Spot the Everyday Sadist Online: Unveiling the Dark Side of Digital Interactions

In the vast space of the internet, where people from all walks of life converge, it is no surprise that one can encounter a wide range of varying personalities. Some are kind, empathetic, and supportive, while others seem to take pleasure in the suffering and pain of others. These individuals can be found lurking in the virtual shadows, their sadistic tendencies manifesting through their online interactions.

Before we proceed, it is crucial to understand what we mean by an everyday sadist. Unlike the infamous fictional villains or criminal sadists, everyday sadists are not necessarily out to cause physical harm or engage in illegal activities. Instead, they derive pleasure from the emotional distress or discomfort of others, often covertly and within the boundaries of acceptable behaviour. They take their Freedom of Speech a bit too far!

One common platform where everyday sadists can thrive is social media and the creation of Anonymous websites. The veil of anonymity provides them with a conducive environment to engage in sadistic behaviour. They take pleasure in leaving cruel or hurtful comments on posts, spreading rumours or misinformation, or even manipulating others for their amusement.

So, how can we spot these everyday sadists online? Here are some indicators to watch out for that I have found during my research:

Enjoyment in others’ suffering: Everyday sadists often exhibit signs of satisfaction when others express distress or discomfort. They might get pleasure from engaging in heated arguments or purposely provoking others to elicit negative reactions.

You can see this behaviour of trying to provoke me into a response in the emails they sent me during this mess. ALL of Toxic Adult Bullies Email Received That Caused Mental Health Issues for Stella Reddy

Lack of empathy: Empathy is an essential quality for healthy social interactions, but everyday sadists tend to display a lack of empathy towards others’ feelings. They may dismiss or belittle others’ emotions, finding entertainment in their distress.

I see this behaviour in the Toxic Tenant’s many acts of invalidation they did of me. Invalidation By Adult Bullies

Trolling behaviour: Engaging in trolling activities, such as deliberately antagonizing others or spreading offensive content, is a hallmark of everyday sadists. They may go to great lengths to instigate conflicts or disrupt conversations solely for their own amusement.

When I found these posts on Facebook in December 2017 I was mortified, as you can imagine. I took these actions as proof of incitement of hate against me and others named as it was clear to me they were trying to instigate people into attacking us for their claims. Bullying On Facebook by Toxic Adult Bullies

Schadenfreude: Everyday sadists often exhibit schadenfreude, a term describing pleasure derived from others’ misfortune. They may openly express joy or amusement when others experience failures, setbacks, or hardships.

I saw this behaviour in the content of and you can see it in the content I saved and shared. They show their delight in various posts over my failures, setbacks, and hardships, even trying to create conflict in my marriage.

Insensitivity to boundaries: Everyday sadists frequently disregard personal boundaries, pushing limits to provoke emotional reactions from others. They may engage in cyberbullying, harassment, or stalking behaviours, disregarding the impact their actions have on their victims.

There is a lot of documentation showing how these Tenants disregarded my boundaries and engaged in cyberbullying, stalking me and my family members by trying to get added to social media and ignoring the hurt and pain I express over their actions with their websites. This new site they made a couple of months ago shows the height of their insensitivity to boundaries! Pretending to be familiar with my life, personal and professional, when they had no clue. “Stella Reddy is Going Crazy”

Spotting everyday sadists is only the first step to combatting their toxic behaviour. It is important to remember that engaging directly with them or trying to change their behaviour is usually futile and could even worsen the situation.

I learned this a bit late, but better late than never! As I say these days, “you don’t know something until you know“! I made the mistake of “engaging” with them during the process of Human Rights, not knowing I was making their behaviour worse. You can see this in some of the posts I share on this site! They provoke me with their words or behaviour, and I react, sometimes not nicely. I had to instead, focus on protecting myself and those around me:

Develop digital resilience: Understand that online interactions can be a breeding ground for negativity by toxic individuals. Cultivate emotional resilience to cope with the impact of toxic individuals, recognizing their behaviour is a reflection of their own issues rather than a reflection of your worth.

Once I switched my thinking from “Why are they doing this to me” to “How can I heal from this”, everything changed for me. I came to accept that I will never understand them or their actions, instead, I can learn from them to protect myself in the future, from them and others like them. This is when I started learning about all the traits I was seeing so I could better control my emotional reactions. I understand now that their actions are a reflection of themselves, not the individuals they are writing about. They created a fictional Stella Reddy to place all the blame on.

Practice digital self-care: Prioritize your mental well-being by taking regular breaks from social media or any platform where you encounter everyday sadists. Engage in activities that bring you joy and foster a positive mindset. I had to find a way forward and getting away from my computer at a certain point was imperative for me to do. I was obsessive at times with checking the list of websites owned by these toxic tenants for changes, sometimes checking multiple times a day, looking for more invalidation of me as a human being that they were doing. It was affecting me on multiple levels and I knew I had to stop.

I made a plan and now only spend the mornings on my computer, usually writing a post for this site, going through posters on Pinterest, reading emails, and spending quite a bit of time reading posts made by the Bloggers I follow. As the website contents are all gone now from the internet, I have managed to cut down on checking them to once a week to see if it has changed. I even noticed this week that they stopped adding content to their new bashing website! I take that as a good sign, it shows something is preventing them from finishing it!

Report and block: Utilize the reporting and blocking functions on social media platforms to protect yourself and others from online harassment. This not only helps limit your exposure to sadistic behaviour but also contributes to creating safer online spaces for everyone.

I spent the time needed to contact FaceBook, Pinterest, Twitter, and Instagram, even LinkedIn, to notify them that anyone trying to get an account using my name with, is committing fraud. I got all the posts taken down from FaceBook by asking the group moderators to do so, and they all did. I also blocked them on these sites as well as their family members that I could find, including the aliases they use and sent the info to everyone I know so they could also do the same. As far as I know, it worked as I haven’t seen anything in social media about this in many years.

Seek support: I can’t stress this enough! If you become the target of an everyday sadist’s online attacks, reach out to trusted friends, family, or mental health professionals for support. Sharing your experiences can help alleviate the emotional impact and provide valuable advice on how to deal with the situation. The more I have shared my Story, the more I alleviate the emotional impact this has had on me. The more I share my Story, the less toxicity I get from others.

It is unfortunate that the digital world, which has the potential to bring people together and foster empathy, also provides a platform for everyday sadists to indulge their dark desires. By being aware of the signs and taking proactive measures to protect ourselves, we can create a safer, more empathetic online community and safeguard our mental well-being from these digital predators. I hope you learn from the mistakes I made and find a way to ignore them.

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