This question was very critical for me to know as a survivor of Toxic Abuse. I came to see that Adult Bullies I had experience with, know how to triangulate people and make themselves appear to be the victim, and this told me they knew what they were doing with their websites. They deliberately made various websites where they hoped to shame and humiliate me and strip me of my basic rights and play victim to circumstances they created!
It was their constant acts of emailing my employers at the property I worked where they shared my personal information that was not theirs to share, that told me they were doing it deliberately in hopes of sicking the owners at me and getting me into trouble for what they say.
The act of sending these emails to my employers was an attempt to cause trouble. These emails were what I went to Google over!
I have researched this type of behaviour and that is what I learned. No one sends emails telling your bosses your personal business unless they are hoping your bosses will get frustrated and take it out on you. It was the act of sending so many emails to my employers filled with their demands that they “correct” my behaviour that told me they were doing these things very deliberately. The attachments were about the personal HRTO applications I filed against them that I sent to HRTO that had nothing to do with my employers.
What they did was triangulation, the first sign that you have Toxic Narcissistic Bullies on your hands! Triangulation is when a toxic or manipulative person, often a person with strong narcissistic traits, brings a third person into their relationship in order to remain in control.
Their many websites also show the trait of Triangulation, as they are bringing the readers of the Internet into the relationship!!
Sent: July 4, 2018 11:49 AM
To: Cc: Stella Reddy <firstname.lastname@example.org>; Stella >; A
Subject: Email # 1
This email has been forward requesting that you please tell your employee Stella Reddy to quit emailing and harassing us.
We do not have to live here and live this way, constantly being lectured by your employee who tries to insults us, bully and goes on excessively long and pointless rants.
As you have encouraged this behaviour from her in the past, we would hope that this time you would ” Check ” and correct your employees behaviour.
Our emails are not for ANYONES personal rants.
We request that you “check” your employee immediately.
We have attached a copies of all the emails to us from your employee Stella Reddy.https://stellareddy.xyz/the-many-nasty-emails-stella-reddy-received-from-toxic-adult-bullies/
It is very funny that the people who know the least about you, always have the most to say! Here are Tenants, whom you have no familiar relationship with, writing with such conviction, things about your personal life on various websites they created for that very purpose. They have no idea about my personal life, yet feel entitled to spew their speculations about it on their posts! They tell their one-sided narratives filled with their opinions, not facts they are able to prove. Opinions are not facts.
When you look at their long list of websites, the poster about busybodies makes a lot of sense! They are trying to exert “false control” over the lives of others, hoping their threats to ” expose” all that they assert was “said and done” so publicly on websites will cause fear in their Targets. The fear caused by their public posts about you is debilitating and can cause you to hide away from getting more… That was my experience there for a while! Don’t give in to that!
Adult Bullies make the proud statement that he is a stay-at-home Dad while his wife is a very successful event planner so he is a very idle person who goes around looking for negative things in the people around him, often sharing these negative things as gossip on their many websites, to make themselves look better. I can see it very clearly, and so will you. Read up on Toxic Traits and Narcissism, and it will open your eyes to human behaviour that you might be exposed to, or even someone you know is going through!
Toxic Adult Bullies who created and maintain the list of sites below know what they do. I told them, many times, in email and in my documents sent during the process of Human Rights against me, what their actions were doing to my psyche and mental health; they just did not care. You can see their statements in the sections I shared below!!
They turn around and proceeded to call me “fake” and a performer, disparaging my mental health issues. That is more “familiarity” with things they have no idea of!
There was some honesty from them in this post, I was of sound mind and strong will when they first started their Bullying ways in 2018, but as with anything, over time their antics played on the PTSD I already had from 1991 and the house fire I had.
No one is immune to being Bullied over such a long period of time.
It was the filing with HRTO and creating their websites, including all their emails and documents that came over those 19 months, that deteriorated my Mental Health to the point it did. I am human, it was bound to do something to my psyche, how could it not?
19 months for HRTO, and 18 months for Divisional Court, is a long time to be subjected to their bullying websites and the posts within them, as well as the rumours and gossip going around the property. Here I am, 6 years and 5 months, still having to deal with their many websites being online containing my name and personal info!
After all this time though, you learn to tolerate stuff like this and use it in your education on Toxic Traits and Narcissism. You take a negative situation and turn it into a positive one that helps you recover!!
I took many words from their sites and researched what it all meant, which gave me so much info that helped me in my recovery!
Stella Reddy claims that she is currently mentally sick, but she was not mentally sick when getting our family evicted. Nope, Stella Reddy was of sound mind and strong will.
Only after filing with the Human Rights and creating this website did Stella Reddy start playing the pity boo-hoo card of I was not mentally in the right place. Very convenient it was.
Stella Reddy is a performer who puts on whatever face/mask is needed for the time. It is that plan, and it is that simple. This website drives her crazy because it exposes just that, her act.http://web.archive.org/web/20211022013816/https://stellareddy.com/the-obsessed-unhealthy-nature-of-stella-reddy/
- sjtomembervandanapatel.com (no longer works)
I stopped fearing Toxic Adult Bullies with Narcissistic Traits because their words have no value to me and how I live my life. They might think their words invalidating other individuals are important for people to see and read, in reality no one cares what some anonymous person has to say about someone else. If they wanted to write about themselves and their own experiences, no problem, but they did not. Their content is all about bashing someone else.
I have learned that when it comes to the internet, Anonymous posters are generally avoided. I have had so many people tell me that they ignore anonymous writers! If they can’t be honest enough to share their name, what makes you think they are honest in their posts?
Honest people have nothing to hide, not even their names!! If what they claim was factual, they would have no issue with honest feedback from their readers and would show their names and a way to contact them!
Toxic Adult Bullies are cowards hiding behind anonymity on the Internet, as they know what they do is wrong!