I find so many articles on the internet that validate my own personal beliefs about the Adult Bullies I had in my last job in a rental building in Ontario. After reading so many, I have no doubts anymore that I am being Bullied by Adults I had as Tenants in my last job for the past 6 1/2 years.
They have shown with their actions with websites, what their intentions were and I shared enough of their words on this site.
Take this one below, it highlights the behaviours Bullies will display and I have been subjected to all of them over the past few years since they started their smear campaign against me. My fear became my most overwhelming emotion and I had to get out of that environment for good! Leaving ON saved my sanity and it gave me the peace of mind to finally start recovery from the trauma their actions caused.
I am not responsible for their actions but I am responsible for my recovery!
As I heal, I am finding it hard to keep writing about a situation that is long over… It has become history for me, and is no longer pertinent, not even in my recovery. All I want to do these days is focus on positive things!
Those websites will not cause any negative events in my life these days, as they are the nasty speculations of a precious Tenant who no longer holds any power or influence and are on old websites redirected to the Internet Archive, which will disappear over time too! They tried to take me out and lost. They won’t get another chance… Their time is done, not only in my personal life but also in my head.
I am ready to move on and spread some positive things for a change!
By Sarah Barkley Published on July 07, 2022
Many people believe bullying only happens during childhood, but that’s not entirely accurate. Bullies continue their behavior into adulthood, filling a regular role in your life. Their behavior is often more subtle and thought out than a child’s, but it’s still there.
Anyone in your life can be a bully, so watch for it no matter where you are. Some of the people you might experience cruelty from including your:
- Boss or co-worker
- Romantic partner
- Sales or business representatives
- Family members
- Social media contacts
Identifying bullying behavior can help you figure out the people who don’t want what’s best for you. You have options, and there are things you can do as a victim or a bystander.
Types of Adult Bullies
Cruel people come in different forms and use different tactics to hurt the people around them. The situation is detrimental to your well-being, from physical harm to emotional abuse.
Some of the types of bullies to watch out for include the following:
- Verbal: They often shame and insult you using criticism or cruel teasing. Sometimes they use disrespectful or threatening behavior.
- Material: They use their power to intimidate and control you. This person could be your boss or manager, or they could have control of your finances.
- Passive-aggressive: They usually act kind and friendly and then take unexpected turns. You’ll notice eye-rolling, rude facial expressions, and ridicule. They also like to isolate their victims to hide their intentions from others.
- Cyber: They send malicious emails, social media messages, comments, or text messages. Their behavior doesn’t always surface in person because they feel safer doing it over the internet.
- Physical: They might show violent tendencies like raising their fists or pretending like they’re going to hurt you. Sometimes they throw or break things to get their point across. They also engage in violent acts like domestic, physical, and sexual abuse.
Eighteen Behaviors Bullies Display Before Revealing Their Intentions
Watch for these signs if you think someone might have cruel intentions.
3. Bullies Are Controlling
A bully wants everything to go their way, and they won’t settle for anything less. They want everyone to go along with them and become more condescending the longer you hold out.
4. Bullies Love to Argue About Past Mistakes
Everyone makes mistakes, and a bully won’t let you forget about yours. While you must learn from your mistakes, you also must leave them in the past.
If someone in your life continually brings them up, it’s their way of being cruel. They want to remind you that you messed up, and it’s their subtle way of ridiculing you.
5. Lying or Pretending Not to Understand
A bully might make a point by saying they didn’t do something that they did do. They use lies to get their way, often blaming others for their mistakes. Sometimes they’ll even take credit for other people’s work.
This type of person often pretends not to understand things as a way to protect themselves. They also do it to get their way or get you to do their work for them.
6. Sabotage Is a Bullying Behavior
If someone ruins your project, destroys your items, or causes you to suffer for their gain, it’s sabotage. They want to see you fail and do whatever they can to make it happen.
7. Constant Criticism
Constantly judging and criticizing others is a sign of a bully. Unnecessary and unconstructive criticism is a way for them to tear you down so they can gain power and feel important. It causes decreased self-esteem and feelings of doubt or worthlessness.
8. A Bully Hopes to Instill Fear
Bullies want to gain control, and they’ll stop at nothing. They instill fear in others to gain what they need, often targeting innocent people.
Cruel people know their victims are easier to handle when alone. They find ways to isolate their victim to instill more fear and intimidation. If they can’t get you alone, they’ll do things to get others to stay away from you.
One example is when you introduce someone new to your group of friends. The new person might make things uncomfortable or act in a way that makes your friends not want to come around.
11. Frequent Temper Tantrums
Temper tantrums are natural for children, but you’ve likely seen a few adults have them. Adults have advanced their tantrum skills and understand how to wear others down and hit emotional triggers. It makes you feel abused and scarred and only benefits the bully.
Some examples of adult temper tantrums include:
- Yelling and scream
- Announcing your insecurities
12. They Gossip and Spread Misinformation
Bullies love to gossip, and they often start rumors about others. They talk badly behind people’s backs and then smile to their faces.
This behavior is incredibly hurtful to their victims, and the bully doesn’t show remorse. The bully does this because they have low self-esteem and feel better about making others feel bad.
13. Blaming Others
This type of person never takes responsibility for their mistakes. They blame others for what went wrong, even if no one else was involved. This behavior often creates chaos and hinders productivity.
14. They Ignore Boundaries
They do whatever they want, even if it makes other people uncomfortable. This type of person knows when they are crossing a boundary and does it anyway. You can reassert your boundary many times, and they’ll keep pushing.
15. Repeatedly Discussing the Same Idea
It’s a bad sign when someone keeps talking about the same thing, even after you’ve given your opinion. They’ll continue bringing it up until they convince you to agree with them.
If you didn’t answer their question how they wanted you to, they might keep asking it. They know that many people will eventually give in and tell them what they want to hear.
16. Bullying Often Involves Constant Complaining
Bullies complain all the time, and it seems like nothing can make them happy. They hold others to an impossible standard and complain no matter how hard you tried. You’ll often hear them complaining that someone else caused their negative feelings, too.
17. Always Saying No or Telling Someone They’re Wrong
The first thing out of a bully’s mouth is usually no. They don’t want to negotiate or discuss the situation, leaving nothing else for you to do.
Another common issue is that they tell others they are wrong even when they’re not. They tell people they are wrong for their feelings and that every statement is incorrect. Plus, they’ll do whatever they can to prove you wrong and undermine you.
18. Public Belittling
Bullies often publicly belittle their victims either in person or via the internet. They will point out your flaws and insecurities and attack your decisions. Afterward, they find people who will take their side on the matter.https://www.powerofpositivity.com/bullies-behaviors-display/