Narcissistic Pathology And Behaviour

  • 1. Always Talk About Themselves
  • 2. Fantasize
  • 3. Believe They Are Superior
  • 4. Require Constant Praise
  • 5. Sense of Entitlement
  • 6. Takes Advantage of Others
  • 7. Envious of Others
  • 8. Enjoy Being the Center of Attention
  • 9. Lack of Empathy
  • 10. Boundless Ambition
  • 11. Incredibly Insecure
  • 12. Incredibly Charming
  • 13. Extremely Competitive
  • 14. Hold Grudges
  • 15. Don’t Take Criticism Well
  • 16. Perfectionism
  • 17. Feeling Depressed
  • 18. Difficulty Regulating Emotions
  • 19. Feeling Contempt

Definition And Assessment

A narcissistic personality disorder is usually diagnosed through clinical evaluation. It is defined by the fifth edition (2013) of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) in terms of the personality traits of grandiosity and attention-seeking and in terms of significant impairments in personality functioning—such as looking excessively to others for the regulation of self-esteem, viewing oneself as exceptional, having impaired empathy, and having mostly superficial relationships. Those qualities remain relatively stable over time and are not attributable primarily to a medical condition, the use of drugs, or the individual’s developmental stage. Researchers have also investigated a less extreme form of narcissism that is termed the narcissistic personality type. Such individuals possess most or all of the characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder but are considered within the normal range of personality.

Persons who display either narcissistic personality disorder or the narcissistic personality type are preoccupied with maintaining excessively positive self-concepts. They become overly concerned with obtaining positive, aggrandizing feedback from others and react with extremely positive or negative emotions when they succeed or fail to receive confirmation that others hold them in high regard. Narcissists want positive feedback about themselves, and they actively manipulate others to solicit or coerce admiration from them. Accordingly, narcissism is thought to reflect a form of chronic interpersonal self-esteem regulation.

Narcissistic Pathology And Behaviour

Research findings employing the NPI describe a portrait of narcissists as possessing inflated and grandiose self-images. It is not surprising then that narcissists report having high self-esteem. However, these positive self-images appear to be based on biased and inflated perceptions of their accomplishments and their distorted views of what others think about them. For example, they overestimate their physical attractiveness relative to judges’ ratings of their attractiveness, and they overestimate their intelligence relative to objective assessments of their IQ. In one experiment, narcissistic and nonnarcissistic men (as identified based on their NPI results) were interviewed by a woman whose responses were scripted; thus, all the men received the same social feedback. The narcissistic men, however, assessed the woman’s attraction to them more highly than did nonnarcissistic men. Other findings indicate that narcissists take greater credit for good outcomes even when those outcomes occurred by luck or chance.

Although narcissists’ self-esteem is high, it is also fragile and insecure, as evidenced by its variability. It fluctuates from moment to moment, day to day, more than that of less-narcissistic people. Other research indicates that narcissists are more likely to have high explicit (conscious, self-reported) self-esteem and low implicit (nonconscious, or automatic) self-esteem. This finding suggests that although narcissists describe themselves in positive terms, their nonconscious feelings about themselves are not so positive.

Narcissists’ positive but insecure self-views lead them to be more attentive and reactive to feedback from other people. However, not just any response or feedback from others is important to narcissists; they are eager to learn that others admire and look up to them. Narcissists value admiration and superiority more than being liked and accepted. Studies find that narcissists’ self-esteem depends upon the extent to which they feel admired. Moreover, narcissists pursue admiration from others by attempting to manipulate the impressions they create in others. They make self-promoting and self-aggrandizing statements and attempt to solicit regard and compliments from those around them. They also respond with anger and resentment when they feel threatened by others. They are more likely to respond aggressively on such occasions and derogate those who threaten them, even when such a hostile response jeopardizes the relationship.

Narcissists attempt to solicit admiration from those around them, and their hostility when others fail to respond appropriately contributes to the disturbed interpersonal relationships that are a hallmark of the disorder. Research has shown that people describe their narcissistic acquaintances as trying to impress others by bragging and putting down others. These behaviours are initially successful in that those who interact with narcissists find them to be competent and attractive. However, over time these partners come to view the narcissist as arrogant and hostile.

Findings from a range of studies suggest a picture of narcissists as people who use their friends to feel good about themselves. They pander for attention and admiration to support self-images that are positive but easily threatened. They are constantly on alert for even the smallest slight that they perceive as disrespect. Perhaps most important, narcissists’ striving to self-enhance at the expense of their friends ultimately costs them friendships.


The Stella Reddy portrayed online on stellareddy.com does not exist! I know myself, and Bullies do not. It is that plain and that simple!

It is the many Narcissistic traits they have that make them feel that every person they meet is racist and showing discrimination towards them. I see it in their words online on all the websites they own!

The very fact that no one else has ever made such claims against me in all my living years, gives it away. If the Stella Reddy that these Bullies write about online existed, it would have come out a long time ago. I was very upset and affected by their words of condemnation that I did not deserve. That was my issue and what I had to get past. I was very defensive over the many lies and false allegations being made, brought on by my extreme fears of someone believing them and attacking me. I knew their claims of racism and discrimination were false, but I was afraid that someone would just accept their word and attack me because of it. I was seeing it happen all around me at the time, so yes, I will be defensive, trying to not have that happen. It is natural to defend yourself against lies.

  • Adult Bullies had hoped their many domains would draw attention and other previous tenants would come out of the woodwork and back up their claims against Stella Reddy and others named. It didn’t happen as there is nothing there.
  • Adult Bullies had hoped his many domains and the content within, would draw attention from some lawyer willing to help them go after this fictional Stella Reddy and others. That didn’t happen either.
  • Adult Bullies had hoped his domains would stop people from renting apartments from the property owners at 859 Kennedy Rd. That didn’t happen either!
  • Adult Bullies had hoped his domains would cause embarrassment and shame on myself and my husband to the point where others would avoid us, and we would not be able to get a job, or a place to live and have no friends. That didn’t happen as here I am, living in Newfoundland and enjoying my retirement while my hubby has a wonderful job that he loves with great bosses and co-workers who laughed when they were told about these sites online.

Adult Bullies had a lot of hopes for his many domains and as each one was being ignored, he made and posted another one filled with basically the same info, thinking that one will get him the response he wants. I see that Adult Bullies keeps trying, even after over 6 years of failures, as he refuses to quit. Everything Adult Bullies has tried against so many people have failed to give him any satisfaction and it never will.

This also shows traits of narcissism, the unwillingness to give up a losing battle. Adult Bullies will keep going, even long after, as he refuses to accept that anything they did is wrong. They even don’t accept that their acts of registration domains in other people’s personal names or that of their businesses are toxic bullying behaviour. They feel entitled to make these sites, as they feel entitled to share ONLY their side of the story where they are the poor victims. They don’t show what they did, just your reactions to what they did.

You can only beat something into the ground for so long without people getting fed up with listening, reading, and seeing it! I know this for a fact, which is why I had to wake up and come back to reality!

Living in the past doesn’t get you anywhere. I was turning into a bitter old woman and I don’t want that, so I stopped and instead of focusing on all the terrible things Adult Bullies have done, said and wrote, I am focusing on ME. I am focusing on MY recovery, on MY needs! To hell with them, they have nothing to do with my life anymore so have no space in my present or my future. They may try to force themselves into my personal life with their many speculations, but as an anonymous person, they are not accepted for any of it. People don’t trust anonymous writers of other people!

Adult Bullies has never proven anything against anyone, it is just words and his own personal opinions. Adult Bullies are not a friend, or family, so everything he says about me is just speculation! Gaslighting! 

Adult Bullies has spent so much time and energy making up his little narratives online trying to convince you that he knows these people so well that he can read their minds and know what they are thinking and doing so accurately. That is gaslighting.

We all know this is impossible and improbable. Adult Bullies is not a mind reader, no matter how convincing he tries to sound. Gaslighting!

The Stella Reddy that Adult Bullies write about within this content online is a fictional character made up by Adult Bullies’ imagination. This person does not exist as they don’t know me, Stella Reddy, at all. They might have “opinions” about me, and they might “speculate” about me, but they have no facts to base it all on that would cause anyone to believe them.

Adult Bullies have taken what Stella Reddy has said and done and built a completely fictional character based on their own personal perceptions and opinions, not on actual fact.

Adult Bullies are using their screwed-up interpretations to try and show Stella Reddy, and others named, in a certain light, which is a smear. Unfortunately, there are a lot of Smear Campaigns going on! Do a search of that term and you would be shocked by the amount of results you will find!

As an example, I said that Adult Bullies is using the fact that she is black as a way to deflect from what they did, which was refused access. They have taken this action of Stella Reddy and made it into racism,  all because Adult Bullies fit this description. You can see how their imagination was at play in the 7-page letter they sent on August 31, 2016. Adult Bullies states that she got the impression I had an issue with her. This is pure projection, as this Bully could not possibly know what Stella Reddy was thinking to say this.

I would like to show you now why I believe Adult Bullies are Narcissistic. I am not a doctor, but I do a lot of reading! Once I remove emotion from the picture and just read the words as written by Adult Bullies online within these domains, you can see the traits above in all their glory!

The traits listed above can see in the writings of Adult Bullies within the content of these domains they post.

All domains are about how this interracial couple/tenants were “targeted” by so many people, with the couple being Adult Bullies.

It is about Adult Bullies expressing how special they believe they are and that others have to go out of their way to ‘take down” and evict them.

  • Adult Bullies fantasize about me, Stella Reddy, killing herself and about winning. His comments in documents and even in searches on my own site about “go use some rope” show this. His resentment is showing.
  • Adult Bullies always feel he is superior to everyone and his written content shows that. Grandiose thinking!
  • Adult Bullies is also looking for praise for being such a good person for “exposing” so many people. 
  • Adult Bullies has shown his sense of entitlement all throughout their content with the expectations of free parking and that we demand a paying tenant give up a parking spot for them. There are way too many instances to name!
  • Adult Bullies took advantage of other tenants living within the building in his attempts to get to me. It is also shown in their content when they speak of other tenants. Triangulation!
  • Adult Bullies expresses his envy in terms of BBQs, and parking, especially that I had 2 spots, and his interpretations of how I was with other tenants, such as #402. Such jealousy!
  • Adult Bullies show this trait of wanting to be the centre of attention just by the simple fact of posting so many domains with content within them. He wants to be noticed!
  • Adult Bullies do not have empathy towards anyone experiencing mental health issues and his degradation over this is all within the content, especially when he called Stella Reddy “fake”.
  • Adult Bullies have ambition only so far as he has to be seen as special, with a special family! More Grandiose thinking!
  • Adult Bullies is determined to smear me and others online, out of revenge!

I do believe that Adult Bullies is insecure as he is striving to get attention. It is like the need for attention, good or bad, is what he needs to feel good about himself. He feels superior in his actions online, as in person and in life, he is nothing. He has to try and be seen as altruistic and that he is doing a good thing by “exposing” others for the perceived transgressions they claim they did and exposing “racist” people to the general public.

Charming, I never saw any of these traits but I have heard he could be from others. He is extremely competitive as he feels the need to “win” and have people labelled as he wants. He also has no trouble taking stuff I write to use on his sites, but when I disprove his lies, he ignores it. Adult Bullies got my site removed from Awardspace for PII, but since I got it back online and put the other site back up, he has ignored it. Of course, he has, as I showed him up! 

Adult Bullies definitely hold a grudge! All people named within these sites, and in the titles of the sites, all took part in evicting them! It’s been over 6 years yrs and he is STILL going!! 

No, Adult Bullies don’t like being criticized, especially when it is deserved. Even total strangers on Facebook got it from this Bully for criticizing the poll he created and calling it strange. As for perfectionism, I don’t know.

Adult Bullies could be depressed, but I don’t think he would ever admit it! His many domains are not getting the attention he wished they would and Stella Reddy has left Ontario and is no longer within any influence. He lost his legal applications, all of them, and had to pay a lot of money to various people. I know they didn’t pay the owners the $4000.00 they owe, but it’s okay as it is now on their credit rating! 

Yes, I believe Adult Bullies has trouble regulating his emotions as he goes off on tangents and you can see his resentment in his words.

What is there to be jealous of, really? Possessions do not make the man. A job does not make the man. It is his ACTIONS that make the man. It is his MORALS that make the man. I see no actions, no show of integrity or morality, from these Bullies. All I see is an attack on others, criticizing everything they do that these Bullies don’t agree with, in a personally titled domain of their victim to make it more personal. The use of the personal names of people and their businesses is a deliberate choice Bullies make to ensure the Smear is more humiliating for their Victims.

Toxic Adult Bullies feel a lot of contempt for a lot of people, not just the people he bashes online! You can see this in his content. He will degrade anyone who gets in his way of what he wants. They show their lack of respect for Authority and will get in the face of anyone who disagrees with them. I saw this in action for myself in all legal hearings and in the building and it is now online on other websites they made.

Let me explain that you may be a Caucasian male, an adult, and in a position of what you think is authority. But that means nothing to Allison and me, and it means nothing to Eexii.

We can continue playing this racist game all day if you want in your attempts to retaliate against us for calling out your racist vice-principal Mrs. Ravazzolo, who is now saying that Eexii is a liar.

You can continue to refuse to respond to our request for written clarification of these past and current events. But we will get them in the end, believe it or not. And at that point, there will be questions that will need to be answered from your end.

Do not email me telling me about your black friends, or your black family members, or how you love “Soul Food” because your words mean nothing as your actions clearly speak loud enough for all to see what is in your heart.

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As these Bullies clearly state, if you attack them, they will attack you back. It seems they will retaliate against anyone they “perceive” is attacking them too! it is mentalities like this, which is why Bullying still continues. When will someone be strong enough to break the cycle? Are these Adult Bullies mature and strong enough to break the cycle of thinking everyone who has issues with them, is because they are racist? I don’t think so as they like the “victim” mentality too much.

A person on Facebook felt his wrath for daring to say something about this Adult Bullies poll on Facebook. There was no need to do that as they shouldn’t have posted there in the first place. Cherie While liked my blog and these Bullies spent 3 pages tearing her down online for it. This person had nothing to do with any of that situation, she taught me a lot about Bullies which is why they got at her. A Vet made decisions about his business that he is comfortable with, it is his business after all, and he is being terrorized for that.

What gave these Adults the right to do any of that? Do they have Authority over these people that they can criticize what they do?

There was no need to make their allegations of racism and discrimination against other people, so public on the internet. By doing so, they ruin any possibility of legal actions for themselves as posting domains could cause any applications to backfire. They walked away from the HRTO applications they filed on me, and totally ignore the hearing set after 19 months, all because they were afraid it would backfire on them and they would be held accountable for their own actions. They know posting websites like they do, is wrong, which is why it is all Anonymous! But, as you see from their new domains, some I share above, he has no problem naming his own child and wife, but of course, his name still is not mentioned. He will expose others, but not himself.

I have many actions done by these Toxic Adult Bullies after me online that show the list of traits above but I am sure you get the picture now of the toxic behaviours I was subjected to by Tenants who Bullied me in ON and how they make up a whole fantasy to make me out to be a person they want you to see. Over time though, people come to accept me as I am, not the person they try to force you to accept I am.

In the end, the real Stella Reddy shines through and that is all everyone sees these days. They see the true me, not the fantasies as written on stellareddy.com and other sites. I came to realize that strangers writing about someone else they truly do not know, is never accepted by the general public. It is seen as I see it, pure gossip and rumours and should be ignored!

Don’t accept the perceptions of Toxic Bullies, they have no power, and no influence over others and those you associate with. Toxic Adult Bullies can’t stop anyone from living their own lives their own way. They might try to interfere, but they don’t get very far. In time, everything fades away into history!