Spotting a Narcissist Online
It is Friday and a long weekend!! Every day is a weekend for me, but I still enjoy it when Friday comes, as I get to enjoy time with my hubby!
I don’t talk about my family much, I respect their privacy, but I am very grateful for my husband. We will celebrate our 27th Anniversary this summer!
It took time to rebuild our relationship too after I went through all this bullying from Tenants. Now, he understands that I was severely affected by this situation and I needed time, and support, to get through it. He has given me what I needed and as a result, our relationship is stronger than ever. He is there for me and I am forever thankful for him in my life.
The weather is gonna be fantastic this weekend and we are going fishing!! I love the tranquillity of standing by the lake, taking in all the sounds, smells, and scenery all around me, while I cast out my fishing line. It is a great way to relax for a few hours…Great time to do my mindfulness too!
Today, I want to share some of an article I found that will help you spot a narcissist online, as that is where they tend to do most of their damage. At least the ones I know did!
The Narcissistic Adult Bullies I have had as Tenants took to the internet, creating their own websites in which to place all their “provocative comments, disturbing threats, and mind-blowingly cruel insults” as noted in this article, not just against me, but a lot of people. I am not their only Target!
The contents of all the websites listed below are very similar in words being used and all were created and written Anonymously. They use anonymity and make it very difficult to contact them to discuss their content and ask questions. They have no interest in what others have to say, just themselves. You can tell they were all narrated by the same person.
As the article states it is their behaviour online towards others that speaks volumes about who they are.
“It is the narcissist’s toxic behavior towards others, online or in real life, especially innocent parties, which speaks volumes about who they are.“
They will stalk people on multiple social media platforms, leave insulting and threatening comments, write public commentary misrepresenting the person, business, or brand, and try to “overtake” the sense of safety someone feels online.
I do believe the actions of the Adult Bullies I had with creating their websites was to have a forum they could control where they could post their vicious personal commentary to misrepresent me and others, even the businesses owned or work for, to ruin our sense of safety, not just online but also in person.
Their actions are deliberate to incite others against their Targets. You can see in the wording there what their intentions are as it is pure degradation of others, pretending they are being altruistic and doing a public service. They want to take people down and are very open about it.
Abusive narcissists can create numerous anonymous accounts to troll and stalk their former victims on their various social media platforms, post the victims intimate photos or personal information, hack into their accounts, stage smear campaigns online, or even create fake accounts of the victim in an attempt to ruin the victims reputation.
As noted, Narcissistic people will share your personal information, stage smear campaigns online and in person, and even create fake accounts in your name on various sites, like LinkedIn, in an attempt to ruin reputations.
lorriereddy.com main purpose was to share my Facebook Profile, trying to influence members of my Community here in NL against me by claiming I created a “fake name” and that I am trying to “hide” from the mess they made in Ontario with their false allegations they walked away from when it came to prove them.
It can be terrifying but know that if you see the toxic traits, so do others. I didn’t want to listen to others back then when they tried to tell me this person was Toxic and showed narcissistic traits, my emotions were in control.
It wasn’t until I sat down with my Doctor in 2019 and we went over all the documents that I was given for the Human Rights process, that I started to see their allegations for what they are, pure speculations from them, trying to make their perceptions into facts and their explanation as the evidence.
It took a couple of months for me to process all he was explaining to me about what he saw in their words being used and the layout of their allegations.
Take the part of this Form 10 sent in October 2019 filled with their “no fear” moments. They make the claim that these things are well documented in the paperwork, with evidence. There is no evidence, just their allegations being made with their reasonings and questions filled with implications, not facts.
They said I never produced anything that could even remotely be interpreted as threatening or intending to harm me or my family as they don’t think 859kennedyroad.com with its misleading contents, not even stealing my name for stellareddy.com and use the site to disparage me, could cause me and my family any harm, as they refuse to see it.
If you go by the Toxic Tenants’ reasoning, someone who is fearful as I was then should have been cowering in a corner somewhere afraid to speak or say anything in their own defence. They claim that in order to be feeling “legitimate” fear you don’t speak up in any way, noted above.
They claim I had “absolutely nothing” to be scared over! I find their statements show their delusional thinking, as having a website online in your name, put there by a Tenant from your workplace, is a very scary thing to experience.
I am not built that way. I could be shaking in fear and anxiety and still try to speak up for myself, it is who I am. I fight my fear, in all things, and will do what I feel is right. Somedays I might give in and be quiet for a bit, but I always get back up again. All you need to do is look at my stance over their eviction, as I stuck to it even in the face of their Bullying in the property and the rumours they spread with other Tenants there.
I was always a strong-willed person, and very independent and being Bullied so severely couldn’t change that. I am entitled to feel whatever I was feeling, they can’t take that away from me as they tried to do with their words. “Scared pity story” is what they called my response to their applications and they claim my fear is “fabricated”. Awe well, they can think all they want, just as I can!
No one has the right to speak about me in this manner, I don’t care who you are. I refuse to be invalidated!
So please, watch for anyone contacting you to discuss any of these websites or the people named within them! I have a note on my Facebook warning people of the same.
Unfortunately, there are too many trolls online, looking for ways to stir up trouble for someone else and I had to deal with one of the worst of them!! You have to be so careful on the internet as there are more people like these Tenants who Bully!
2. Cyberbullying and trolling.
Perhaps the least surprising behavior narcissists engage in online is cyberbullying and trolling. Narcissists online enjoy bullying others and derive a sadistic sense of pleasure in doing so. They post provocative comments, disturbing threats, and mindblowingly cruel insults. They have long histories of serial cyberbullying, much of which should warrant prison time. These are the “professional” trolls whose online identities exist purely for the purpose of taunting others, especially those who are already marginalized.
Research has shown that those who enjoy trolling also happen to have high levels of narcissism, sadism, psychopathy and Machiavellianism, known as the Dark Tetrad of personality (Buckels, Trapnell & Paulhus, 2014).This means that the same narcissists and psychopaths you encounter in real life could very well also be doling out their abuse behind the computer screen.
An even more recent study revealed that while trolls have the cognitive empathy to assess how someone might feel about their insulting comments, they lack the affective empathy to actually care about how that other person might feel (Sest & March, 2017). The same study showed that higher levels of sadism and psychopathy predicted trolling behavior. The higher someone scored on psychopathy, the more likely they were able to recognize and provoke the suffering of their victims but remain emotionally indifferent to it.Unsurprisingly, the same conclusion about cognitive empathy versus affective empathy has been shown for narcissists in another study (Wai & Tiliopoulos, 2012).
In short? The reason trolls and cyberbullies are able to abuse others so effectively (or at the very least persistently) is because they derive a sick sense of pleasure from harming others and do not suffer any negative emotional consequences themselves from inflicting pain. While not all trolls are created equal, those who are psychopathic and narcissistic are psychologically dangerous to those they target.
3. Harassment, stalking, and boundary-breaking love triangles.
Narcissists online don’t just “stop” at trolling. They also resort to harassment and stalking online if they don’t get the attention they require.
It’s common for a narcissist to create multiple anonymous accounts to persistently badger the people who threaten their false sense of superiority and entitlement. They will stalk people on multiple social media platforms, leave insulting and threatening comments, write public commentary misrepresenting the person, business, or brand, and try to “overtake” the sense of safety someone feels online.
Narcissists also don’t take “no” for an answer – to them, boundaries do not exist and do not need to be honored. They believe exploitation is a reasonableway to get their needs met. These are the types who will send you excessive messages online demanding a response, even if you do not know them, guilt-tripping you into believing you have to “serve” them. That’s because they feel entitled to your time and your energy, regardless of whether or not you actually owe them anything.
According to a recent NPR investigation, cyberstalking has become a common part of domestic violence cases. Abusive narcissists can create numerous anonymous accounts to troll and stalk their former victims on their various social media platforms, post the victims intimate photos or personal information, hack into their accounts, stage smear campaigns online, or even create fake accounts of the victim in an attempt to ruin the victims reputation.
There are many ways in which this form of stalking can escalate online and it can be an unsettling ordeal for victims who simply wish to escape the abuse, only to find themselves bombarded with traumatizing e-mails, messages or comments which ensnare them back into the vicious cycle.
Not only is social media a hunting ground for psychopathic individuals, technology can be a way for abusive partners to actually locate their victims. Abusers are known to track their victims using GPS on devices, eavesdrop on the victim through the use of remote tools via hidden mobile apps, and even install spyware to keep track of their victims online activities.
The Big Picture
If you are dealing with a narcissist online, you will see these behaviors quite clearly. Next time, don’t be fooled about who might be narcissistic or assume that the person posting pictures of themselves is more narcissistic than the person bullying them for doing so. It is the narcissist’s toxic behavior towards others, online or in real life, especially innocent parties, which speaks volumes about who they are.https://psychcentral.com/blog/recovering-narcissist/2019/10/can-you-spot-a-narcissist-online-3-surprising-behaviors-which-reveal-predators-in-cyberspace?utm_medium=social&fbclid=IwAR0syhlNkuruDd3UaeIg-c8bWUXONcNFF0QNDqp3u695jVQPmU8edTcprlE#2