The Judgements From Others Isn’t As Bad As We Think It Is!

I have experienced firsthand the damaging effects of a smear campaign and cyberbullying. It’s a painful experience to have your reputation attacked and your character called into question.

The fear of being judged by others can be overwhelming, leading to self-doubt and insecurity. However, I have come to realize that most people are not as judgmental as I believe them to be. Knowing that others aren’t judging me the way I thought they were has been a profound realization for me.

Understanding that others aren’t constantly judging me like the toxic tenants has allowed me to see the best in people, rather than imagining the worst. I used to be quick to assume the worst in others, always on edge and ready to defend myself against perceived judgment or criticism.

But now, with this newfound understanding, I can approach people with a more open mind and heart. I have found that when I give others the benefit of the doubt and assume the best in them, they often rise to meet those expectations. This shift in perspective has led to deeper and more meaningful connections with those around me.

I have also noticed that when I can let go of my fear of judgment and accept my mistakes, I am more open to feedback and growth. Rather than feeling defensive and defeated when someone points out a flaw or error, I can see it as an opportunity for learning and improvement. This mindset shift has allowed me to develop a growth mindset and approach challenges with a sense of resilience and determination.

In addition, letting go of the fear of judgment has enabled me to be more authentic to myself. I no longer feel the need to constantly mold myself to fit into others’ perceptions of who I should be. This newfound sense of freedom and self-acceptance has been incredibly empowering.

When we are the targets of a smear campaign or cyberbullying, it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that everyone sees us in the negative light we are being painted out to be. But the truth is, most people are too preoccupied with their own lives to spend much time judging others. They are not as focused on our flaws and mistakes as the bullies attacking us are. Bullies are personally invested to see us fail…

I am some random person being written about by some other random person, over allegations of racism online. Just one of many on the internet. There are no legal determinations made in all these years, the adult bullies filed but walked away after 19 months of the process in Jan 2020. In over 7 years they had domains online containing my name no one came forward with similar allegations against me.

I don’t accept anything I read at face value, especially content developed by an anonymous person about other people I personally don’t know, and I have come to see that I am not the only one. I do my research first and look for other articles to verify the info I am reading. If I can’t find corroborating evidence, I accept that there are none and don’t accept their version of events as laid out.

When you come across a website, like, are you going to automatically assume that every word written is factual, especially when you see that the author is hiding? What about a website like Do you automatically assume that every word written is the truth of the matter too? I doubt it as it isn’t logical.

By releasing the fear of judgment from others, I have freed myself from the burden of constantly seeking approval and validation from external sources. I am grateful for this new perspective and the freedom and empowerment it has brought into my life. I encourage others to challenge their own perceptions of judgment and fear and see the positive impact it can have on their lives. Let go of fear and judgment and embrace a more authentic and fulfilling life.

They say that when you Retire from working, you gain personal freedom to be however you want to be and I can see that. I have a lot of freedom these days! No triangulation!

It’s not easy to let go of the hurt and pain caused by a smear campaign or cyberbullying. The wounds ran deep, and the scars may never fully heal. But I have found solace in the knowledge that I am not alone in my struggles. Others have faced similar challenges and have emerged stronger and more resilient because of them and so can I.

I have also learned the importance of self-care and self-compassion during difficult times. It’s crucial to prioritize my mental and emotional well-being, even when facing adversity. By taking care of myself, I have been better able to weather the storms of life and come out stronger on the other side.

In the end, I have come to see that the only judgment that truly matters is the one I hold for myself. I strive to be kind, compassionate, and forgiving towards myself, knowing that I am worthy of love and acceptance just as I am. I refuse to let the opinions of others dictate my self-worth and self-esteem.

In conclusion, I have come to realize that the power of self-acceptance and self-love is a transformative force in the face of judgment and negativity. By embracing my flaws and imperfections, I have found a sense of inner peace and contentment. I refuse to allow the negativity of others to control my narrative. I am the master of my fate, the captain of my soul. And I choose to navigate the waters of life with courage, grace, and compassion.

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