Narcissists Need To Prove They Are The Victim

Narcissists are individuals who have an inflated sense of self-importance, a constant need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others. They often manipulate and exploit those around them for their own gain, and will go to great lengths to prove that they are the victim in any given situation.

But why do narcissists feel the need to play the victim? What drives this behaviour, and how does it impact those around them?

What I have learned is that one of the key reasons that narcissists feel the need to prove they are the victim is because they have an intense fear of being exposed as the frauds that they truly are. In my own situation with toxic tenants, I saw the lies of a prior meeting they claimed we had 2 1/2 months before they mentioned it, as a sign of their fear of being responsible for their eviction. They never brought up this alleged meeting until the filing with the Landlord and Tenant Board for their refusals of entry, as they just made it up. They had a whole year to elaborate on this lie, as details were not given until the hearing in Sept 2017. They just couldn’t accept they caused it by their own actions, they had to make up a lie to project the blame onto me instead.

Narcissists often present a false self to the world, one that is charming, confident, and successful. They usually ended their writings with how they believed I was jealous of them, as that is how they wanted to be seen. They are good at painting themselves as innocent in all aspects and that they have such awesome possessions that they think I wanted to get in and see. However, deep down, they are filled with self-doubt and insecurity, and they are constantly worried that others will see through their facade. By positioning themselves as the victim in any given situation, narcissists can manipulate others into feeling sorry for them and taking their side, thus bolstering their fragile sense of self-worth. At least, for awhile, as people usually catch on.

Another reason that narcissists feel the need to prove they are the victim is because they have a twisted sense of reality. Narcissists often see themselves as superior to others, and they have a hard time accepting any criticism or negative feedback. They do not see that by their actions alone of naming and shaming other people in the content of these websites, they are showing themselves to be the Bullies, not anyone else.

They show no regard for the people they are writing about. How is it okay for them to bully others in this manner, but they get up in arms when someone does it to them? I had a website in his name and you saw how he reacted, but it is okay for them to do it?

Now I understand why they allowed the socialjusticetribunalsontario.ca website to expire, they didn’t want it to interfere with their new applications to the Human Rights Tribunal of Ontario they filed.

While they do have the right to file with any tribunal, they do not have the right to share that info online. I expect they got bad news recently, which is why they uploaded all the content in recent days.

Look at what this toxic tenant did over my claim that someone saw him use the keyless entry code. He has to try and prove someone couldn’t see him as I said, while totally ignoring the fact that he used a keyless entry code! The fact was that he used a keyless code that was not meant for him to use, and he spent time at the panel trying to gain access to put it back after it was removed! Good thing I changed the default password for that system, I say!

When confronted with evidence that contradicts their self-image, narcissists will go to great lengths to distort the truth and manipulate the situation to fit their own narrative. By portraying themselves as the victim, narcissists can deflect blame, avoid accountability, and maintain their illusion of superiority.

Additionally, narcissists often have a deep-seated need for control and power. By portraying themselves as the victim, narcissists can manipulate others into doing their bidding, whether it be through guilt-tripping, emotional blackmail, or outright manipulation. By positioning themselves as the victim, narcissists can garner sympathy and support from others, which gives them a sense of power and control over their social interactions and relationships.

Every time they didn’t get a response fast enough, or the text wasn’t what they wanted to see, they made the threat of filing with HRTO. They showed all the attempts that were made to speak to the parents but the parents refused, as it wasn’t in the manner the parents wanted. They come across as demanding and arrogant know-it-alls.

Furthermore, narcissists have a limited capacity for empathy, and they often struggle to understand or connect with the emotions of others. By positioning themselves as the victim, narcissists can elicit a sense of empathy from others, which helps to validate their own emotions and experiences. Additionally, portraying themselves as the victim allows narcissists to deflect attention away from the harm that they may have caused to others, and instead focus on their own perceived suffering.

I see no consideration or empathy for what their HRTO applications, and their websites, do to the other person, not with me and not with the school. Just condemnation they have no right to give.

Ultimately, the need for narcissists to prove they are the victim is driven by a combination of fear, insecurity, control, and a lack of empathy. This behaviour can have profound impacts on those around them, as narcissists often manipulate and exploit others to maintain their own sense of self-worth. It is important for individuals who are in relationships with narcissists to recognize these patterns of behaviour and establish healthy boundaries in order to protect themselves from manipulation and harm.

In conclusion, narcissists feel the need to prove they are the victims to maintain their fragile sense of self-worth, control others, and avoid accountability. This behaviour is driven by fear, insecurity, and a lack of empathy, and can have profound impacts on those around them. It is important for individuals who are in relationships with narcissists to recognize these patterns of behaviour and establish healthy boundaries in order to protect themselves from manipulation and harm.

So, it is crucial to understand the psychology of narcissists and to approach these individuals with caution and empathy. Getting an education on the many behaviours shown by narcissistic toxic people will save you a lot of pain. As a target of these people, you owe them nothing and the best thing you can do, is totally ignore them.

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