Back in 1995 I learned this technique for my PTSD diagnoses. Changing your outlook on a situation does change your reactions to it.
The past couple of months of writing out my story on these pages, helped me see, especially the posts under the effects stellareddy.com has had on my life. I see so much negativity in those pages, so much angst. As so many of those posts I had written long ago for the domain I had of koryread.ca, I re-read them and realized I don’t feel all that anymore. I don’t have all that anger in me anymore, it just isn’t worth it.
I accepted that I can’t change how Kory Read & Allison Read think, but I have changed in that I don’t care anymore about what they think. Their opinions don’t matter as they have no power over any aspect of my life, they have no influence on anyone and have never been able to convince anyone of his narratives about me.
They only affected my life as I allowed it too! I know this now and will no longer allow anything they write to affect me anymore, as I do have a choice. If they had any control, they would have never have been evicted in the first place.
Interpretation matters, as it is the way that we interpret events – the meaning that we give to them – that gives rise to our feelings.
Each time I looked at stellareddy.com and thought about all the very private information Kory Read & Allison Read share there for the world to read that they got from HRTO process, it made me cringe inside. I still have days like that once in awhile, but most days now I am grateful, otherwise I would not be home in NL enjoying my freedom from stress, worry, and work!
I don’t miss working and love being free. I was down by the Lake yesterday, took the pic below of the river running into it. It was so peaceful, sitting there watching the water and listening to the birds. This is my life now and I am loving it! Why would I want to be anywhere else? I am so very grateful to Kory Read & Allison Read for pushing to me to do what I really needed to do, which was come home.
I love being here in Newfoundland and don’t want to be anywhere else. Sure, there are issues here like anywhere, but the benefits outweigh it. Just look at the scenery!! You can’t be in the middle of all this beautiful nature without appreciating it and being grateful to be alive to enjoy it!
Change the way you think, you change your reactions to it!
I will never totally think stellareddy.com being online is a good thing, but I have accepted that I can’t control it so no longer need to concern myself over it. I have no control, so I let it go. I know who I am, they do not.
stellareddy.com is the accumulation of Kory Read & Allison Read’s own personal thoughts over their eviction, expressing their anger, resentment, and condemning the very people who work for the legal tribunals that allowed their eviction to take place, as well as me and the property owners.
Rather than look at themselves and their own actions, they blame everyone else around them for bad things that happen. They never take accountability for anything they have done, till recently.
Stella Reddy claims that she is currently mentally sick, but she was not mentally sick when getting our family evicted. Nope, Stella Reddy was of sound mind and strong will.
Only after filing with the Human Rights and creating this website did Stella Reddy start playing the pity boo-hoo card of I was not mentally in the right place. Very convenient it was https://stellareddy.com/the-obsessed-unhealthy-nature-of-stella-reddy/
Kory Read finally admits that his actions had a direct effect on my mental health deterioration here. I see this as a really good thing!
Kory Read & Allison Read are trying to condemn individuals who work for each agency, from the property to the tribunals, instead of being mad over the policies in place.
Rather than take the words on stellareddy.com as a reflection of the people in the domain titles and in the content, take the words as a reflection of the writers, as in reality it is their words on those pages, not anyone else’s.
What Is Cognitive Reframing?
Reframing is a way of changing the way you look at something and, thus, changing your experience of it. It can turn a stressful event into either highly traumatic or a challenge to be bravely overcome. Or, it can depict a really bad day as a mildly low point in overall wonderful life. Or, it can see a negative event as a learning experience.
Reframing is a way that we can alter our perceptions of stressors and, thus, relieve significant amounts of stress and create a more positive life before actually making any changes in our circumstances.
It is very important to mental health to reflect on reality of life, not on what you want or wish for. The reality of this situation is that this is my life to live and I am free to do, say, be, whatever I want. I am not accountable to anyone, except myself.
If I value your opinion, I will ask for it. As I have no value for Kory Read & Allison Read’s opinions, they will no longer have any effect over my emotions. Simple.
Practice this thinking, every single day, and in time it becomes natural.
Freedom is something you give yourself.