Making a conscious choice to choose to be optimistic about my future, has led to a more positive outlook overall. Practicing self-talk is something that helped me get to this positive place now in my life. It has become second nature now for me to talk myself into a better way of thinking, no matter the situation I face.
KR tried to convince people that I was the problem, yet, he lost all his legal actions trying to prove it. He spent 19 months trying to convince Human Rights that he was telling the truth, yet, he walked away from the hearing scheduled to determine that.
Once Human Rights was over in January 2020, all my problems started to slowly disappear…Once I left Ontario and started rebuilding my life here in NL, over time it has become a lot easier to let this situation go. I spend more time now enjoying my life. I have interacted in my community more in the past year than I have in the past 10 years! I didn’t realize just how much my life was about my job until I was no longer working, as I have so much free time now.
There are no repercussions anymore to my personal life from the lies online in my name and now, after all this time, there never will be. I am safe from their internet antics. I am very confident these days. I feel empowered! It is history.
I mentioned I had an assessment done last week and I have committed myself to a 7-week program to help strengthen my knees and hips due to arthritis I have. In the recent past, I would not have committed myself to such a thing, it would have terrified me, but now? I know it will benefit me and improve my life, so that alone is my driving force. It starts middle of September! I am doing it for me and as a result, I have no fear of it anymore. I talked myself out of my unreasonable fears…
I have been living life… I get involved in my community, go out, and talk to people and I have no issues with anything I want to access here. I avail of services I need, agencies and doctors, and even check out community events!
Hubby and I went to the Alex Newhook Stanley Cup Parade held here Monday past and were part of the crowd at the Stage there for the news conference that was held. I even saw us on the news!! lol
This is our Wedding Anniversary week, spending the week relaxing and checking out some of the events being held here. Even spent a couple of days at the Monastery Hotel and Spa! Nothing like a jacuzzi suite to relax in! I am living my best life and I am happy.
I no longer fear the words of strange people online, their time is done. It is finally over for me and I am ready and able to move on and live my own life with no more concerns about what their lies in these domains could do. I am free and my life is free from Adult Tenant Bullies!
Practicing positive self-talk leads to a healthier mindset.
If you want to live your best life and master the keys to health and healing, the place to start is by harnessing your thoughts.
Over the course of three decades, I have counseled scores of people struggling with many different types of problems. Each of these painful situations has confirmed a truth I learned years ago: What goes on in your head will come out in your actions, attitudes, and ambitions.
Your thoughts—the messages you speak or think to yourself every day—profoundly and powerfully determine every aspect of your life. What you tell yourself about yourself can radically influence your happiness, your relationships, and your physical well-being.
This presents a good news / bad news scenario. If your thoughts are consistently affirming, optimistic, and constructive, your life is sure to advance in a positive direction. But if your thoughts are consistently critical, pessimistic, and destructive, your life will advance in a negative direction.
The Importance of Self-Talk
Begin paying close attention to your self-talk and those silent-but-powerful internal messages you continually send yourself. Your internal voice is the most powerful and influential voice in your life.
Many people tell me they’re stuck in a dead-end job, anxious about their children, struggling to kick a bad habit, or worried about finances. Though I don’t dismiss the reality of these problems, most of the difficulties we wrestle with are internal rather than external. What goes on in our mind, heart, and soul largely determines where we’ll eventually “arrive” with any issue we face.
Think of one aspect of your life in which you’re concerned about the direction you’re heading. It might be career, marriage, parenting, friendships, education, or physical fitness. Now consider how a small shift in attitude and actions might alter your course and, ultimately, your destination.
Old ways of thinking often put up a fierce fight when challenged by something new. But you are not a mere bystander witnessing a boxing match between good thoughts and bad thoughts. It’s within your power to choose which ideas you feed and which you starve.
Examples of Positive Self-Talk
Nurture the helpful, healing thoughts while banishing the ones that bring you down and cause you doubt. What difference would it make if your self-talk were affirmative and hopeful, with messages like these?
- I respect myself and deserve to be respected.
- I have plenty of shortcomings but am becoming the person I was fully meant to be.
- I feel good about the way I look, and I don’t need to compare myself with anyone.
- I am valuable and worthy of love just the way I am.
When you use self-talk like this, a new world of self-acceptance begins to unfold, carrying you another step closer to your goal of feeling better physically, mentally, and emotionally. The changes will take some time, but believe in yourself even when you don’t feel you can. Your subconscious hears and believes everything you say, so feed it positive, constructive thoughts.
Thankfully, we all have access to hope, and we can choose hopefulness as our prevailing approach to life. This is the mental and emotional framework that supports happiness—even when the winds of negativity buffet it.
How to Make Optimism and Hopefulness Foundations in Your Life
But how do you make optimism the foundation of your life? How does happiness become the norm rather than the exception? The change from pessimism to optimism takes effort and practice. Your optimistic muscles have atrophied, while your pessimistic muscles are as pumped up as a bodybuilder’s.
Begin with small steps. For every pessimistic thought, worry, or fear that comes to mind, intentionally stop and search for a positive, optimistic response. Deliberately replace discouraging thoughts with encouraging ones.
It is possible to learn to live above your circumstances. Do you know someone whose attitude is amazing, even though they’ve gone through terrible things in life? Do you know someone whose well-being seems to be impervious to the ups and downs of daily life? These optimists have one thing in common: They make the daily choice to look for the good in life, even amid difficult circumstances.
If you do have a friend like this, be assured the person is not in denial. Just the opposite is true. In order to shake off the chains of negativity, we must begin with the truth. When we acknowledge and accept our circumstances, and exercise optimism, our lives can become happier, and our outlook is hopeful.
