Stay True To Yourself

Staying true to yourself is something that I believe is of utmost importance in life. It can be easy to get swept up in the expectations and opinions of others, but at the end of the day, the most important person to please is yourself. I am confident in what I do and am determined to keep moving forward, refusing to allow toxic people’s continual behaviour with their bullying websites to drag me back, just as I was before all this started.

Time and time again, they try to use the content on stellareddy.com, lorriereddy.com, and davidstrashin.com to scare me into silence, but I refuse to be cowered and am determined to stay true to myself.

First and foremost, staying true to yourself means being authentic and genuine in every aspect of your life. It means honouring your own values, beliefs, and desires, regardless of what others may think or say. It means standing firm in your convictions, even when faced with opposition or criticism. It means living your life in a way that aligns with your true self, rather than trying to conform to societal norms or expectations.

One of the biggest challenges in staying true to yourself is the pressure to conform to the expectations of others. Whether it be societal pressures, family expectations, or peer influences, it can be difficult to stay true to who you are when faced with so much external influence. It can be tempting to mold yourself into the person that others want you to be, rather than staying true to your own values and beliefs.

I have personally experienced this pressure to conform to the expectations of others, and it was a constant battle to stay true to myself. At the beginning of the bullying, I gave in to the pressure I was getting from everyone around me to “stay quiet” and not defend myself against the constant barrage of insults from toxic tenants. From my employers to family members, everyone was so afraid of becoming a target and having their names show up online as mine was.

I have learned that the key to staying true to yourself is to have a strong sense of self-awareness. This means knowing who you are, what you stand for, and what you want out of life. It means being in touch with your own values and beliefs, and having the courage to honor them, even when it is difficult.

As I couldn’t allow toxic tenants to abuse my name as they were, I had to find the courage to honour myself, no matter how difficult it was and fight against all the people telling me to shut up, including the bullies. It is tricky to honour my sense of fair play and not name and shame them as they have done with me, but I feel better for not doing that. I focus on their behaviour and actions with my name, not on them, and it works for me.

Another challenge in staying true to yourself is the fear of judgment or rejection. It can be scary to be your true self, especially when it means going against the grain or standing out from the crowd. There is a natural desire to fit in and be accepted by others, but staying true to yourself means being willing to be different, even if it means facing criticism or disapproval. In the end, I came to care less what anyone else thought of what I should do, it was my name, not theirs. I learn the lessons this situation teaches me and it helps me remain strong.

I have found that one of the keys to overcoming this fear of judgment is to cultivate self-acceptance and self-love. When you love and accept yourself for who you are, you are less affected by the opinions of others. You can stand firm in your convictions and be true to yourself, regardless of what others may think.

I have had severe anxiety from PTSD since 1991 and going against my own beliefs makes my anxiety worse. My instincts were telling me that these toxic tenants would do whatever it took to take me out by driving me to suicide. That has been their sole intention for the past 8 years to cause me so much distress and fear for my safety that I won’t be able to stand it. I haven’t thought of suicide in many years now, not since 2018, thanks to therapy! It was my first experience with thoughts of suicide in my life and I didn’t like it and was determined to stop thinking that way.

I was bullied, online and off, by past Tenants from my last workplace and no one will convince me otherwise nor will I be quiet about it anymore. stellareddy.com, lorriereddy.com, davidstrashin.com, sjtomemberkevinlundy.com, 859kennedyroad.com, socialjusticetribunalsontario.ca are all evidence of the cyberbullying, no matter how you look at it. While some of these sites are no more, their history will remain with me for all time as a reminder of the toxicity and depravity that some humans have. I documented every word they ever wrote!

It takes courage and strength to be your authentic self, but the rewards are immense. When you stay true to yourself, you attract people who appreciate you for who you are, and you live a more fulfilling and authentic life.

Another important aspect of staying true to yourself is setting boundaries and asserting your needs and desires. It is important to communicate clearly and assertively with others about what you want and need in your life. This may mean saying no to things that do not align with your values or priorities, or setting boundaries with people who do not respect your wishes.

It can be challenging to assert yourself in this way, especially if you are used to putting others’ needs before your own. However, it is essential to prioritize your own well-being and happiness by staying true to yourself and standing up for what you believe in.

The decision to leave Ontario in the Fall of 2020 was the first selfish decision I ever made in my life. I didn’t consider anyone else’s opinion, not even my hubby’s, as I was determined to leave. I knew I could not recover my sense of safety while still living there, my fear was too great. I am just thankful that my hubby supported me!

Another selfish decision I made was creating this blog to share my story of bullying in the workplace and how I am recovering from that, at least that was how it started. Over time, my interests have expanded and I share music that “speaks” to me and articles I read that educate and uplift me. I share other bloggers’ insights that also help me maintain my mental health and stay true to myself.

In addition to setting boundaries and asserting your needs, it is important to surround yourself with people who support and uplift you in your quest to stay true to yourself. This may mean cultivating relationships with like-minded individuals who share your values and beliefs, or seeking out mentors and role models who inspire you to be your best self. It is important to create a supportive and nurturing environment for yourself, where you feel encouraged and empowered to be true to who you are. I found that here in NL over the past few years.

One of the ways that I stay true to myself is by engaging in activities and practices that nourish my mind, body, and spirit. This may include meditation, journaling, writing on my site, or spending time in nature. By taking care of myself in this way, I can stay grounded and connected to my true self. I find that when I prioritize self-care and self-reflection, I am better able to tune into my inner voice and honour my own needs and desires.

Another strategy that helps me stay true to myself is to trust my intuition and listen to my inner guidance. Our intuition is a powerful tool that can help us navigate our lives in alignment with our true selves. When faced with a decision or a choice, I try to tune into my gut feelings and trust the wisdom that resides within me. By listening to my intuition, I can make choices that are in alignment with my values and beliefs, and that honor my true self.

Staying true to yourself is a lifelong journey, and it requires continuous self-reflection and self-awareness. It is important to check in with yourself regularly and ask yourself if you are living in alignment with your true self.

Are you honouring your values and beliefs? Are you prioritizing your needs and desires? Are you being authentic and genuine in your interactions with others? By staying mindful and intentional in your actions, you can ensure that you are staying true to who you are.

In conclusion, staying true to yourself is one of the most important commitments you can make in life. It means being authentic and genuine in every aspect of your life and honouring your values, beliefs, and desires. It means standing firm in your convictions, even when faced with opposition or criticism. It means living your life in a way that aligns with your true self, rather than trying to conform to societal norms or expectations.

While there may be challenges and obstacles along the way, staying true to yourself is worth it in the end. When you live authentically and in alignment with your true self, you attract people who appreciate you for who you are, and you live a more fulfilling and authentic life. By cultivating self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-love, setting boundaries, surrounding yourself with supportive people, engaging in self-care practices, and trusting your intuition, you can stay true to yourself and live a life that is truly your own.

Stay true to yourself, and the rest will fall into place.

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