Finding Serenity: A Journey Towards Peace of Mind After Workplace Bullying


As I sit here reflecting on the journey I have undergone, my mind fills with memories of a time that left me battered, bruised, and drained both emotionally and mentally. It was a time when the very thought of stepping foot into the world filled me with anxiety and extreme fear. However, little did I know that this daunting journey would lead me towards a profound understanding of myself, the power of inner strength, and ultimately, the peace of mind I now wholeheartedly embrace.

I loved everything about my job working in residential apartment buildings and did it gladly for 16 years. My excitement soon melted away like a mirage in the scorching desert, as I encountered adult bullies lurking within the workplace. Toxic Tenants I found there were the worst. I never had so many misunderstandings with Tenants in my career! These individuals seemed to thrive on creating a toxic environment that sowed seeds of discontent and thrived on power-play tactics.

Adult bullies often master the art of manipulation, using their position and power to intimidate and belittle others. they thought they held all the cards! They deploy a range of tactics, such as micromanaging, spreading malicious rumours, criticizing my work, and even resorting to overt humiliation. The psychological and emotional toll of such behaviour can be devastating, leaving victims like myself questioning their self-worth and ability to find peace.

Amidst the chaos, I gradually realized that the power to reclaim my peace of mind lay within me. I embarked on a journey of self-awareness, closely examining my own thoughts, emotions, and reactions when faced with bullying situations. It was time to shed the role of a victim and cultivate resilience.

Cultivating Resilience:

  • Recognizing and understanding the bully’s behaviour:
    To cultivate resilience, it was crucial to comprehend the bullies’ motives and the dynamics at play. This understanding allowed me to detach emotionally and see their actions as a reflection of their own insecurities, rather than a personal attack on my character. They were projecting.
  • Building a support network:
    Seeking solace in the company of trusted friends and family helped alleviate the weight I carried. Sharing my experiences and seeking guidance from those who had been through similar situations allowed me to understand that I was not alone. Their support provided a sense of validation and strength.
  • Setting boundaries and asserting oneself:
    Creating and enforcing personal boundaries became essential for maintaining self-respect. It meant recognizing my limits, both professionally and personally, and asserting myself when those limits were crossed. Speaking up respectfully and firmly against inappropriate behaviour helped establish a healthier work environment.
  • Practicing self-care:
    Prioritizing self-care became a non-negotiable aspect of my journey to peace. Engaging in activities that brought me joy, such as writing, hobbies, and spending time with loved ones, allowed me to regain a sense of control and recenter my focus on what truly mattered in life.

One of the most transformative experiences on this journey was learning to forgive myself for the mistakes I made during this process and learn how to be better. I acknowledged that I was not to blame for the bullying I endured. Forgiving the bullies, not for their benefit, but for my own emotional liberation, I am still working on achieving, as I know it will allow me to release the pent-up anger and resentment that still at times consume me.

In my quest for healing, I sought assistance from qualified professionals who specialize in bullying. Their guidance helped me navigate the labyrinth of emotions and offer strategies to overcome the trauma inflicted by adult bullies. Therapeutic interventions, such as cognitive behavioural therapy, proved instrumental in reframing my perspectives and building a resilient mindset.

Gradually, through self-reflection, support networks, resilience-building, and forgiveness, I began to experience a newfound sense of peace. I realized that true tranquillity lies in embracing personal growth and nurturing one’s self-worth beyond the confines of a toxic work environment.

As I conclude this personal narrative of my journey towards peace of mind, my heart swells with gratitude for the transformative experiences I have encountered. While the scars left by adult bullies may never fade entirely, they have become a testament to my strength, perseverance, and capacity for growth.

Remember, peace of mind is attainable, even in the face of adversity. By accepting the power that resides within ourselves and seeking solace in supportive networks, we can transcend the clutches of adult bullying and live a life filled with serenity.


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