Speak From Your Heart and you will help make the World around you be a better place.
Authentic Living!!
Speaking from the heart, letting yourself be “seen” is hard to do at first, but you get the hang of it with practice. I don’t want to hide away and be afraid of living. I refuse to live that way.
I have made meaning in my life, even in the face of all the mental and physical issues I have and I am content. I am still of some use!!
I take care of the relationships I have, as they mean a lot to me. I make time to be there for people in my life and am learning to make space for more…Making friends at my age isn’t easy but it is important, so I put myself out there.
I limit my prescriptions so I can still think clearly, as I prefer to deal with the pain than have a foggy head. I pace my physical activity so I can do more, and enjoy it. I find ways that work for me so I can do some of the things I want to do.
I have learned how to make myself a priority!
My posts have evolved over time to show my education. I have learned new things and it shows. In each post, you can see how I was getting away from justification, persuasion, problem-solving, and defensiveness, as I no longer need these things.
I have no need to justify my actions, to anyone, nor do I need to persuade anyone this is what happened to me. I don’t need to solve this, I didn’t cause this situation to occur. Nor do I need to get defensive over all the allegations made against me.
I told them, numerous times, what their actions were doing to my mental health but they have shown no remorse or accountability for any of it. They claim they never did anything to me, even denying ownership of their domains containing my name. Their lack of empathy is enough alone, to show their unbalanced and unstable beliefs, morals, and who they truly are.
I did my job and took the Tenants to the Landlord and Tenant Board for breaking the rules of Entry, and they were evicted for it. Not my problem they wouldn’t accept that determination and it wasn’t my job to make them happy.
I came to see that other people would not believe I would be so reckless with my career and personal life to do as they claimed. No one would!
I share my Story from my personal autonomy. I have every right to act in my own interests…
In the early days when I was first being accused of these false allegations, I would do all these things. I became very defensive as I just didn’t understand how these Tenants could outright lie as they did. I was determined to show the truth, not realizing that with time, it would come out anyway. I was impatient, as usual… lol These days, I still feel emotional at times, but I am better at letting it go…
I learned from my mistake…I had to step back and let them do what they wanted to do and take it later to show how Toxic that act was, which is what this site became all about, education on toxic traits…There is so much in their written word that shows their toxic traits so clearly!
Making meaning of their actions against me is how I am recovering!
I also learned over time that others could see their toxicity too, which is probably why I have remained safe all these years. No one believed their speculations about me enough to attack me over them! No one got “up in arms” over their narratives like I was seeing in the news happening to others.
I have learned that while my thoughts are important, they are not always right, as I was shown I have nothing to fear!
I see that these Anonymous Administrators have found no support for their allegations, not from the general public with their domains, not from social media, and not even from Change.org where they have their petitions against others...Yes, that makes me happy, as it shows I have nothing to fear.
I will always speak from the heart, as it is the only way to live an authentic life. Be true to yourself, right or wrong, and keep learning…
Have a look at the article below and see if it helps you speak from your heart!
SELF-HELP
Do You Speak From Your Heart?
Speaking from an open heart can be the strongest move of all.
Posted July 3, 2023 | Reviewed by Michelle Quirk
KEY POINTS
- Speaking from an open heart can seem vulnerable yet be the strongest move of all.
- Look for opportunities to speak from your heart.
- Speaking from the heart is necessary to make this world a better place.
The Practice
This week, look for one or more opportunities to speak from your heart. Pick a topic, a person, and a moment that’s likely to go well.
Before you talk:
- Ground yourself with good intentions. To discover and express the truth, whatever it is. To help yourself and the other person.
- Get a basic sense of what you want to say. Focus on your experience: thoughts, feelings, body sensations, wants, memories, images, the dynamic flow through awareness; it’s hard to argue with your experience, but easy to get into wrangles about situations, events, the past, or problem-solving.
- Be confident. Have faith in your sincerity and in the truth itself. Recognize that others may not like what you have to say, but you have a right to say it without needing to justify it, and that saying it is probably good for your relationship.
When you speak:
- Take a breath and settle into your body.
- Recall being with people who care about you. (This will help deepen your sense of inner strength and warm up the neural circuits of wholeheartedness.)
- Soften your throat, eyes, chest, and heart. Try to find a sense of goodwill, even compassion, for the other person.
- Bring to mind what you want to say.
- Take another breath and start speaking.
- Try to stay in touch with your experience as you express it. Don’t get into any sense of persuasion, justification, defensiveness, or problem-solving. (That’s for later, if at all.) Be direct and to the point; when people truly speak from the heart, they often say what needs to be said in a few minutes or less; it’s the “case” wrapped around the heart of the matter that takes all those extra words.
- Keep coming back to the essential point for you, whatever it is (especially if the other person gets reactive or tries to shift the topic). And allow other aspects or deeper layers of what’s in your heart to come forward as you speak. You don’t need to know everything you are going to say before you start speaking.
- Feel free to disengage if the other person is just not ready to hear you; maybe another time would be better. “Success” here is not getting the other person to change but you expressing yourself.
- As appropriate, open to and encourage the other person to speak from the heart, too.
And, afterward, know that whatever happened, you did a good thing. It’s brave, and it’s hard (especially at first) to speak from the heart. But it’s so necessary to make this world a better place.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/your-wise-brain/202306/do-you-speak-from-your-heart
