Let Them

I have been dealing with a group of toxic tenants for quite some time now, as you know. They have created a domain in my name and continue to write false and harmful things about me, for years now. At first, it bothered me, but I am growing. I spent hours trying to figure out how to stop them and make them see that their words hurt me. But then I realized something – they are toxic tenants. And toxic tenants will always be toxic tenants.

Let the toxic tenants be toxic. Let them continue to spew hate and lies. Let them create their little online world where they can pretend to be something they’re not. Let them have their domain that they believe people are reading and believing. Because at the end of the day, nothing they do reflects who I am, it just reflects themselves. Their words and actions say more about them than they do about me. It is a great way to see how projection works!

I have learned so much since they first started writing nasty things about me 8 years ago! I want to say “thank you” to them for helping to spread the evidence of the cyberbullying they do!

While it can be easy to take negative words or actions from others personally, it is important to remember that their behaviour is a reflection of their own thoughts, beliefs, and values. Instead of internalizing their negativity, it is more productive to focus on understanding where they may be coming from and not let it affect your own self-worth.

They are angry, pissed-off people who are jealous that I am living a life of leisure here in NL and they want to try and ruin it. I have learned over the years that writing about other people and how they live their lives is born out of jealousy.

By recognizing that their words and actions say more about them than they do about you, you can respond with grace and confidence, knowing that you are not defined by how others perceive you. I have learned that ultimately, it is more empowering to stay true to yourself and let their opinions roll off your back. I can do that now…

It’s funny how they claim I am the stalker when in reality it is they who have been stalking me. The evidence of their stalking behaviour shows in the content they share. Did they think people wouldn’t notice? Did they think I wouldn’t realize they have been going through my social media profiles, trying to find anything they can use against me? Did they think I was unaware of what they were doing?

Let them. Let them continue to dig for dirt that doesn’t exist. They will continue to spin their wheels with gaslighting, manipulation, triangulations, and outright lies as they do not see what their actions show about their character, not mine.

I used to worry about what people would think when they read the things these toxic tenants wrote about me. Would they believe the lies? Would they see through the facade? But now, I know that the people who truly know me, who truly care about me, will not be swayed by the words of these toxic individuals. I am good with that. Let them say what they want. Let them try to tarnish my reputation. The people who matter will see the truth.

I made my social media and website public for a reason. If anyone who does read their sites wants to talk to me, you are more than welcome. I am here and easy to contact…

I refuse to let the toxic tenants have power over me. I refuse to let their words dictate how I live my life. I will continue to be true to myself, to be authentic and kind and honest. I will not stoop to their level, I will not engage in their toxic behaviour. Let them continue on their path of destruction. It is not my burden to carry.

Let them continue to write about me in their domain. Let them continue to spew hate and lies. Let them continue to believe that their words have any impact on who I am. Because at the end of the day, I know the truth. I know who I am, and I will not let anyone else define me anymore. Let the toxic tenants be toxic. I will rise above.

3 thoughts on “Let Them

  1. I think toxic people behave like that for attention so not letting them bother you is the only way to win. Their words don’t define you and the people that know the real you will know they are spreading nothing but lies. And the fact that they think it’s okay to spread things about you online and cyberbully you says a lot more about them and who they are as human beings.

    1. Thank you for your comments Pooja, they mean a lot. I hear you and I am grateful I have been able to change the way I think about it all this past year.

      It has taken time to convince my brain that what they do shows more about their character than it ever would mine. I am good…Looking forward to getting more readers. lol

Comments are closed.

Discover more from Stella Reddy's Story

Subscribe now to keep reading and get access to the full archive.

Continue reading