I did some research on Entitlement and the phrase I was told by the Narcissistic Adult Bully that he “owns” me. I wanted to try and understand where his thinking was coming from. I also wanted to understand why it bothered me so much… Now I do.
I own you bitch. LMAO. Now go sit around and think about me some more. Go make a webpage about me and this email loser. LMAO. You have no shame or concept of decency. LOL. I OWN YOU.”
I found this article, and with others on Quora Digest, I even placed the words I got in this email there. “They clearly are making attempts to get you to engage” and they were right. As KR wrote in the email, he wanted me to go and make a webpage about this email, and about him, as it is what he wants. KR wants my attention, good or bad. I took this info and did some research, clarifying it all in my own mind.
I am not “owned” by anyone. No one has the authority to tell me what to do. They can try, but I learned I have a right to say “NO”.
What is this sentence, of claiming to “OWN” me, if not racist? I am not a “slave” to KR to do as he pleases! Slaves were abolished and no one should “bow down” to anyone, yet, here he is claiming to believe that I “bow down” to him as he “owns” me and what I do in my life. This Bully is very good at projection, isn’t he?
KR started this smear campaign in the hopes of getting his version of events out in society first and deliberately refused to admit that he broke the rules, claiming he did nothing to make anyone bring him to the Landlord and Tenant Board of Ontario. He did it to create doubt over the legal decision he knew would come.
His defence? He admits to refusing access but claims it was because he felt I was being racist and deliberately going out of my way to make their lives difficult and making it “inconvenient” for them. As he wrote on one of his sites, he clearly says that our actions “provoke and antagonize a interracial married couple/tenants”. KR tells you he felt provoked and antagonized into the action of making his many domains where he blatantly disparages me and others. KR tells about himself and his own actions in his writings online!
They think you owe them your time. Take the actions on August 24, 2017, when I went to the door to follow through with the Entry Notice I gave them 2 days before and KRs adamant statement that I should have gone to their apartment in the AM, rather than make him wait around all day. It was his choice if he stayed home!
All the complaints they gave over every Notice of Entry I ever gave them and their comments later about how I should have done it. Even their suggestion that I knock on their apartment door and hand deliver the Notice to them, rather than leave it on the door. These are all facts that point to KR believing that I owed them my time in my job!
Personally, evidence of this is in the emails and the lack of patience KR had shown in getting the response he wanted. The emails about the handwritten note his wife gave with the application over how she was in a shelter as she left her abusive husband, and he wanted me to send him a copy, and emailed me 3 times with that request, as I didn’t respond fast enough, then goes on a rant to HRTO when I didn’t give it to him. KR written documents during Human Rights applications show the constant pushing of his own perspectives onto others! He proceeds to tell you in his writing how everyone’s job should have been done.
They think that you are responsible for everything, including their own wrongdoings. KR promotes this belief in everything he writes online. He claims that he would not have had to deny entry to the apartment so often if I had done my job right and brought a contractor with me to complete the work required and had scheduled all required work the same day. He promotes that he wouldn’t have made and posted so many websites with the personal names of every person if we had not “provoked and antagonized” them into doing it.
Same for the new domain, lorrireddy.com, I get an email on June 27 that I have “been warned” to not diss their sports905.com site and this new site shows up on July 8. Coincidence? Nope… He blames all his wrongdoing, on me! I made him do it!!
They think you owe them your guilt. KR has harped on me being racist and that I discriminated against them. That I “forged and altered” documents to “illegally” evict them. He was very good with his constant changing of facts and his gaslighting. He claimed I was lying about a Tenant seeing him use the keyless entry code, that I claimed he “bumped” into me, rather than what I said of “basically bumping into me”; that I was being mean over not accepting cash for rent, that I wasn’t fearful of attack over it.
He charged me with trying to get keys to their Canada Post Box; sending them emails in fake names, that I was a liar, about everything. That is how they try to get you to feel guilty, for all the bad acts they charge you with, even without evidence. KR has never produced any evidence to prove any of his claims. Not even the one where he says I tried to access these domains through WordPress. So many unproven accusations they threw at me…
They think you owe them your ear to listen to them. KR wrote his documents with the belief that only he knows how things should be done on the property. His actions with slapping papers on my desk over propane BBQs, not accepting their cash rental payment, keyless entry code, and how I should have done my job. His comments to the Property Owners in that 7-page letter in Aug 2016 where they tell him to verify my work history, as THEY don’t believe I worked in the industry as long as I said I did.
Even his speculations on PTSD and whether I have it or not, are all clear indications that KR believes everyone owes him their ear to listen to what he says. The Hearing with Divisional Court is another example of KR’s entitled belief that people should listen to what he has to say. He tried so hard to convince the 3 judges to allow him to have me questioned during the proceedings and his nasty behaviour when he didn’t get his way. All of their domains and their contents are their way of saying “listen to me!” ONLY I know the truth… lol
They think you owe them your freedom. KR clearly shows his belief in his domain contents that I owe him my freedom. His new domain added on July 8, 2022, proves it! He truly believes that he controls me and what I accomplish in my life. That he has the power with his words, to cause people to avoid me in my community and cause me to be afraid of it. KR thinks his actions with his many domains will cause me to live in fear as I did in Ontario. He thinks his words will work and ostracize me here in Newfoundland and essentially, he will take away my freedom to live my own life in peace. It may have worked in Ontario, but it won’t work here. I am on to them and their tactics and know they have no power anymore. Their threats are empty ones…
Let us make this clear, Stella Reddy moved back to Newfoundland and still was obsessed with trying to find out where we lived.
And Stella Reddy wants people to believe that she was not obsessed with try to have us evicted from 895 Kennedy Road while stalking our family on the staff-only surveillance system?
The moment we moved out in June 2019, she started obsessing with the idea of trying to locate where we moved to.
Will Stella Reddy search for us again? YEAP!!! But that is okay, we enjoy this game of cat and mouse with her and her husband Russell Reddy. We enjoy owning Stella Reddy and Russell Reddy and having them devote their entire days, weeks, months, years, and literally their lives to us.
Stella Reddy goes to bed thinking about us, and wakes up thinking about us, and that is good enough for us.
Stella Reddy, you keep stalking us, because there is nothing you can do to us.It does not matter; the point here is that Stella Reddy is in a continuous losing battle because, in the end, everyone who searches her name from friends, family, or future or current employers and co-workers, will all see the truth about her and will deal with her accordingly.
Stella Reddy claims that she is currently mentally sick, but she was not mentally sick when getting our family evicted. Nope, Stella Reddy was of sound mind and strong will.
Only after filing with the Human Rights and creating this website did Stella Reddy start playing the pity boo-hoo card of I was not mentally in the right place. Very convenient it was.
Stella Reddy is a performer who puts on whatever face/mask is needed for the time. It is that plan, and it is that simple. This website drives her crazy because it exposes just that, her act.
Lorrie Reedy the self proclaimed racist slur “NEWFIE” from Newfoundland is really Stella Reddy.
Stella Reddy has assumed this new identity in her attempt to hide her racist past and behavior while living in Ontario at 859 Kennedy Road from the local people in her own community in Newfoundland.
It is clear that she knows what she did was wrong as she goes under the new name of Lorrie Reddy and not Stella Reddy. Tryign to hide in plain site, trying to avoid being associated with her racist behavior, actions, and words.
They think they own you. As a result of KR’s beliefs noted above, they believe they own me as a result. KR truly thinks his nasty speculations online in these domain’s contents, still, make me feel afraid and gaslight me into thinking he has the power over my life to make anything bad happen to me. He threatens me with ANOTHER Human Rights application and posts a NEW domain claiming that I made up a NEW identity to try and hide away from my life in Ontario. He once again is trying to SHAME me and cause fear, and trying to incite the general public against me with his lies over my actions. There is no NEW identity, he shared my nickname before.
Toxic Adult Bullies have become desperate to shut me up and get me to live in fear of any retribution they think they can get away with. I won’t though, never again. I have a right to my voice, and a right to my truth.
The facts are there that show they are Stalkers. How else did he find my new Facebook if he didn’t STALK me online? We have no one person in common on Facebook and there is no need for him to even look for me there. KR shared my new Facebook to be malicious. He wrote the contents there to be malicious.
Toxic Adult Bullies Narcissistic Entitlement comes through his writing.
https://psych2go.net/10-things-that-narcissists-think-you-owe-them/
Relationships, romantic or platonic involving a narcissist can be a difficult one. It comes as no surprise that narcissists attract empaths and vice versa; narcissists have superficial and alluring charm and feed the empath everything they want to hear and feel from that other person, without necessarily meaning what they say. This kind of behaviour can lead to an extremely toxic attraction as narcissists have a tendency to believe that other people owe them more than they are willing to offer themselves.
This article is designed for educational purposes and is not to be used as a self diagnosis tool for narcissism, narcissistic traits and narcissistic personality disorder. If you or somebody you know suspects that they have narcissistic traits please seek support from your doctor or mental health professional.
Here are 10 things that narcissists think you owe them.
They think you owe them your time. A narcissist will often feel that all of your time belongs to them regardless of whatever plans you have in place with other people. They will believe that you are not treating them as a priority if you do not drop plans to meet their needs. However, they will not give you all of their time in return and will be selective about the time they chose to spend with you. They will expect you to feel grateful that they are giving you their time.
They will make you believe that they are the most important thing in your life and push themselves onto you.
They think that you are responsible for everything, including their own wrongdoings. Narcissists appear to have a sense of entitlement which other people do not. They will expect you to take responsibility for their own wellbeing and for all the bad things which are happening to them. As narcissists do not accept responsibility for their actions, they will expect you take responsibility for that too! They will expect you to take care of them and if you are not doing that, then you are not acting in their best interests.
They think you owe them your guilt. This links to the previous point, however, it is important to note that narcissists will make you feel guilty of things you have not even done. Narcissists enjoy playing the victim and want people to feel sorry for them. This repetitive cycle of blaming and guilt can lead to you having a lower sense of self worth. The moment you start to feel like you have low levels of confidence, then this is the perfect gateway for a narcissist to manipulate you to do things that they want you to and develop a codependent relationship with you.
They think you owe them your ear to listen to them. Remember that narcissists are entitled and therefore, will have high expectations about what they want from you. They are not likely going to listen to your problems or troubles but if they do, there will be some kind of incentive in it for them. They will make you feel as though it is your duty to listen to their complaints all the time, with little chance of reciprocation.
They think you owe them your freedom. Controlling behaviour is associated with narcissism which means that there is a chance that they will make decisions for you both. This may include what you wear, where you go, what you do etc. They will not give up their freedom or make compromises for you but will dictate your life. This can have so many negative effects on you; it can ruin your self esteem, destroy confidence and make you question yourself (this can also be classed as ‘gaslighting’). Essentially, what the narcissist wants is for you to be completely dependent and sucked into a relationship where you will believe that you need to stay with that person in order to survive.
They think they own you. As a result of all the the previous points, this is the end game and a harsh truth. The narcissist wants to feel like they own you and can do whatever they want. This makes it harder for you to break free.
Thank you for reading this article. If you have affected by this article in anyway, please make sure you confide in somebody you trust. Being a victim of narcissism or in fact, having narcissistic traits can be extremely difficult. This article is not designed to depict narcissists as bad people but rather, to give an insight into their behaviours may manifest to others. If you have found this article useful, leave a comment in the box below.
Keep safe and watch for more updates coming soon!
J 🙂
The short answer is:
IT MEANS THEY OWN YOU
And I am NOT being facetious here. In the narcissist’s mind:
YOU ARE THEIR PROPERTY
Now this goes for ALL narcissists, but for one to vocalize it out loud, this is a very VERY bad sign. This is the quiet bit they normally keep secret.
You should take this as a MASSIVE WARNING, A HUGE RED FLAG..!
And this will end in one of only two ways:
- BADLY FOR YOU
- HORRIFICALLY BADLY FOR YOU
One of the greatest mistakes we ALL make with narcissists is we:
VENEER THE NARCISSIST
What the hell do I mean by this? This excerpt from my book The Pocket Encyclopaedia Of Narcissism will explain.
WHAT IS VENEERING THE NARCISSIST..?
What is ‘veneering’ the narcissist?
Its something that we all do, everyone that comes into contact with a narcissist.
When you look at a beautiful old piece of furniture and admire the amazing grain of the flame mahogany, polished to perfection and catching the light in its radial rays, you’re looking at a veneer.
A hand-applied, super-thin coating of beautiful wood designed to cover up the rough boxwood the carcass of the piece is made from. Strip away the veneer and most furniture is made of little more than pallet wood.
And just as the artisan covers over the ugly inside carcass of the furniture with an acceptable veneer of mahogany WE cover up the ugly carcass of the narcissist with a veneer of normality, rationality, acceptability.
The narcissist says things and does things that are SO OUTRAGEOUS that our rational brain simply can NOT process that someone would do or say THAT.
You naturally think “I’ve got this wrong”, “it isn’t what it looks like”, “they didn’t mean that’, ” There is a rational explanation for this”.
And you veneer OVER the actions and words of the narcissist with your own rational nature.
One of the biggest mistakes I counsel people against making with narcissists is:
“When they show you how truly horrible they are – believe them!”
Narcissists lie about EVERYTHING ALL THE TIME – but they are also incredibly honest, in that they do show you exactly who they are.
Remember – don’t veneer the narcissist!
What should you do?
PACK YOUR BAGS AND LEAVE IMMEDIATELY
