“It’s odd that we often don’t really know about narcissists unless we encounter one first hand. But when you have encountered one, you never quite look at the world the same again.”
I probably encountered these toxic traits before, but they didn’t register. As with anything, you don’t know until you know. I had to learn about the many traits I was being exposed to by certain Tenants in the workplace and the only way to do that was to read, listen to others, and get help from professionals experienced with toxicity and narcissism. The most powerful was advice from other targets.
Exploring the realm of human behaviour was both fascinating and complex for me over the past few years. I learned that Toxic Traits are characteristics or behaviours that can harm individuals or relationships in numerous ways. They can subtly or overtly cause harm, create tension, and hinder personal growth.
One common toxic trait is manipulation. Manipulative individuals use subtle tactics to control or influence me for their own gain. They deceive, guilt trip, or play mind games to manipulate emotions and behaviours. When I noticed that the tenants were claiming to know how to do the duties of my job better than I was doing, I had to learn to recognize these patterns and set healthy boundaries to protect myself.
Another toxic trait is constant criticism. People with this trait often belittle, demean, or constantly find fault in you for all you did and said. You can see this on display on the content of stellareddy.com. The negative comments and constant nitpicking did erode my self-esteem and confidence over time. Surrounding myself now with supportive and encouraging individuals was vital for my well-being.
Jealousy and envy are toxic traits that can poison relationships. Individuals harbouring these traits often feel threatened by the success or happiness of others. The Toxic Tenants I had in my last workplace engaged in unhealthy competition, gossip, and sabotage to attempt to bring me down, using their many domains and social media posts. They even tried to pit tenants against each other and the management. Cultivating an attitude of gratitude and celebrating others’ achievements helped me combat these toxic feelings.
Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that is often used by individuals to gain control and power over others. It involves distorting the truth and manipulating your perception of reality to make you doubt your own thoughts, emotions, and experiences.
In the context of toxic relationships, gaslighting can be especially damaging. It undermines the victim’s sense of self-worth, leaving them feeling confused, invalidated, and even questioning their own sanity. The gaslighter employs various techniques such as denial, exaggeration, blame-shifting, and even outright lies to make me doubt my own experiences and memories.
They created a lie of a prior meeting at some restaurant, which they say occurred before I even moved in to work there, saying I said inappropriate things to them, and repeated this lie to many people in the content of their domains and social media, trying to convince them it was true. This act alone showed their Gaslighting traits!
One of the reasons gaslighting is so insidious is that it can happen gradually, making it difficult for the victim to realize what is happening until they are deeply entangled in the manipulator’s web. Gaslighters often target vulnerable individuals, exploiting their weaknesses and using emotional manipulation to control and dominate them.
It was crucial to recognize the signs of gaslighting to protect myself from its harmful effects. The signs I saw included constant denial or dismissal of my feelings, twisting and distorting my words and actions, and making me question my memory or perception of the situation.
If you believe that you or someone you know is being subjected to gaslighting, it is important to seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals who can provide guidance and help validate your experiences. Remember, you are not alone, and no one has the right to manipulate and undermine your reality.
By shedding light on the toxic trait of gaslighting, we can raise awareness and create an environment where healthy relationships thrive, free from manipulation and control. It is a dream I have that I know will eventually come to fruition in my own life!
It’s important to remember that we all have the capacity for toxic behaviours at times, I even found some of mine. The key is to recognize and acknowledge them and strive for personal growth and change. It is a choice I have made for myself. Self-awareness is so important! Building healthy relationships and fostering a positive mindset is helping me combat these toxic traits and create a more harmonious environment for everyone around me.
It is true, that once you have the knowledge and can explain what you see, you never look at the world the same ever again. I know I won’t!
It was important to educate myself about toxic behaviour patterns and implementing self-care practices was a crucial step in rebuilding and maintaining my sense of self-worth.
Remember, no one deserves to be under the control of toxic individuals. By recognizing their behaviour and taking steps to distance myself from their influence, it was possible to regain control of my life and foster a healthier and more positive environment for personal growth and happiness. Be yourself. People don’t have to like you, and you don’t have to care.
Instead of dwelling on the opinions of Toxic Tenants, I choose to channel my energy toward nurturing positive relationships and focusing on my own personal growth and success.
Remember, the online world can be a challenging place, and it’s natural to face criticism from trolls. However, I shouldn’t let it define me or discourage me from pursuing my own goals. By preserving my self-confidence and focusing on my own values, I was able to rise above negativity and continue striving for greatness.
So, the next time I encounter any unwarranted comments or negative remarks from Toxic Tenants on their many websites, I will remember that their words hold no power over my true essence. I will stay strong, keep moving forward, and let my actions speak louder than any unfounded criticism from Toxic Tenants.
They can do their worst, but I will always remain steadfast and unyielding in the face of their blatant criticisms. No matter what challenges or obstacles they try to throw my way, I am determined to stay true to myself and live my life on my own terms.
It is during these tough times that one’s true character is revealed, and I am confident that I possess the strength and resilience to overcome any hardships that come. I believe that every setback is an opportunity for growth and self-improvement, and I embrace the unknown with open arms. So let them unleash their fury and try to dampen my spirit, for I am a force to be reckoned with, unwavering in my pursuit of a fulfilling and meaningful life.