NO Shame For Stella Reddy

Shame Not Mine To Carry

Shame: sometimes such a terrible word! I have since come to accept it, and understand it, from all this. I have learned from the shame I felt the past 6 years and came to see it wasn’t mine to feel. I didn’t cause myself to be “exposed”, it was done to me.

Kory & Allison Read show their prejudices so very clearly in their domains online and pass nasty judgement on me and others, all because we said “no” to allowing them to control entry to the apartment they lived in. That shame is theirs, not mine. They were Bullies and show the evidence of it, I am not guilty for making them do it!

For me it represents Unwanted Exposure of my personal life by a total strangers, on the internet, by sharing my picture, my hubby’s picture, my sisters picture, my address, my work telephone number and personal telephone number, my email address, work and personal, my son’s pictures and his wife’s, the pictures of my niece and her family with 4 children, even picture of my place of employment!

Kory Read has always said I am upset over his sites, as they expose me as a racist person, but it wouldn’t have mattered what excuse he used, it’s just the exposure of my likeness and all my contact info, that got to me. That alone was enough! I know Kory Read does not have the Authority to label me as a racist person, no matter how many suspicions and speculations he might have, as he has no proof. 

If it wasn’t for the fact that they are a interracial couple, he wouldn’t have had that excuse to use in the first place! If Kory Read had done a domain and the contents didn’t contain my PII, and only had his various suspicions, I wouldn’t have cared. He could call a building staff member “racist” all he wants, he has no right to expose my PII like he did. Kory Read did not have the right to sic other people at me, over his personal speculations and suspicions! Especially not when there were no legal determinations and facts to back him up!

Joseph Burgo, Ph.D., a psychotherapist and the author of Shame: Free Yourself, Find Joy and Build True Self Esteem, tells GLAMOUR, “Whenever something is painful, we try to ward it off and fend against it. Sometimes that’s OK but sometimes defending against shame – instead of bearing with it – stops us from learning something.”

Burgo describes shame as “a whole family of emotions, which includes embarrassment, guilt, self-consciousness, humiliation – all those things where we feel bad about ourselves.”

He adds, “They can be strong or weak [feelings]. They can be brief or enduring. But they all involve this painful awareness of self”

Kory Read posted my picture and all my contact information, on 859kennedyroad.com on the internet on November 2, 2017. That was quite enough. 

It wasn’t so much the lies within the contents that bothered me, it was the very simple fact of exposing my personal information that he has no right to share. It wasn’t his pictures to use on that site, nor was it his contact info to share like he did. He had nothing to do with me, he wasn’t even a tenant, just a occupant! 

Then, when he stole my personal name in April 2019 to use as a domain title where he shared most of the personal information he gained during Human Rights process that was going on and from free sites I did in the past, that made it worse. Kory Read knew it wasn’t the topic of racism that bothered me, it was sharing my picture and other identifying information. It was the exposure of that info, not the racism stuff, that bother me, he just implied it was. It was a total Invasion of Privacy!

The labels Kory Read places on people do bother me, but not as much as the PII he shares within the content. No one likes their PII shared by strangers on the internet, making it easy for other strangers to find you. Add the topic he used, and you become extremely scared, especially when I watched the news and saw all these articles about “karens” and Kory Read even added that label to me, at the time!

Kory Read was newsjacking with current news on racism to try and draw more attention, even did the 14 page Comparison of myself with Mark Meadows from the US, to draw more readers to his sites! That act alone was trying to bring shame down upon me, trying to make me feel it, not that I deserve to feel it.

I had to answer questions from people looking for an apartment about that site in the early days and it wasn’t pleasant. In the end, all I asked was “do I strike you as the person as laid out in that site?” and always got a “no“.  I even rented to a couple of people who asked me about that site, so I know they weren’t taking it seriously, especially after meeting me and seeing the property. The false accusations were a hassle, but not my main issue, it was just sharing my PII he had no business sharing. 

This act of Kory Read’s, caused me to feel shame over my likeness and contact info being exposed. This was also the reason why I ended up removing my free sites, and even the paid one, I had in the past, I was causing shame upon myself for exposing my own personal info on the internet. It was all about exposure. Even when I made these sites, Kory Read’s caustic comments about them on stellareddy.com, made the shame worse, and I shut them down.

I gave into their pressure, and guilt tactics, with their caustic comments about my actions, in the end, I gave them control over what I did, or didn’t do. I had to stop it. 

When I came to see a couple of years ago, that I didn’t do any of that to myself, it was done to my against my will and without my permission, I realized that the SHAMEFUL FEELINGS were not mine to feel. Why should I feel ashamed over my personal info online, when I didn’t put it there? I didn’t write any of that online, someone else did! 

Kory & Allison Read were the people who took personal information of other people and shared it online, and they should feel ashamed of themselves for that, not project it onto me and others!

I didn’t FORCE Kory Read to do anything he has done! Kory Read made the choice to do those domains and its vicious contents, all on his own, so the shame of that, is all on him. 

I started waking up then, in 2019, when I was doing that site. I “played” Kory Read with that content, just as he is “playing” me in his and he did not like it one bit. I wanted Kory Read to feel some of what I did. Yes, it was spiteful of me, but at the time, I didn’t care. My anger was becoming the primary feeling in those days, especially after seeing all the Form 10’s they sent in filled with demands and more allegations, I got fed up with it all and saw what a mess it was becoming and just wanted no part of it anymore. I KNEW Kory & Allison Read were going to ignore the HRTO hearing, I don’t know how I knew that, I just did. I shared the reaction of Kory & Allison Read from when I made koryread.ca and called it Kory Read’s Confession, where I stole his identity and used it to my advantage, just like he did with mine, and he had a absolute FIT over it. I didn’t feel too good about that, but I am over it now.

I have never felt shame over having Mental Health issues, I grew up around it, as I mentioned before, and I don’t feel the need to feel shame over it. I have come to see Mental Health is just like physical health, you treat your mind, rather than your body. I don’t give in to others trying to shame me for it either, especially like Kory Read tried to do. it was totally disgusting to see his caustic comments on my PTSD in HRTO documents, and online.

Kory Read tried to make me feel ashamed over it, with all his caustic comments over my “fake” and “imaginary” illness. You can’t miss his many comments over my PTSD I said I had from the house fire I was in back in 1991. I didn’t know Kory Read was trained professional on mental health to know any of this, did you? Just another “skill” he claims to have like being a superintendent for many years, and working with fire as well for many years, and don’t forget the security job, the Lyft and Airplane refueling he also did!

Nothing else sticks out of their content, like these words they wrote, and even sent it to Human Rights of Ontario as part of their applications against me. Yes, they actually had the nerve to write like this and send it to the Tribunal, when it shows such total lack of decency and such total disregard for mental health.

Just this section alone is enough to cause Kory & Allison Read to be found guilty of violating my human rights!

It is because of people like Kory & Allison Read, who have the nerve to think like this, let alone write it out for the world to see, that there is still so much Stigma! I have no doubts that just this alone will find them guilty!

  • Stella Reddy also likes to claim that she has imaginary Post-traumatic stress disorder ( PTSD ) from a house fire in Newfoundland back 29 years ago in 1991.
  • Stella Reddy’s behavior is an insult to all individuals who really have PTSD.
  • Stella Reddy uses her conveniently fabricate PTSD as a crutch and a way to to leech off the Canadian government. Just like she did to her husband and enabler Russell Reddy when she decided she wanted to retire from Property Management and live off his small cleaning income.
  • Stella Reddy constantly plays the pity card as she tries to relate the events from June 2016 to present for her PTSD.
  • Post-traumatic stress disorder ( PTSD ) is a mental health condition that’s triggered by a terrifying event — either experiencing it or witnessing it.
  • Stella Reddy house fire has never been an issue in her conveniently fabricate PTSD.
  • Stella Reddy has never claimed to have the symptoms of flashbacks, nightmares, severe anxiety, as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the fire that night 29 years ago.
  • Stella Reddy always relates her conveniently fabricate PTSD as being related to the situation in which she created with her racist and anti-black behavior.
  • Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …
  • she had a pattern of her making the interracial married couple / tenants sit around all day, waiting 3 times for her and she never bothered to show up, without notice.
    Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when ……
  • when she was plotting and serving illegal N5’s against the interracial married couple / tenants.
    Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …
  • she was throwing away the key to their unit to justify her illegal N5 to get them evicted.
    Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …
  • she was in front of the racist Caucasian Social Justice Tribunal Member Kevin Lundy of September 26, 2017, lying and providing altered and false documents as evidence to have the interracial married couple / tenants evicted.
    Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …
  • she refused interracial married couple / tenants parking at the building, but at the same time gave the all-white tenant that same privilege she was refusing the interracial married couple / tenants.
    She did not have PTSD when …
  • When she deliberately lied and stated that the the interracial married couple / tenants were the only tenants with a barbecue despite there being 4 other tenants. One being her own sister Cindy Jones.
    Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …
  • When she showed support that she was a racist Donald Trump on Twitter.
    Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …
  • When she threatened to call the Children’s Aid Society on the interracial married couple / tenants bi racial children, twice.
    Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …
  • When using racial slurs, racist actions, derogatory and prejudice language during the ltb hearing in a public form.
    Stella Reddy did not have PTSD when …
  • When she messaged the the interracial married couple / tenants two young bi-racial children with hateful content on Facebook messenger.
    And the list goes on forever.
  • When everything was going in Stella Reddy’s favor, there WAS NO ISSUE OF PTSD. But now that Stella Reddy feels like the world is crashing down around her. And she is beginning held accountable for her actions and having to answers for her behavior.
  • Now the conveniently fabricate PTSD is an issue that she wants people to believe. It appears to be a convenient illness that Stella Reddy has been using for years for multiple reasons to try and gain pity and sympathy.
  • Stella Reddy is a fake and is milking the Canadian Government like others do in order to not have to work full time, if at all.
  • As it has been proven time and time again. Stella Reddy is a liar, a really bad liar. And the pattern of her lying only continues with her conveniently fabricate PTSD.

As I was writing this post, I saw a new post show up from Cynthia Bailey-Rug, another Blogger I shared posts from before, about shame and her new one is linked below. Her insights on this are so spot on, its uncanny. I have been hearing similar things since my first diagnosis in 1993 with PTSD and no, I don’t pay attention to it. I know I am a normal person who has experienced some awful shit in my life, some that would take other people out.

I have no doubt about my mental strength and ability to handle whatever life wants to throw at me. I have found my strength and writing my own story, having control over what I put online, has helped me like nothing else I have done over the past 6 years. I have control over the content within this site and what I share on my personal life.

It has allowed me to take my atonomy back and given me back control of my own narrative. I also know that my own personal words, on this situation with these Adult Tenant Bullies, will always be accepted over what they have to say I about me. It is my life after all, not theirs, and I know what it is, they do not. That is also important to me.

I have been called a “tank” by so many people, as I am strong like one. Military Tanks can take a beating and still keep going, and the analogy fits. I am a little battered, but I am still going. I won’t ever quit, as I can’t quit on myself, I deserve to have a good life and to be myself.  By sharing my personal story of being Bullied by Tenants, I am taking back my control. 

Don’t Be Ashamed Of Having PTSD Or C-PTSD!

While not many people will say those exact words, it does appear plenty of people share similar sentiments about PTSD & C-PTSD.  Many clearly think people with these disorders are weak for getting it in the first place, especially if they too have experienced a similar trauma but don’t have it.  What they fail to realize is that developing PTSD & C-PTSD isn’t a sign of weakness, contrary to what many people seem to think.  It is a sign of surviving something that easily could have destroyed you either mentally or physically or both. 

Other people think they are some made up disorders so people can wallow in the past or use them as an excuse to get out of doing things they don’t want to do, such as holding down a job.  They refuse to see that those of us with one of these disorders would love to be “normal” again.  We would love nothing more than not to think about the past traumas all of the time & be able to do normal things.

There is also the fact that every single person has a mental breaking point.  In other words, everyone has a point in which their mind simply cannot take any more.  This is the point where PTSD can & often does develop.  That point varies from person to person, but there is no avoiding it.  It is much like bones.  Bones too have a breaking point & that varies from person to person too.  Sometimes, people’s bones break easily & other times, they don’t.  There is nothing wrong, weak or even ungodly about the ones whose bones break easily.  This is simply how they are.

If you have PTSD or C-PTSD then please know that you aren’t flawed, crazy, abnormal or anything else.  You are a normal person who has experienced some pretty abnormal things.  Both disorders are awful I know, but having them isn’t something of which you should be ashamed.  Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise!

 

 

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