Now I Understand Better: Guilt-Tripping By Toxic Tenants

This letter represents the Guilt-Tripping being done by Toxic Tenants, as it is full of it!

This first letter is an attempt to change the narrative with the many assumptions they made and they expanded on these assumptions throughout the following years. This is the beginning of laying the blame on me, never acknowledging their own actions that played a part in the situation. They don’t even admit she said it was okay for treatment the following day!

This is the beginning of their Guilt-Tripping, trying to imply I was responsible for accommodating them during their tenancy. They lay it on really think in this letter, implying it was my job to make them comfortable! I refuse to be responsible for THEIR actions!

They imply that I did illegal things in my job, yet don’t show proof I did those things, It was always just their word that things occurred as they say they did. Everything in this letter is based on their opinions and their assumptions, not on facts. So many opinions signalling words are being used!

Guilt tripping in a smear campaign involves using emotional manipulation and psychological pressure to make someone feel guilty or ashamed as part of a deliberate effort to tarnish their reputation or discredit them. This tactic is often used to make the targeted individual appear untrustworthy, immoral, or unethical in the eyes of others.

That is the intent of this letter, to make me appear untrustworthy, immoral, and unethical in the eyes of others, specifically my employers at the time.

Here are some common strategies I saw being used in guilt-tripping me within the Smear Campaign against me:

Exaggerating minor faults: Highlighting and blowing out of proportion any mistakes or shortcomings they claim I made, most times making them up! Where is the evidence they claimed to have?

Playing the victim card: Portraying themselves as victims of my actions, emphasizing how my behaviour has caused harm or pain to them. They never admit to anything they do outright, not even owning those sites.

Manipulating emotions: Exploiting personal vulnerabilities or assumed past mistakes to evoke feelings of guilt, shame, or remorse within me, thereby making me question my own character. That is what this letter is all about!

Spreading false or misleading information: Deliberately disseminating rumours, gossip, or half-truths about me to create doubt and suspicion among my peers, other Tenants, and the public.

Using social pressure: Encouraging others to join in on the smear campaign, thereby increasing the intensity and impact of guilt tripping on the targeted individual, which was me! They were telling my employers to do a check on my credentials, implying I was lying about my skills to do the job, just based on their comments.

    It is important to note that engaging in smear campaigns, including guilt-tripping, is harmful, unethical, and can result in severe consequences for the targeted individual, as noted in my posts. I was demoralized by their actions and yes, I felt guilt for a long time that wasn’t mine to feel. I had to let go of things I was not responsible for! Once I lost all that Toxic Shame, I felt better!

    This letter was sent on August 31, 2016, after they received the first Form N5 for refusing access to Pest Control the day before after agreeing to the changed date in a text message. Why didn’t they ask for a delay?

    This letter does not contain outright allegations of racism and discrimination against me, it just alludes to it by their words. They show their thought processes instead and the conclusions they came to, based on their thinking, not on any facts they could prove. It is guilt-tripping!

    They don’t mention any “previous meeting” at some restaurant either, as they hadn’t made that up yet. Actually, she alludes to the first time we met when she came to pay rent and I wouldn’t accept the cash. That is the first time we met and they know it. This letter contradicts a lot they said later!

    They tried to imply that Form N5 was issued because they claimed to be filing with the LTB over the camera we had inside the elevator when it was for refusing access for pest control after agreeing to the changed date by test message. If it wasn’t for Pest Control, why did they agree later to get the treatment done? The camera was a distraction they used.

    I had absolutely no concerns over these Tenants filing with the LTB over the camera, it was inside the elevator, not out in the hallway directly across from their apartment. If this camera was really an issue, they would have succeeded in their application at that time but we got nothing. They didn’t file any “civil suit” either they mention here!

    I assume they did try to file their complaint but the LTB wouldn’t accept it, as it really was a non-issue. The elevator walls were being scratched up, buttons were being broken, and notices I posted were being torn out, so yes, we put a camera in the elevator. Common sense really. As I said if it was outside in the hallway, I could understand their complaints but it wasn’t. They were nick-picking!

    Yes, I gave them a week’s notice of this appointment as I had scheduled 2 days for treatments but the Company screwed up and moved them all to the same day. So, I had to scramble and get permission to enter from the Tenants affected, as I knew it was less than 24 hours notice. I got a text message from this Tenant saying it was okay for the changed date. If they wanted to “delay it” why didn’t she ask herself? She had a mouth. I did delay it for another tenant who asked me to do so and would have done the same for these ones, if they asked.

    They show in this letter their beliefs that I was responsible for accommodating them with entry when I was not. They spent a lot of time laying on the guilt, implying I was responsible for their comfort. That wasn’t my job, they are Adults and responsible for themselves. They were nick-picky and you can see it in their words.

    This letter is their retribution for getting Form N5. No other way to determine why it was sent, as the words give it away. It is guilt-tripping, trying to make me feel guilty for doing my job and enforcing the rules they were obviously breaking with their actions. But of course, they never admit to that…

    One thing I have learned over the years about toxic traits and narcissism, these types never admit to anything they have done, they just focus on someone else. This letter also shows that too!

    —–Original Message—–
    From: My Bullies
    Sent: August 31, 2016 11:26 PM
    Subject:  303 – 859 Kennedy Road

    I have attached a letter addressed to L, A and Stella to this email.

    Toxic Adult Bullies

    Dear , L, A and Stella ( Alto Properties )

    I want to acknowledge that I have received your frivolous and empty threat of eviction due to YOUR INABILITY TO GIVE PROPER NOTICE. 

    As my memory serves me, your original notice that I signed and agreed to was dated for: Monday August, 29, 2016 between the hours of 11:00 am to 3:00 pm.

    On this above date, you notified me at 2:01 pm via an email and not by a phone call that you had cancelled that appointment after 3 hours of me waiting, and you had already rescheduled for the next day at 9:00 am without okaying it with me or getting my signature for the Tuesday August 30, 2016 pest control appointment. 

    These are your ( Stella ) exact words:

    “Magical Pest Control screwed up our service date and has moved treatment to tomorrow at 9 am for this building. I am very sorry about this but it is out of my control. Treatment will be done tomorrow at 9 am. “

    It is obvious that L, A and yourself ( Stella ) could not be bothered to ask anyone if it was convenient for them, nor did you care if it even was. 

    Obviously you had some deep desire to get into everyone’s unit as fast so you could ( I assume ) to assess their standard of living and report back like a good little worker to L and A on what you had seen. 

    There is no other logical reason for the pest control to come back immediately the next day less than a 24 hour period later. 

    It could not be the cock roaches as they have been present in this building since I moved in over a year ago. So I am unclear as to why you could not reschedule the pest control for at a minimum couple of days later?  Why didn’t you ask for a delay?

    This would allow people to make any arrangements they needed to have someone there when you enter their units. Believe it or not, people are not comfortable with strangers in their apartments, even alleged superintendents that have been working in this field for 16 years in Canada.  

    Noting that the previous date that you set for pest control was set in and about a week prior to them coming. Suddenly on this day, you NEEDED pest control to be there STAT the following day.

    I guess that L, A and yourself ( Stella ) think that people do not have to go to work, nor do they have any type of errands, appointments or business to take care on any given day.  

    Apparently L, A and yourself ( Stella ) did not care that everyone emptied their cupboards, pulled out their stoves and refrigerators and waited 3 hours for an appointment that never happened that was arranged by you. 

    Instead of the 3 of you being considerate to everyone else needs, and the fact that you have now asked the tenants to do pest control back-to back days. The 3 of you decided that you would do what you want, when you wanted and how you wanted.

    Under the act it clearly states:

    27. (1) A landlord may enter a rental unit in accordance with written notice given to the tenant at least 24 hours before the time of entry under the following circumstances:

    I may not have been in school for a while, but when I last check 2:00 pm on Monday August, 29, 2016 until 9:00 am Tuesday August, 30, 2016 is ONLY 19 hours. This obviously does not fall with in the 24 MANDATED time frame.

    Once you did not meet YOUR OWN timeline that YOU created for pest control, YOU decided to reschedule without considering anyone else’s ability to meet your needs to have this done on back-to- back days. It did not become mine or any other tenant’s problem when you could not met your arrangements with pest control.

    We as tenants are entitled to a 24 hour written notice and I would expect someone who claims to have been an alleged superintendent for 16 years in Canada, would have a much better and clearer understand of the act with its clear wording.

    But being that you are a bully in nature, you just tried to set a date and time and expect everyone to fall in line with YOUR needs.

    Apparently you deliberately misread the act and were trying to use the Entry Without Notice clause to get into my unit.

    (1) A landlord may enter a rental unit at any time without written notice,

    in cases of emergency; or if the tenant consents to the entry at the time of entry.

    Which we both know that you cannot apply this to the August 30, 2016 date.

    Up until this very moment, I am still confused as to what was the big hurry to get pest control into everyone units? I suspect that there is more to this than just pest control issues.

    I also need to address the fact that you stated in your email, and to everyone involved that pest control would be here at 9:00 am on August 30, 2016. And yet you did not knock on my door until around 11:30 am I am told. I am sure that your video footage would confirm that.

    That is a 2 ½ hours gap from when pest control was supposed to be here according to you. Pest control had to do 3 apartments on the 4th floor before reaching my floor ( 3rd ).

    That means if pest control was on time, it took them 50 minutes to do each unit on the 4th floor with a little powder sprayed behind the refrigerator an stove and some gel in the cupboards.

    Upon speaking to other tenants that did receive the pest control treatment. Pest control was in and out in approximately 5 minutes. So I can only conclude that again you inaccurately stated what time they were coming.

    I again guess the L, A and yourself ( Stella ) think that tenants have nothing to do for 2 days in a row other than sit around waiting for your timelines to come and go?

    So with the above now clarified, I know what to express my thoughts about your deliberately inaccurate and false N5 legal document.

    I do not appreciate L, A and yourself ( Stella ) harassing and threating me and my family with eviction purely based on the issue that I told you in an email this morning, that I was going to file a complaint with the Landlord and Tenant Board based on the issue of the camera you have facing into units. 203, 303,403 and 503. 

    There is no room to interpret this spiteful act as being any form of coincidence or happenstance. It was only after I emailed you ( Stella ) at 8:45 am on Wednesday August 31, 2016 for the names of the owners of the building for my application for the Landlord and Tenant Board. That suddenly I am now being targeted and given a deliberately inaccurate and false N5 legal documents that PROMISE to get me evicted based YOUR INABILITY TO GIVE PROPER NOTICE.

    It amazes me that more than 24 hours had passed before you suddenly decided that there was a need to give me this inaccurate and false M5 legal document threatening eviction after learning of my intent to take an issue in front of the Landlord and Tenant Board. 

    It also amazes me that I was in fact given over 24 hours of time before I was served with your deliberately inaccurate and false N5 legal document. And yet I could not get that same courtesy in regards to the pest control wanting to come into my unit on back-to-back dates. 

    You have been nothing but a bully since you enter this building as the superintendent. I want to inform you that I no longer wish for you to seek me out to speak to me anymore. If you wish to speak to me regarding something related to my unit or the building, you need to put it in a letter or email from this point forward. I WILL NOT communicate with you were a paper trail cannot be made and followed. 

    I have to say that from the moment I met you, I had the strange feeling that you had some kind of issue with me. You asked inappropriate questions, at first you refused to accept my rent on the grounds that you “ were not comfortable “ with taking it, and then the excuse changed to it was “ a liability issue.” 

    Now there is the issue of L, A and yourself ( Stella ) placing a camera that looks into my unit and takes pictures. 

    Add this threating and intimidating N5 eviction legal document that is based on information the 3 of you know is deliberately inaccurate and false. Has only strengthened my beliefs that I am being targeted by the 3 of you. 

    Let me make this very clear for you Stella, L and A.

    I am not sure why it is that suddenly everyone has taken such a sudden interest in trying to build a case on me and wanting me out of YOUR building. I am not sure if sudden on of you realized I was black, maybe someone realized that my children were mixed, or because I am on Social Assistance.

    I mean it could very well be that because my partner is white and that inter-racial relationships are frowned upon by you 3 white people and is not tolerate or welcomed in YOUR building. But I do know that the problem starts with you, Stella

    I have lived here for over a year without ANY issue and suddenly I am having issues with L, A and yourself ( Stella ). You not wanting to accept my rent, threating me with eviction if I don’t pay my rent via cheques or money order, even after paying with cash since I moved in.

    I don’t know if L and A never had the nerve or courage to act upon their hatred for me and my family, and now that the old superintendents are gone and you’re in. Maybe now they have suddenly found themselves the MARTER that they can rally behind? 

    Seriously, the 3 of you give me an N5 form that threats me with evictions based on everyone knowing that the information that is to be provided is deliberately inaccurate and false. 

    By threating to present this deliberately inaccurate and false legal document to the courts as a legal document, you would be acting in bad faith. The N5 that has been presented to me by L, A and you ( Stella ) is at worse misleading. It certainly violates the basic standards of honesty in dealing with others and it would be recognize just as that in any civil lawsuit. 

    Let us not even start to discuss the issue the serving me with this deliberately inaccurate and false legal document and how it was done purely to be spiteful and, to send me a message that I should not question the actions of the owners or staff of 859 Kennedy Road.

    I now would like to address the issue of our past conversation Stella, where you ask my where I was “from?” 

    I do not appreciate your ignorance and stereotypes in thinking that because I am black that I could not be born in Canada. I also do not appreciate you asking me if my children were “malado”. 

    I did not think that I need to explain this to you Stella, but these are terms and questions that are no longer acceptable in society, and the fact that you felt comfortable enough with me to ask these questions after only speaking to me for a brief time. Says to me that you have some form of personal issue that need to be dealt with. 

    I also found it offensive that you said that you have been an alleged superintendent for 16 years here in Canada. 

    I am perplexed  as to why you felt the need to include the word “Canada” at the end of your sentence? 

    I can only guesswere you trying to imply that because I am not white, that I could not have been in Canada for 16 years? 

    Or is it that you feel that your 16 years in Canada makes you a better person and better qualified to be an alleged superintendent than someone who was a superintendent abroad?

    Maybe you said it because you were an alleged superintendent in Canada for 16 years, so your opinion and views on being a superintendent have more weight and value over someone like myself who was born abroad?

    I would like to take this opportunity to inform you Stella. I never had any doubts that you lived and work in Canada. In fact I had absolutely no reason to even question what country you have been alleged a superintendent in.

    Apparently you feel that being a superintendent in Canada comes with some kind of Canadian privilege and/or pride attached to it? I guess you could not have just said that you have been a superintendent 16 years.

    If you were a superintendent in Italy, would you have said the same thing?

    In speaking with you it appears to me that you are considered yourself a great superintendent because you were born and raised and work your whole life in Canada.

    I think at this point in time, I need to clear the air of some misunderstanding the 3 of you have about me.

    If anyone of you think that you are going to threaten and try to bully, force and intimidate me and my family to bow down to you and you deliberately inaccurate and false legal document.

    You have totally fooled yourselves and miss read me.

    Under the Charter of Rights and Freedom, the Criminal Code and the Landlord and Tenant Board.

    I have the right to file an application with the Landlord and Tenant Board, and I have the right to do without fear of ANY form of repercussions from ANYONE. I have the right not to fear for my safety or the safety of anyone known by me. 

    Under section 23 of the act no landlord shall harass, obstruct, coerce, threaten or interfere with a tenant.  

    L, A and yourself ( Stella ) obviously thought I was just some dumb, uneducated NIGGER who was willing to bow to your servant ways and not challenge your actions in YOUR building. 

    Let me inform you that Unit # 303 have nothing but pride in ourselves and we all stands very tall with our heads held high. We don’t bow or serve anyone!

    So you can take your deliberately inaccurate and false N5 legal document and shove it up your ass, and I dare you to file it as is! 

    The 3 of you have now taken your personal ideology towards myself, my family and our color and made it into a personal agenda to make mine and my family’s life as uncomfortable and as inconvenient as you can. 

    I am happy to say and I am thankful that I was not raised with some much hatred in my heart towards other races. Hopefully one day you will find God and he will help you heal your feels towards others that don’t look like you.

    I have some serious doubts that you Stella, have ever been a superintendent in any building. I would strong suggest to L and A that they do a more thorough background check upon yourself as you have absolutely no idea about the Land Lord Tenant Act and how to interact properly with tenants.

    Your attempt to try and bully/force tenants to remove their BBQs off their balconies, and to remove everything that is “none seasonal” , all the while again deliberately quoting misinformation and bylaws to try and reinforced your views and impose your will on all the tenants of this building.

    It appears that me that your signature and pattern of deliberately lying and misquote wrong information to try and prove a point is constant.

    L, A and yourself ( Stella ) childish attempts to threaten, harass, intimidate and targeting me, along with every other issues in this letter will be addressed in my application to the Landlord and Tenant Board.

    This is the same application that you were trying to intimate me from filing in regards to the cameras looking into mine and other units.

    Please do not respond to my email. I do not need for you to try and deny or even try and justify to me that you are not an undercover racist.

    I do not need to know that you have black friends, or that you eat and love “Caribbean food” and that you have a “Black Person” in your family that you love or that there is Black in your bloodline. Because I really don’t care!

    A. R

    303 – 859 Kennedy Road Scarborough ON

    M1K 2E3

    August 31, 2016

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