Narcissists and Control

Narcissists and Control

“It will boost their ego if they can make you do things and if they can also prevent you from doing the things you want to do.”

I have been in situations where I have felt controlled by others, where my desires and goals were pushed aside in favour of someone else’s agenda, even in how I performed my job. Look at stellareddy.com, and the other 2 domains directed to this one site. All the past versions of their content had the same intention, which was to try and shame me into hiding away from people out of fear due to the scary allegations they made.

The purpose of these websites I have learned was to try and make me do something, such as take down this site out of shame they try to place on me with their content and to try and prevent me from doing the things I want to do, such as going to community events. I realized that this type of behaviour from these toxic tenants was not healthy or beneficial for me in any way.

Being manipulated or controlled by someone else is damaging to one’s self-esteem and mental well-being. It can leave you feeling powerless and helpless like you have no control over your own life. This type of behaviour can come in many forms, from subtle manipulation to more overt forms of control. Even their suggestions that I should knock on their apartment door and hand deliver Notices of Entry to them was manipulation.

When someone tries to make you do things that you don’t want to do or prevents you from doing the things you want to do, it can be a sign of their own insecurities and need for power and control. It may boost their ego to know that they can influence your actions and decisions, but it is not a healthy or sustainable way to interact with others. They poison every environment they get involved in!

I have learned that setting boundaries and standing up for myself is crucial in these situations. It is important to assert my own needs and desires, even if it means facing resistance from others. I no longer care what other people have to say about what I do. As long as I am not breaking the law, I will do what I feel I need for my own well-being. It is important to remember that my worth and value are not dependent on someone else’s approval or control.

To break free from the cycle of manipulation and control, I have had to do some deep introspection and soul-searching. I have had to confront my own fears and insecurities and work on building my self-confidence and self-esteem. Even if someone does say something to me out in the community, I can handle it, as I have options now I didn’t feel I had before. I have become very confident in the education I have received over toxic traits! I have had to learn to trust my own instincts and intuition, and not let others dictate my actions. I now know that all it will take is to talk to me to know I am not as portrayed in that content.

It is important to surround myself with supportive and understanding people who respect my boundaries and encourage me to be true to myself. I don’t listen to naysayers, they have nothing to do with my life. It is important to recognize when someone is trying to manipulate or control me, and to take steps to protect myself from their harmful influence.

I have also had to learn to communicate effectively and assertively. I have had to practice saying no and standing up for myself calmly and assertively. I have had to learn to set boundaries and stick to them, even in the face of resistance from others.

It is not always easy to stand up for myself and assert my own needs and desires, but it is necessary for my own well-being and mental health. I need to prioritize my own happiness and fulfillment, and not let others’ need for control and power overshadow my own wants and desires. They don’t live my life, I do!

I have also had to learn to recognize the signs of manipulation and control in others. It is important to pay attention to how others make you feel and to trust your gut instincts. If you feel like someone is trying to manipulate or control you, it is important to address the issue and set boundaries to protect yourself.

I have found that therapy and self-help books have been helpful in my journey to break free from manipulation and control. Therapy has allowed me to explore my own fears and insecurities, and work through past experiences that may have contributed to my vulnerability to manipulation. Self-help books have provided me with tools and strategies to assert my own needs and desires and to recognize and resist manipulation from others.

It is important to remember that you are worthy of respect and autonomy and that no one has the right to control or manipulate you. It is important to stand up for yourself and assert your own wants and desires, even in the face of resistance from others.

In conclusion, being manipulated or controlled by others is damaging to one’s self-esteem and mental well-being. It is important to set boundaries and stand up for yourself to break free from the cycle of manipulation and control. Surrounding yourself with supportive and understanding people, practicing effective communication, and recognizing the signs of manipulation are all important steps in protecting yourself from harmful influence.

Remember that you are worthy of respect and autonomy, and have the right to prioritize your own happiness and well-being. Stand up for yourself and assert your own needs and desires, and do not let others’ need for control and power overshadow your own wants and desires.

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