To Truly Heal…Shift Your Mindset

I realized that to truly heal, I had to change the way I think. I needed to become very conscious of the negative and false beliefs that were holding me back and start shifting to a mindset that actually served me. This was not an easy task, but I was determined to make it happen.

One of the biggest hurdles I faced in this journey toward healing is the cyberbullying that I have experienced on stellareddy.com over the past 5 years. The negative labels and comments that have been thrown my way have affected me deeply for a long time. But I refused to let these hurtful words define me.

Once I realized that no matter what these toxic tenants wrote in the content, it would never reflect who I am, as they were just Tenants from my last place of work. They don’t know who I am and never would. They can assume all they want, it won’t make anyone accept they know what they are talking about in terms of my personal life they were not a part of.

I realized that to move past the hurt and pain caused by cyberbullying, I had to first acknowledge the impact that it has had on me. I had to confront the negative beliefs that were instilled in me as a result of these hurtful words and start to challenge them. I had to learn to separate myself from the labels that have been placed on me, as that was not who I am, then or now.

It was not an easy process, but I was willing to put in the work. I am always willing to face my demons head-on. Out of my 18-year career in property management in ON working in various apartment buildings in various Cities, it was only these Tenants who said that about me.

I realize now that to truly heal, I had to learn to forgive those who have hurt me. This includes the cyber bullies who have targeted me on stellareddy.com. I had to find it in my heart to let go of the anger and resentment that I had been holding onto and move forward with compassion and understanding.

I know that holding onto anger and bitterness will only continue to poison my soul. I know that to truly heal, I must find a way to release these negative emotions and make peace with the past.

I also understood that to change the way I think, I had to start to surround myself with positivity and support. I had to seek out people who lifted me up and encouraged me to be the best version of myself. I had to create a safe and nurturing environment where I could grow and thrive.

This meant letting go of toxic relationships and toxic environments that only served to bring me down. It meant setting boundaries and taking care of my own well-being above all else. It meant prioritizing my mental and emotional health and making choices that align with my values and goals.

I understood that this process would not happen overnight. It takes time and effort to unlearn the negative beliefs and behaviours that have been ingrained in me for so long. But I was committed to doing the work because I knew that it was the only way to truly heal and move forward.

I also realized that to change the way I think, I had to practice self-compassion and self-care. I had to learn to treat myself with kindness and understanding and to be gentle with myself as I navigated this difficult journey toward healing.

Self-compassion is not always easy, especially for those of us who have struggled with self-esteem and self-worth in the past. But I knew that in order to truly heal, I had to learn to love and accept myself exactly as I am, flaws and all. I had to learn to forgive myself for past mistakes and to embrace my own humanity with open arms.

In addition to self-compassion, I also prioritized self-care to heal and thrive. This meant making time for the things that brought me joy and fulfillment, such as spending time with loved ones, engaging in activities that nourished my soul, and taking care of my physical health.

I understood that to heal, I had to be willing to seek out professional help and support. I had to be willing to reach out to therapists, counsellors, and support groups who could help me navigate this difficult journey toward healing. I had to be open to receiving help and guidance from those who were trained to assist me in my healing process.

This process was not easy, but I knew that it was necessary. I had to be willing to face my fears and insecurities head-on and start the process of dismantling the false beliefs that were holding me back. I was willing to do the work that was required to heal, even if it meant facing discomfort and pain along the way.

I also understood that to truly heal, I had to be willing to let go of the need for external validation and approval from others. I had to learn to validate and approve of myself and to find my sense of worth and value from within. I had to stop seeking validation from others and start to trust in my inner knowing and intuition.

This meant letting go of the need for approval and validation from others and instead focusing on building a strong sense of self-worth and self-esteem from within. It meant learning to trust in myself and my own abilities and to believe in my own worthiness and value. It meant letting go of the need for external validation and approval, and instead finding validation and approval from within.

I also understood that to truly heal, I had to be willing to forgive myself for past mistakes and shortcomings. I had to be willing to let go of the guilt and shame that I was carrying and to start the process of self-forgiveness and self-compassion.

This meant acknowledging how I have harmed myself and others in the past and taking responsibility for my actions. It meant owning up to my mistakes and shortcomings and learning from them to grow and evolve as a person. It meant being willing to show myself the same kindness and compassion that I would show to a loved one who was struggling.

To truly heal, I had to also be willing to let go of the need for perfection and control in my life. I had to learn to embrace uncertainty and change and to trust in the process of life unfolding as it is meant to. I had to be willing to surrender to the flow of life and let go of my need to control and manipulate every outcome.

This meant being willing to let go of the need for perfection and control, and instead embrace the messiness and imperfections of life. It meant being willing to trust in the unknown and to have faith that everything will unfold as it is meant to. It meant letting go of the need to control every outcome and instead learning to surrender to the natural flow of life.

To truly heal, I had to also be willing to let go of the past and start living in the present moment. I had to be willing to release the grip of past traumas and negative experiences and start embracing the beauty and potential of the present moment. I had to be willing to let go of regrets and resentments and start living fully and authentically in the here and now.

This meant being willing to let go of the stories and narratives that I have been telling myself about the past, and instead focusing on the beauty and potential that exists in the present moment. It meant being willing to release the grip of past traumas and negative experiences, and to start opening myself up to the possibility of a brighter and more fulfilling future.

I am committed to doing the work that is required to heal and transform my life. I am always willing to face my fears and insecurities head on, and to dismantle the false beliefs being told about me by others. I know that it is a difficult and painful journey, but I was ready to take the steps towards healing.

I will never allow the cyberbullying and negative labels that have been placed on me to define who I am. I will not let the opinions of others dictate my sense of self-worth and value.

I am worthy of love and acceptance, just as I am. I am deserving of compassion and understanding, both from myself and from others. I embraced a mindset that empowers and uplifts me.

I know that with dedication, perseverance, and a willingness to confront my inner demons, I will be able to create a life that is filled with joy, fulfillment, and love.

I was ready to heal. I know that with courage, determination, and a commitment to self-love and self-care, I will be able to overcome any obstacle that stands in my way. I know that with the support of those who love and care for me, I can navigate this difficult journey towards wholeness and well-being.

With all the dedication, perseverance, and willingness to do the inner work that was required, I was able to emerge from this process stronger, wiser, and more fulfilled than ever before. With self-compassion, self-care, and a commitment to self-love, I was able to create a life that is worth living.

I was finally ready to embrace the beauty and potential of the present moment and to start living fully and authentically in the here and now.


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