always have to make sense and actually most times it doesn’t. But it does not stop people like Stella Reddy from trying.
Stella Reddy is the typical racist and a horrible liar!
Did we all just witness Stella Reddy commit a Freudian slip?
The Freudian slip was named after Sigmund Freud and it is believed to be an error in speech, memory, or a physical action that occurs due to the interference that is linked to the unconscious mind.
These slips apparently reveal the real and true thoughts and go against what is being said.
It basically means that despite telling a lie, your subconscious allows the truth to slip out without notice to the speaker.
Stella Reddy does not say that ALL of interracial married couple / tenants accusation of racism are false.
What she does she says is A LOT of their accusation are false.
So this has to means that some of the interracial married couple / tenants accusations of racism and anti-black behavior made against Stella Reddy, Luigi Liscio and his son Anthony Liscio are true, as they are not false.
You see the brain is an amazing thing. It has a mind of its own and it is not natural for it to want to lie.
You see small acts of dishonesty by an individual’s sometimes need to evolve into more significant lies. In other words, lies breed lies. It is at this time the brain has to learn to desensitize to the dishonesty.
Stella Reddy consciously denies every accusation of racist and anti-black behavior claims made against her by the interracial married couple / tenants.
But then states in a public form, to the racist SJTO member Kevin Lundy on her own free will that and a lot of their accusations are false.
You will see reading this website that Stella Reddy is a absolute horrible liar.
With this current performance by Stella Reddy. This is what we like to call The Liar / Catch Me If You Can Routine.
You see Stella Reddy and other offenders will deny and lie about everything and see what the accuser can prove. Then if proven true, they continue to deny and now claim they are twisting your words.
This is a classic performance/routine by Stella Reddy and other racist.
For Stella Reddy to even try and convince anyone of this only shows her desperation to try and free herself of her racist words and anti-black actions against the interracial married couple / tenants.
This defense of being from Newfoundland is so ridicules for Stella Reddy use that it is incomprehensible as to how it is suppose to justify her behavior?
The facts are that Stella Reddy has no fear in using offensive slurs, language an racist rhetoric.
Like Mark Meadows she surrounds herself with a support network of like minded individuals.
You know the saying. Show me your network of family and friends and I will show you what your all about.
Same with these parking pages… Gaslighting you into believing that I was stupid to do for others I wouldn’t do for these tenants, knowing they would find out and use their big mouths to complain over it… Just what they did on these pages.
Toxic Adult Bullies tries to get you to believe that they were entitled to a free parking space, yet he has no proof of it. Gaslighting, trying to get you to believe their claims of free parking though they have no documentation proving it. Such jealousy was expressed there as well, jealous that others had parking, some even with 2 spots, and here they couldn’t even get one. They are so jealous they have to write about my 2 vehicles too! If they weren’t jealous over that, why mention it? My vehicles were none of his business and neither were the other tenants.
Before we start. Let it be noted that the interracial married couple / tenants we entitled to one parking space with the rental of the unit and it was free. Stella Reddy ALWAYS forgets to tell people this important fact!
So on March 14, 2018 at 10:44 am the interracial married couple / tenants notified Stella Reddy by text that they had just bought a brand new car and we requesting a parking space.
The BBQs is pure Gaslighting as Toxic Adult Bullies refuse to even mention there are different types of BBQ’s out there, such as electric. Toxic Adult Bullies is Gaslighting that all BBQs are the same when they are not.
I am sure that readers of his sites will believe that Stella Reddy was stupid enough also to allow her own sister to move in with a propane BBQ after getting other tenants to remove them. Especially when it could be seen from the balcony, as the pics he shares show. Do I strike you as stupid? So frustrating, these traits.
This page, on Karma, is interesting in its Gaslighting. There is also so much triangulation here as well with the owners! I could tell Toxic Adult Bullies was pissed over this page I shared on July 26, 2020, where I talk of speaking to Ontario Health and Safety.
I write about Ontario Health and Safety and Toxic Adult Bullies has to speculate on what he thinks it means and degrade me in the process over mental health issues. Toxic Adult Bullies isn’t a doctor yet is proceeding to diagnose me, as he always does when he is mad.
Gaslighting by trying to convince you that we were evicted, or fired, and as a result, can’t afford to pay rent there anymore and have to leave. Of course, he refuses to write that we decided to quit and move out on our own. That option isn’t mentioned as it shows we had a choice, not that we were being forced like he wanted to believe.
Gaslighting you to believe that my mental health issues are fake and imaginary as of course Toxic Adult Bullies refuse to believe his actions have any effect on it.
I called Health & Safety after I found out the property owners were not going to go to Civil Court over the websites online by Toxic Adult Bullies and wanted to know what our options were and they gave me quite a few. The main one was to leave and get away from the threat these domains, and their contents represented to my health and my personal safety. My Husband gave a Month’s written Notice on August 14, 2020, but they knew since June we were leaving in September 2020. it took about 3 months to plan this move and to build up the funds to do it with! Yes, we had plans to retire at Kennedy Rd, but plans changed.
We left Ontario as I could no longer deal with the severe fear generated within me with those domains online as they are. I truly believe that Toxic Adult Bullies was trying to instigate others against me and I still believe it. His words give him away…
Stella Reddy posted on her blog yesterday July 26, 2020
So why the sudden change of heart by Stella Reddy?
Because either the racist Stella Reddy and her enabler husband Russell Reddy have been evicted from their unit at 859 Kennedy Road by Luigi Liscio and his son Anthony Lisico.
Or Luigi Liscio and his son Anthony Liscio have finally decided that the websites are to much for them and have finally fired Russell Reddy after 4 years of a media-oker cleaning around the building.
No matter what the reason, it does mean that Stella Reddy and her enabling husband Russell Reddy can not afford to pay the rent to live there anymore and have to “cut all ties to this building and to Ontario. I am going home” to Newfoundland
Either way it appears that the racist Stella Reddy and her enabling husband Russell Reddy are on the move due to something Luigi Licio and his son Anthony Lisico have done. And they are pissed off about it. Threatening to now get the Ontario Health And Safety after them!
Stella Reddy’s big plan that she continuously bragged and boosted about to retire and live a happy conformable life at 859 Kennedy Road are NOW OVER!
You see Stella Reddy and her enbaling husband Russell Reddy can not afford to live in Toronto, as NEITHER ONE OF THEM ARE PROBABLY WORKING now, and Stella Reddy, who is leeching off the Government of Canada for her Canada Pension Plan Disability Benefits only gets as she states “$694.16 per month”
It is amazing is how Stella Reddy conveniently was able to suddenly work in June 2016, despite her February 2015 Cervical Spinal Stenosis diagnosis of which got her approved for for her Canada Pension Plan in March 2016.
“at the time, I was not able to work due to a newly diagnoses of Cervical Spinal Stenosis, which was causing severe pain in my left side from my neck that I developed in Feb 2015, and this is why I had to stop working. As we had worked in this property for 3 years as building staff, the management approved us for an apartment. It was also during this time that I closed my personal bank account and is currently using my husbands. Due to the stenosis I applied and was approved for CPP Disability in March 2016, which I am still receiving.”
Stella Reddy also likes to claim that she has imaginary Post-traumatic stress disorder ( PTSD ) from a house fire in Newfoundland back 29 years ago in 1991.
Stella Reddy’s behavior is an insult to all individuals who really have PTSD.
Stella Reddy uses her conveniently fabricate PTSD as a crutch and a way to to leech off the Canadian government. Just like she did to her husband and enabler Russell Reddy when she decided she wanted to retire from Property Management and live off his small cleaning income.
Stella Reddy constantly plays the pity card as she tries to relate the events from June 2016 to present for her PTSD.
Post-traumatic stress disorder ( PTSD ) is a mental health condition that’s triggered by a terrifying event — either experiencing it or witnessing it.
Stella Reddy house fire has never been an issue in her conveniently fabricate PTSD.
Stella Reddy has never claimed to have the symptoms of flashbacks, nightmares, severe anxiety, as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the fire that night 29 years ago.
Stella Reddy always relates her conveniently fabricate PTSD as being related to the situation in which she created with her racist and anti-black behavior.
Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …
she had a pattern of her making the interracial married couple / tenants sit around all day, waiting 3 times for her and she never bothered to show up, without notice.
Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when ……when she was plotting and serving illegal N5’s against the interracial married couple / tenants.
Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …she was throwing away the key to their unit to justify her illegal N5 to get them evicted.
Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …she was in front of the racist Caucasian Social Justice Tribunal Member Kevin Lundy of September 26, 2017, lying and providing altered and false documents as evidence to have the interracial married couple / tenants evicted.
Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …she refused interracial married couple / tenants parking at the building, but at the same time gave the all-white tenant that same privilege she was refusing the interracial married couple / tenants.
She did not have PTSD when …When she deliberately lied and stated that the the interracial married couple / tenants were the only tenants with a barbecue despite there being 4 other tenants. One being her own sister Cindy Jones.
Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …When she showed support that she was a racist Donald Trump on Twitter.
Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …When she threatened to call the Children’s Aid Society on the interracial married couple / tenants bi racial children, twice.
Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …When using racial slurs, racist actions, derogatory and prejudice language during the ltb hearing in a public form.
Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …When she messaged the the interracial married couple / tenants two young bi-racial children with hateful content on Facebook messenger.
And the list goes on forever.When everything was going in Stella Reddy’s favor, there WAS NO ISSUE OF PTSD. But now that Stella Reddy feels like the world is crashing down around her. And she is beginning held accountable for her actions and having to answers for her behavior.
Now the conveniently fabricate PTSD is an issue that she wants people to believe. It appears to be a convenient illness that Stella Reddy has been using for years for multiple reasons to try and gain pity and sympathy.
Stella Reddy is a fake and is milking the Canadian Government like others do in order to not have to work full time, if at all.
As it has been proven time and time again. Stella Reddy is a liar, a really bad liar. And the pattern of her lying only continues with her conveniently fabricate PTSD.
As Stella Reddy stated before “I am a firm believer in Karma!”
Yes, Karma has spoken and like she did to interracial married couple / tenants. The racist Stella Reddy and her enabling husband Russell Reddy will be moving and they will NOT BE HAVING THEIR BIG OLD RETIREMENT PARTY as they hoped and planned for at 859 Kennedy Road.
Instead they are forced to move due to their own actions and inability to recognize their own faults and misdeeds. In the end KARMA struck and now the racist Stella Reddy and her enabling husband Russell Reddy will try and run away from their racist history to Newfoundland.
When last checked Newfoundland still had the internet and people could still search up individuals by names and their history. Just in case the racist Stella Reddy and her enabling husband Russell Reddy think they can hide from the internet, their racist and anti-black behavior and these websites.
As Stella Reddy once so notably said to the interracial married couple / tenants “the truth is here and will remain.”
These pages are disgusting and show how Toxic Adult Bullies will go after anyone and everyone who shows me any support, don’t matter who you are. If you show me support, your name will be trashed on this domain. He went after anyone and everyone, even going so far as to go to previous workplaces. This is how extremely Toxic Adult Bullies will go…
More Gaslighting, I recall standing there in July 2016 at the Entry Panel removing all the keyless entry codes that were in the system and I have still a copy of the Notice that went out letting tenants know it was done. Yet, here is Toxic Adult Bullies trying to Gaslight everyone into believing that I didn’t do that, that I was imagining I did that, as the code, he was given still worked. Toxic Adult Bullies wants you to believe that all the times the keyless codes were either removed on purpose or by power outages, the code he had since moving in magically still worked for him and he had no problem using it.
Toxic Adult Bullies want you to believe that Stella Reddy is a liar and that it was not possible for someone to see him use this code to gain entry. Of course, there is no way this could have happened the way Stella Reddy said it did, she is a liar and stupid and doesn’t know anything. Pure Gaslighting to me and total invalidation of Stella Reddy as another person.
Of course, Stella Reddy is not allowed to express her own personal opinions over what Toxic Adult Bullies has done. God forbid Stella Reddy to say anything about Toxic Adult Bullies’ actions and this is what happens as a result… More Gaslighting, trying to erase my version to be replaced with his own. I clearly said he “basically” bumped into me and if I hadn’t stepped back, he would have hit me and according to his version here, I said he did bump into me. How does that work? Believe me, if Toxic Adult Bullies truly hit me the Police would have been called, no question.
Toxic Adult Bullies continue to complain about me sharing their children’s names, yet it is no more. Just to shut him up, I removed their names here. Stop complaining over something that is no more!! lol I just hope Toxic Adult Bullies has stopped using them in his attempts to bully other people. It was shameful to watch this young boy stand outside by the tree and shout out to his dad about recording me on his father’s cell phone just sitting on my balcony. I wasn’t even working there then…
“Practice white privilege,” he says… Gaslighting can come in many forms. Toxic Adult Bullies is jealous that the tenants who lived right next door asked so nicely if they could be home to show my husband what was wrong with the door lock for the balcony and he gaslights this action, giving it connotations it doesn’t have. When EVER did Toxic Adult Bullies ASK about anything? All I saw were demands and outright “no” to entry requests. More triangulation with other tenants here too! Awe well, the repair issues were totally different and I can say that if our neighbours spoke to me and my husband the way Toxic Adult Bullies did, this would not have occurred. Rudeness does not get you anywhere, not in any workplace.
Gaslighting tactics are used to manipulate someone else by instilling self-doubt. Like workplace bullying, sexual harassment, and toxic talk, gaslighting is ultimately about exerting power and control over a victim. While often mentioned in the context of narcissism, gaslighting differs from narcissism in that gaslighting is not a personality disorder but rather describes the tactics used by narcissists and others to manipulate people. While gaslighters are often portrayed as insecure in their ability to lead or convince people in factual terms, a growing body of research indicates that many gaslighters simply find pleasure in controlling others.5 Or more simply, some gaslighters are pathological but many others are just “jerks.”
When gaslighting occurs, victims are left feeling uncertain and insecure and some even have difficulty ascertaining that they’re in a gaslighting situation. In extreme cases a co-dependency develops between the gaslighter and victim in which the victim, deprived of self-confidence and trusting in the gaslighter’s position of authority, doubts his/her own ability to be successful apart from the gaslighter while the gaslighter continues to shape the victim’s sense of reality. This end effect has been compared to brainwashing, cults, and totalitarian propaganda all designed to disempower people.6
Recognizing Gaslighting Behaviors
Gaslighting manifests in behaviors that either create or leverage an unequal power relationship to constantly put the victim “in their place.” Gaslighting tactics that diminish the importance of what an employee or co-worker is saying.
When interacting interpersonally, the gaslighter will often cross the line between what’s appropriate discussion in the workplace and making backhanded comments about the victim’s flaws, insecurities, appearance, education, values, religion, personality, family, hobbies and other subjects that by all social norms are considered taboo in a professional setting. Ignoring commonly accepted social boundaries implies privilege and entitlement while dehumanizing the victim by denying their rights to privacy and personhood.7
Other gaslighting techniques to dominate a conversation and maintain control of the dialogue include:
- contradiction
- shaming and humiliation
- self-aggrandizement
- distortion of facts
- off-color joking
- nit-picking
- sarcasm
- nonsensical word salads
- diminishing accomplishments
- circular reasoning
- personal attacks
- projection
In the case of contradiction, a gaslighter may deliberately argue every point of a victim’s recommendation but then, with a different audience, present the recommendation as their own. When later called on it, the gaslighter may say something like “I was just trying to understand” the victim’s point of view or they may deny any discussion occurred with the victim as it was the gaslighter’s idea all along.
When looking at facts, such as business statistics or financial results, a gaslighter will give a different interpretation that fits their needs, often in sharp contrast to what is obviously in front of everyone. When the gaslighter is the boss, people are forced to accept this “alternative reality” as ultimately gaslighting techniques are intended to confuse, disorient, frustrate, and distract individuals from the real issues at hand.
When working in teams, a gaslighter will pit team members against one another by selectively offering isolated compliments and praise, which can provoke team members to one-up each other rather than collaborating. The situation is made worse when some team members are not held accountable to the same standards. There are often one or two “protected” people (ie, those loyal to the gaslighter) that others are constantly compared to (ie, “Why can’t you do it more like Emily?”) even if those individuals appear to everyone else to have obvious shortcomings or are experiencing their own gaslighting by the perpetrator. While the gaslighter may see this comparison and competition as a form of “motivation,” it actually cements an unequal power structure and distrust among team members. Gaslighters are innately poor team members because they view relationships as competitive rather than collaborative, always with one person on top and one on the bottom.7
This is a response, rather than a reaction. My reaction at first was triggered, but after a couple of minutes, it went away. I am getting better with all this!
I have learned to see EVERYTHING that Toxic Adult Bullies writes online as GASLIGHTING of Stella Reddy’s every action and word. You will find the list below in all their content!!
- contradiction
- shaming and humiliation
- self-aggrandizement
- distortion of facts
- off-color joking
- nit-picking
- sarcasm
- nonsensical word salads
- diminishing accomplishments
- circular reasoning
- personal attacks
- projection
